Thank you for your update.    If it makes you fell better,,,, every family
has someone like your brother.  IMO,,,, they are having a hard time dealing
with what has taken place.   This rant he did is a way for him to deal with
it,,, to sort it out.    You and your sister did a very good job of dealing
with it.   Believe me when I say that some families have a permanent break
up with such as this.
    I am worried about the stress of all this and your condition,,,, your
well being.   I do not have any meaningful words to help you to get past
this other than to say,,,, it is a time to forgive people in your family
that do not handle this passing to well.   In many cases it brings families
together better than ever before.
   Just remember that all proceedings of the funeral are for those left
behind.
Harv

Sending Good Thoughts for those left behind,
{{{{Diane & Family}}}}

GramPaHugs,
Alex,

I have had you and your family in my prayers, Diane. I'm glad that your
Mom went peacefully.  I will continue to pray for all of you.  Your
brother's behavior is often the behavior of someone who does not want to
accept what has passed. My sister was the same way when our Mom passed.
I will say a special prayer for your brother.

I think putting your eulogy in the Mass booklet would be lovely. I put a
little piece on the back page and a poem on the inside back cover to my
Mom.  This is the poem I used. Perhaps it will give your family the
comfort it gave me.

God saw you were getting tired,
And a cure was not to be,
So He put his arms around you,
And whispered, "Come to me".

With tearful eyes I watched you,
And saw you pass away,
And though I loved you dearly,
I could not make you stay.

A golden heart stopped beating,
Hard working hands were brought to rest.
God broke my heart to prove to me,
He only takes the best.

Carole

Diane, so happy that she passed peacefully as she wanted to do.  But the
grief is still there, I know.  Just try to remember all the good, happy
times, and let it overtake the sorrow.
Gwen

{{{{{Diane and family}}}}}

DeeTee and Bob

  Sincere condolences to you and yours on your loss. Please take good care
of Diane W. at this time.

Hugs from Rosie

I am sorry to hear about your loss. It is difficult no matter how
prepared we are to let our loved ones go.

Take care of yourself during this stressful time.

    Rose   @}>->--
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(((((((Diane)))))))

You and your family will be in my thoughts.

debbie m.

Sorry to hear about your Mom thankfully she had a peaceful passing. --
MZ

(((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))) my sincere condolences to
you and your family in your loss.  you and your family are in my thoughts.

your brother is in a state of shock and is trying to cope with it and the
loss in the only way he is able to right now.  even though we might expect
these kinds of things, when the reality occurs, it still affects us in
profoundly unpredictable ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.  it's a
difficult time, no doubt.  for some, anger offers a necessary sense of
strength and power, when in a powerless situation.

take good care of yourself, sweetie.

lovingly,
kate

I know I should have posted sooner but as you can imagine, it's been a
stressful not to mention hectic time. I wanted to let you all know that
Mom passed away peacefully on Saturday. As most of you knew, she had
been recently hospitalized with sepsis and went into complete kidney
failure in a matter of days. She remained critical for most of the
week. We had her transferred back to the nursing home on Saturday
afternoon where she died in her sleep three hours later. My sister and
I were with here at the time, cleaning out her drawers and joking with
her even though she was unconscious. We had just found her stash of
chocolate and bingo quarters that she kept hidden and were teasing her
about that. We had both just been laughing about Mom hiding them.  We
looked over at her and she was  gone. Just like that. I am very glad
that at the actual moment of her passing, it was so gentle. She had a
few rough days prior to that in the hospital which was why we had
waited to have her transfered. Her doctor was wonderful with keeping
her comfortable. We think she was waiting to be home. She had lived
there for two years and both her regular nurses were there with her and
she was unconnected to any machines except oxygen. It was how she
wanted it to be.  She always said she wanted to go in her sleep. And
she got her wish.

My sister was with me until yesterday.  We made the funeral
arrangements and did all that stuff that has to be done together. It
was nice to have her with me for that. My brother on the other hand
went balistic afterwards and was very hateful, screaming and yelling
about things that had nothing to do with her passing.  He wanted to
have her funeral on Tuesday and that was just unrealistic considering
that we couldn't even get the cremains back by then and the majority of
the family lives out of town. That set him off and it was downhill from
there. It's not the first time he's done something like this but its
still very diffucult to deal with none the less. He kept it together in
the hospital so at least he was supportive then.

The services aren't going to be until Feb 10th to give the out of town
family time to get here. The Catholic Diocese here in Orlando has a new
rule that you can no longer have a eulogy at the church so it will only
be a mass and we are working on an alternative for the eulogy. We are
not having a viewing so that's not an option for the eulogy either.  I
was thinking of a written eulogy to be put into the Mass brochure that
we hand out at the church. Any ideas?

Thanks for all the surpport you have given me here. And all the prayers
for Mom throughout her illnesses.  It has meant a lot to me knowing
that I have the ASA angels behind me.

Cyberhugs.....Diane

Sincere condolences to you and your family.  You remain in my prayers.

Bonnie

{{{{{{{{{{Diane and Family}}}}}}}}}}

Wishing you all the love and comfort you need and want.

Adelle

Dear Diane,
   I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I too, am going thru the same thing, most likely very soon. My mom's
lymphoma is back after 4 years, with a vengeance. It's attacked her groin
lymph nodes this time, (as opposed to her first growth under one arm.)
The nodes are so full of fluid, (cancer), that they are pressing on her
kidneys, shutting them down.
The double edged sword.......when they inject the chemo this Tuesday, they
can't know ahead of time, if it will work so well that it dumps the fluid
out in a large amount, which will overload her kidneys, big time, according
to her oncologist. If so, we will lose her. If it works slowly, then she has
to suffer the ravages of another round of chemo. What do you do? <sigh>

I too, have my sister here, no brothers though. :/
My mom wasn't going to have chemo, she's tired and sore and if this hadn't
occured, (the major swelling in her belly and legs), she wanted to go
peacefully in her sleep, also.
I do believe God listens to what we really want at the end, and hopefully
she will go as wonderfully peaceful as your Mom did. Thanks for sharing
that, I've been, not so much in denial, but having a REALLY hard time with
knowing that by this time next week, I may not have my Mom around, anymore.
Though for her sake, I pray it happens.

Love and *sincere* empathy,
MaryBeth <MIA for 2 years, til I got my new laptop for Christmas>

(((((((((((Diane & family))))))))))))

i'm glad her passing was peaceful though and you were able to be with her.

DiW, I am so sorry for your loss.  She went peacefully, and that's a
blessing.  Hold on to your fond memories.  Share them.  Be joyful that
you had such a loving Mom.  I'm sorry this is coming a bit late.  I
haven't been here in a week.  But, know I am thinking of you and your
family.

Sincere condolences to you and your family.Glad she had a peaceful
passing.
prayers are still with you.Take care.Carol

Diane,

Sorry to hear of your mom's passing.  It was so wonderful of you to
arrange for her to be where she wanted to be during her final hours.
Your brother's behavior was certainly not called for and made a
stressful time even more stressful for the entire family. I had similar
problems within my family at the time my brother's wife's passing.
Thoughts and prayers with you and your family at this time of grief.

Don Whitely