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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Arthritis / February 2006Protocol Question
Whne someone passes away, is it considered appropriate to let their doctors know? I know that the primary doctor will know, but in this day of specialists, their can be quite a few that have treated the person over time and have come to know them thru the years. Do you send a note or make a phone call or simply nothing? Ideas? Thanks -- DianeW Diane, if you feel the doctors were good and tried very hard to help her, I think a short note to doctors' personal attention would be nice. Just my opinion. Gwen > Whne someone passes away, is it considered appropriate to let their > doctors know? I know that the primary doctor will know, but in this > day of specialists, their can be quite a few that have treated the > person over time and have come to know them thru the years. Do you send > a note or make a phone call or simply nothing? Ideas? Thanks -- DianeW Diane, First of all, my condolences on your loss. As to doctors, I called all my husband's doctors, especially the ones he was currently seeing. In your mother's case, I would check for any appointments that may be coming up and make sure that those doctors know. Otherwise, I think a note would be sufficient as they will have to close out their records, too. Loujean >Whne someone passes away, is it considered appropriate to let their >doctors know? I know that the primary doctor will know, but in this >day of specialists, their can be quite a few that have treated the >person over time and have come to know them thru the years. Do you send >a note or make a phone call or simply nothing? Ideas? Thanks -- DianeW > Whne someone passes away, is it considered appropriate to let their > doctors know? I know that the primary doctor will know, but in this > day of specialists, their can be quite a few that have treated the > person over time and have come to know them thru the years. Do you send > a note or make a phone call or simply nothing? Ideas? Thanks -- DianeW If there will be an obituary in the local newspaper, usually that is notice enough to any businesses that should know. When my Dad died, I made up brief notice cards that included the last nice photo of Dad and Mom together and sent copies to pretty much everyone in Mom's address book. Not only were they appreciated, its been ten years and I'm still in contact with some friends and relatives I would have lost touch with otherwise. Jo If there will be an obituary in the local newspaper, usually that is notice enough to any businesses that should know. That is of course if the proprietor of the business read the paper... Not everyone does. Yanosz Descouedresz > If there will be an obituary in the local newspaper, usually that is > notice [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Yanosz Descouedresz Usually in a personal service business such as specialty medicine, someone in the office will be assigned to duty of reading through personal and legal notice type things and providing everyone else with a summary of those that may apply. If they don't think of it when they first open the business, they will the first time someone inquires about the well being of someone who is deceased. Doctors, lawyers, accountants etc are very embarrassed by such gaffe's and try very hard to avoid them. I've been retired for two years but still maintain a database of my former clients that includes birth, marriage, and death dates. If I need the information on date of death for a surviving spouses return I'll be darned if I'm going to have to call and ask them for it. Jo Diane,When my mom passed away,she was transported to a hospitol 75 miles away.Her primary care Dr. ofcourse knew about it as he made the arrangement.She had been her Dr. for many years,and had sent me a sympathy card.I bought a nice card and thanked him for all the wonderful care he provided her throughout all the years.also how she adored him.Some people will put Thank you's in their local newspaper.I didn't however send anything to all her specialists. Carol Diane, First of all, my most sincere condolences to you on the loss of your mother!!! Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!!! I know when my brother died just recently and also when my grandparents passed away, we did notify all of their doctors and care takers just as a courtesy. They all seemed happy to be notified and it takes the guessing game out of it for them. Sometimes the doctors don't find out and then wonder what happened to their patients. If you are up to it, I think it would be very kind of you to notify your mothers doctors with a brief note or something, especially since they worked so hard over the last few years with/for your mom! Donna G Thanks Donna and everyone else who has replied. I think I will drop a note to the specialists that have cared for Mom. In particular because our local paper only puts a 3 line obit in the paper one day. More than that is all a paid obit that they charge a lot for. The obit that they run doesn't really give more info than the person's name and the name of the funeral home. It is easy to miss. Mom's doctors were really wonderful especially considering how often she was in the hospital. And most of them are my doctors as well. I would hate that uncomfortable moment when I go for my 6 month check up and they didn't know. Most of them were caring for her this time since she was in ICU for a week before she passed and it was expected. But I would feel better closure if I dropped them a note. I just didn't want to do the wrong thing. Thanks. DianeW Diane, I have been away for a week and didn't see the emails. I do hope her death was comfortable - I know that was one of your concerns that she not be in pain. I agree with sending the note. When my dad died very suddenly (he was 56) there was an obituary in the paper for 2 days. On the day of his funeral we got a phone call from his physiotherapists office saying he had missed his morning appointment and needed to rebook. I explained that my father had died. She replied how sorry she was but could she please rebook the appointment. Again I said Bob Lee died three days ago. She left the conversation by saying "I am so sorry he died. Please get him to phone at his earliest possible convenience to rebook. It is quite important." After we had a great laugh (and at that point we needed it), we realized we probably had no clue what other appointments he had that we would miss. Luckily that was the last phone call mom or I got. Hang in there Diane. Have been thinking of you while I was gone wondering how she was and how you were. Hopefully your flare subsided a little to get you through this. Kelly > Thanks Donna and everyone else who has replied. I think I will drop a > note to the specialists that have cared for Mom. In particular because [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > if I dropped them a note. I just didn't want to do the wrong thing. > Thanks. DianeW I posted under "About my Mom" on Jan 28th if you want to read about it. She passed very comfortably. Thank you. Last nite I sent out a card to her doctors, kinda like an announcement type thing that I printed on the computer and used each doctors name individually. I also sent a hand written note to the doctors that were actually caring for her at the tije of her death. I'm trying to get ready for the insurge of family next week. We are having her Memorial Mass next Friday and I'll have about 10 family members staying with me and the rest in hotels. Lots of little ones. Last week I was in a fog but I'm doing better now. The flare seems to have subsided. Now if I could get the back to heal.......Cyberhugs..DianeW Thanks - I found the post. Sounds like the way I would like to go (especially the part about the chocolate in the drawer. Good woman!). So sorry to hear about your brother. There is always a fly in the ointment my grandmother would say. If I were nearer instead of half a continent away I would help you get ready for the relatives! Wow! Glad that flare has subsided as you will need the strength. Try to delegate lifting and especially vacuuming with that back. Will be sending good thoughts your way all week. Please take care Diane. Hugs (very gentle ones), Kelly in British Columbia, Canada. >I posted under "About my Mom" on Jan 28th if you want to read about it. > She passed very comfortably. Thank you. Last nite I sent out a card to [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > The flare seems to have subsided. Now if I could get the back to > heal.......Cyberhugs..DianeW Thanks Kelly - I have a housekeeper that cleans for me and I have her coming a second time next week for a few hours to change the bed linens for me and to clean the bathrooms etc. You wouldn't think 2 people could mess up a house that much but we manage too; Plus my son will be in this weekend and that will mean his bed needs changing again. The only problem is that she doesn't really speak much English and it's hard to communicate with her when I have to tell her different than the usual things. I might have her clean out the fridge too! She's really very good. She got tired of not cleaning the part of the kitchen counter where I stack the mail. After 3 weeks in the hospital it was really out of control and I found her sorting it for me....Interestingly enough - she had done it quite like I would - bills, catalogues and junk mail! I was so surprised! DianeW > I posted under "About my Mom" on Jan 28th if you want to read about it. > She passed very comfortably. Thank you. Last nite I sent out a card to [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > The flare seems to have subsided. Now if I could get the back to > heal.......Cyberhugs..DianeW (((((((((((Diane)))))))))))) healing prayers and thoughts on all fronts.  SignatureNann remove the Gator cheer to email me Simply the thing I am shall make me live --- William Shakespeare |
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