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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Arthritis / May 2005OTP: Prayer Machine
My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called mild when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on Friday morning at 8AM, If you could throw a lot of good thoughts her way I would appreciate it. She is nervous over this one. She is never nervous over these things which worries me and obviously is worrying her. And then her stupid sister called her Sunday and proceeded to tell her all the awful things she has ever heard about anyone undergoing heart surgery. What a lovely help. And then Lucille, my mother's best friend, died the same afternoon. This is one hard week. I can't go to be with her as I have barely enough energy to exist right now. I am tired of being the strong one. very tired..... Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers. And if you could spare a few for me I would appreciate it. Duckie  Signature_('> (_<_) _ _('< -quack (_<_) _ __('< *QUACK!* <_{__) _('< "|,,|_" (_<_) _('< "AFLAC!" (_<_) absolutely, sweetie. you are both in my prayers. (((((((duckie and frances))))))) you already were, hon, but i just added your mom. (((((((((((extra hugs))))))))))) cuz i know what "always having to be the strong one" feels like. and i'm sure, a lot of us do. my neice told me something, shortly after butch passed away and i was still trying to do stuff (even with double pneumonia), that never occurred to me. she said, "you don't always have to be the strong one." of course, my brain started churning and talking to the committee inside my head, "but, who else is gonna be?" my neice must have seen my brain's cogwheels spinning, cuz then she said, "you just need to let other people know when you need somebody else to step in for you." it never occurred to me to "let somebody else know", to ask anybody else to be strong for me, when i felt too tired to be. so, sweetie, just tell your dh you aren't feeling very strong and allow him to give you a supportive hug. then, just allow somebody else in the family to handle whatever you normally would, in this instance, and release the need to feel like you "should be the one". "allow and release", sweetie. wish i had learned that years ago. (not an easy one for me to learn, either. think i kinda burnt most of myself out, and now, it's taking time for me to undo that.) right or wrong---i've come to the conclusion, just these past couple of years, that sometimes "being the strong one all the time" kind of inadvertantly robs others of their chance to shine, by their being allowed to rise to the needs of the moment, giving it their best. their best is always different from the way i might do things, but it's generally the best they have to give. and in a way, it's a gift, in more ways than one, to see. kate > My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called mild > when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on Friday [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > for me I would appreciate it. > Duckie Well, that was what I thought I was doing when I told my aunt to call my mother. lol Sometimes, the only one I can count on is me. At least if I mess up, I can yell at me. I really want to thwack my aunt but guessing it is best that I say nothing. Hope she doesn't call the house till all the anger is gone. :} Duckie > absolutely, sweetie. you are both in my prayers. (((((((duckie and > frances))))))) you already were, hon, but i just added your mom. [quoted text clipped - 46 lines] >>for me I would appreciate it. >>Duckie Signature_('> (_<_) _ _('< -quack (_<_) _ __('< *QUACK!* <_{__) _('< "|,,|_" (_<_) _('< "AFLAC!" (_<_) > Well, that was what I thought I was doing when I told my aunt to call my > mother. lol Sometimes, the only one I can count on is me. At least if I > mess up, I can yell at me. I really want to thwack my aunt but guessing it > is best that I say nothing. Hope she doesn't call the house till all the > anger is gone. :} > Duckie ((((((((((((((duckie)))))))))))))))) yup, that's the tough part---the wanting to whomp the somebody upside the head who isn't doing what we want or need them to do, when and how we want them to. and i do know what you mean about feeling like you are the only one you can count on. much less important example---you should see my front and two side lawns.LOL north sideyard out front is hip high---there's one mowed strip about 20 feet long and one lawn tractor path wide, and one 4'x4' area that's been weed whacked---out of about a half acre of lawns.LOL---it's raindrops, or being out of weed eater cord or being out of "the right" gas or friends dropping by or errands to run without picking up gas (which would be in 5 gallon cans i can't lift when full, but i did have the cord. somehow that kind of cord just doesn't bite somebody on the butt hard enough, when it isn't looked for on the shed shelf.LOL) or phone calls, or "i forgot", or, or, or . . . and of course, he does have a full time job, so i feel i do have to cut him some slack. --- bet i've popped about 4 or 5 balloons with faces, so far.LOL guess i've got to buy half dozen one and two gallon gas cans that i can fill and lift.LOL truth is, i think he procrastinates so long that he winds up overwhelmed. if i had my good spine, the front yards would be done in two hours. hang in there, sweetie. here's hoping your aunt comes through for you! kate >> absolutely, sweetie. you are both in my prayers. (((((((duckie and >> frances))))))) you already were, hon, but i just added your mom. [quoted text clipped - 47 lines] >>>few for me I would appreciate it. >>>Duckie Prayers today for Frances to have a very successful outcome to surgery. Ann I am still patiently waiting to hear but I am assuming that things are fine or I definitely would have heard something. :) Duckie > Prayers today for Frances to have a very successful outcome to surgery. > > Ann Signature_('> (_<_) _ _('< -quack (_<_) _ __('< *QUACK!* <_{__) _('< "|,,|_" (_<_) _('< "AFLAC!" (_<_) {{{{{Duckie}}}}}... Sending prayers for you and Frances. Hang in there, kiddo! -- Hugs, Patty Hoping your hills are never too steep. {{{{{{{{{{Duckie & Frances}}}}}}}}}} You both will be in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you healing strength, Duckie. Take care. Bonnie ((((Caroline and Frances)))) You definitely are in my thoughts and prayers and so is your mom. You are both such awesome, strong women and are such an inspiration to me. Be sure and tell her that I will be thinking of her and that I know she will come through this challenge with flying colors. I hate always being the strong one, too. Is it a gimp thing or a mom thing? It doesn't matter, does it?lol It's a personality thing! Hugs, Kelly C. > My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called > mild when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > few for me I would appreciate it. > Duckie Prayers for you and your Mom on their way, Duckie. Tell her to have faith in her doctor. My cardiologist is wonderful and I'm sure hers is too. She will be fine. They have to tell you all the possibilities, even when I had my heart cath I was told I could die, have a stroke, etc. etc. It made me nervous too, but I also knew that my doctor was an excellent doctor and I kept that on my mind rather than the negative. And you take care of YOU, Duckie. I know what it's like having to always be the strong one as that was my position in my family. And you do get tired. So be good to yourself. Hugs, Carole Hugs and prayers for a completely successfull surgery and recovery. >, If >you could throw a lot of good thoughts her way I would >appreciate it. She is nervous over this one. She is >never nervous over these things which worries me and >obviously is worrying her Thoughts and prayers headed her way. -- MZ Visit my website: http://www.mzuschlag.com You bet. Prayers on the way - for both of you. Adelle > My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called mild > when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on Friday [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > for me I would appreciate it. > Duckie Duckie, Prayers for you both...I know how scarey it is when it is your parents... Hugs Cindy > My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called mild > when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on Friday [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > for me I would appreciate it. > Duckie > My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called mild > when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on Friday [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > for me I would appreciate it. > Duckie Hi Duckie,,,,,, I hate to sound like the sister but that would be enough to send me into a flare. I would have to ask the sister why she did that? Why? Even if I had to write her a letter. People need to be told when they are being cruel in my world. Just read and push the buttons of my post today and laugh at other peoples cruelty and ignorance. I have said a prayer for your mother and her doctors and nurses. I am sorry to also say that you need to continue to be the strong one because they need you to be there for them. I will not have one of my favorite people walking around with a bunch of guilt about things that you can not control. Just do the best you can and leave the rest of it in God's hands. If the best you can is to let someone handle it,,,,, so be it. Harv Prayers on the way for you and your mom Duckie for a successful surgery, fast recovery and the strength for you to get thru it all. Kimmy Thanks everyone for all the wonderful replies. Duckie > My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called > mild when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > few for me I would appreciate it. > Duckie Signature_('> (_<_) _ _('< -quack (_<_) _ __('< *QUACK!* <_{__) _('< "|,,|_" (_<_) _('< "AFLAC!" (_<_) Sending out best wishes and prayers to you Duckie, and your Mom, for a successful surgery and recovery. Carol L. > Thanks everyone for all the wonderful replies. > Duckie [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] >> few for me I would appreciate it. >> Duckie Sending Good Thoughts, {{{{ Frances, Caroline }}}} GramPaHugs, Alex, > My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called > mild when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > few for me I would appreciate it. > Duckie -- **************************************************** * Love radiating from 45.10n x 93.30w M/SP Mn * <a href="http://home.mn.rr.com/apbiii">AOL Click</a> * <a href="http://grampahugs.ath.cx/">AOL Click</a> **************************************************** > Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers. And if > you could spare a few for me I would appreciate it. > Duckie sending hosts of prayers for your mom, for her doctors and for you. big hugs all around.......... You are allowed to take a day off once in a while. Everyone knows you want to be there for your family through everything but you can't do it unless you take care of yourself as well. SignatureNann remove the Gator cheer to email me Simply the thing I am shall make me live --- William Shakespeare On or about 5/16/2005 7:33 PM, Duckie posted the following: > My mother, Frances is having mild heart surgery [how it can be called > mild when there is a chance of dying on the table, but I digress] on > Friday morning at 8AM, If you could throw a lot of good thoughts her way > I would appreciate it. [snip] > Duckie Will do, for both of you. JDShine |
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