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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Arthritis / September 2004RE: DianeW
Diane called and talked with Nick while I was at my parents. She wanted to let everyone know that she is fine--her computer is down, doesn't know what is wrong, but will be back as soon as she can. She is a bit worried about what has happened with the computer, though. Like most of us, she has tons of important things loaded and can't be sure if they are safe now. She said it looks like hurricane Jeanne will miss them, thank God! Please keep Diane in your thoughts/prayers not only for the hurricane, but that she can get her computer up and running without loss of her data--pictures, etc. I know how it feels to lose these things in a computer crash! I'm so hoping she had a back up of everything.... Peace, donnah Thanks so much for the update on Diane W. Hope she can rejoin us here at ASA soon!!! Now, how about an update on YOU, Donnah???!!! How are you feeling these days? How are things with your dad coming along? How is Nick? Update please!!! Donna G thank you for asking, Donna... Hospice is doing a good job in keeping him comfortable, although he more often than not will not take the pain shots...he takes the pills or suppositories as he claims he is more alert that way. His nurses fuss at him about not wanting to use the bedpan and insisting on using the bathroom--but I understand where he is coming from on this...he is a proud and dignified man who will wait until he absolutely cannot get up to use the bathroom. I have had to bow out of so much of it for his sake. He has to retain some sense of control over what is happening to him. He is still in the decline/rally stage and that will go on for awhile. My Mother had pneumonia so I have been taking care of her for the last couple of weeks. She refused to be hospitalized--afraid of being away from my Dad. So the ER doc pumped her full of ABX, respiratory treatment, and gave me full instructions how what she needed, etc.. She is one tough patient!! She is over the pneumonia, but is still very weak. She is done with her respiratory treatments and I am so glad as that stuff was making her very irritable (gosh, that sounds cruel to say, but it is the truth) Nick's stress test went fairly well, but won't know the full results until tomorrow or Tuesday. The cardiologist did not like the way his blood pressure was during some of the testing. He said he may have some blockages, but probably only 20%-50% and easily treated. The doc has to evaluate his x-rays more ... Gee, I'm just fine <g> No stress in my life at all...lol Now for the truth...I hurt like heck from getting in and out of my little car so many times a day--ever have the feeling that you meet yourself coming when you are going? Or did I word that right? But I am "off" today as my SIL went to the house...so I took a pain pill and vacuumed, dusted, mopped the kitchen floor, scrubbed the bathroom, and did three loads of laundry (I'm so proud of myself :) and I will take another pain pill after I get home from getting something to eat. This evening I am relaxing and reading a new book--YES! LOL... Aren't ya sorry you asked? <bg> but things will get better...me, my sister, and sil are going to line up what we can do then be firm with my parents about getting "house" help. Dad is all for it, but Mum is a stickler about anyone cleaning her house or fixing meals because they don't do it her way...she just does not want to give up trying to do these things, but does want me to do as much as I can. Her rationale is that I am not working and my sister is and my sil baby-sits her grandkids--so I have the time to do it for them. Darn, I am not the world's strongest woman anymore...lol...so I will have to be honest with her. Ouch! <s> She may be happier about it if I offer to "train" someone in doing it her way... OK, the book is over <s> It seems like half of ASA is going through some rough times, doesn't it? donnah > Thanks so much for the update on Diane W. Hope she can rejoin us here > at ASA soon!!! [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Donna G > vacuumed, dusted, mopped the kitchen floor, scrubbed the >bathroom, and did three loads of laundry {{{{{Donna}}}}}, YIKES! This is your day off?!?! Awww, I'm so sorry for all that's going on in your life. It's often worse on us when our family's sick, rather than ourselves. We give, give, give until we drop. It's so hard not to do, but, so not good for us. I wish there was a way you could get a few days rest at least. I hope you're able to talk your mom into getting some outside help. Maybe, she needs to know what a tough time you're having? Maybe, she'd like to mother you a bit...some emotional support, some hugs and some realization that you canNOT do it all. Might make her feel good...knowing you still need her, too. Glad to hear she's on the mend from the pneumonia. It takes a lot out of a person. Sorry to hear your dad's doing so poorly. He sounds like a wonderful, strong, loving man. I pray that his pain is low and he can remain semi-independent for awhile more. Let us know what's up with Nick's test results, too. Sheesh! Could you have any more on your plate? Sending tons of prayers directly to you for peace, less stress, lower pain levels and a nice rest. Try to take care of my friend Donna, okay? : ) Love, Patty thank you, Patty... unfortunately, my Mum is at that stage where she is a strong-willed child and I am the parent <s> but things will ease when we get the outside help... I have to let go of the guilt (and I thought I was over that!<g>) and take care of myself too. But I think a few days of real rest would do me a world of Good! thanks for caring, Patty! donnah > > vacuumed, dusted, mopped the kitchen floor, scrubbed the > >bathroom, and did three loads of laundry [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] : ) > Love, Patty {{{{{Donna}}}}} Next time you take a day off, really take a day off. Take it easy. Sounds like you need a break. Sarah L "Friends are those people who know the words to the song in your heart and sing them back to you when you have forgotten the words." (unattributed) thanks, Sarah... we are visiting our grandsons on Thursday so that will be a real rest. it's a great ride as far as scenery, then the joy of snuggling them <s> donnah > {{{{{Donna}}}}} Next time you take a day off, really take a day off. Take it > easy. Sounds like you need a break. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > "Friends are those people who know the words to the song in your heart and sing > them back to you when you have forgotten the words." (unattributed) Donnah-Well, that certainly explains where you have been keeping yourself. You have a lot on your plate at the moment. Prayers for the strength to do what you must, are headed your way. But please try to give yourself a break. You DO have your limits, and perhaps you need to make your Mom aware that you do. If you ever just need a sympathetic ear, you know my number. Char "Remember, I'm pulling for ya'. We're all in this together." Red Green thank you, Char... I really appreciate your concern. As I mentioned in my reply to Patty, it's hard to get through to Mum that I do have limitations. She has seen my Dad continue to do so much despite his RA that she feels that I can do the same. I do not want to make her sound mean or selfish...her age, worry, etc. all add to her confusion/demands. So I want to tread lightly and with respect for her and for myself. One day at a time, I guess! <s> donnah > Donnah-Well, that certainly explains where you have been keeping yourself. > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > "Remember, I'm pulling for ya'. We're all in this together." Red Green > thank you, Char... > I really appreciate your concern. As I mentioned in my reply to Patty, [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > One day at a time, I guess! <s> > donnah Well said Donnah,,,, well done with understanding. Harv thank you, Harv... donnah > > thank you, Char... > > I really appreciate your concern. As I mentioned in my reply to Patty, [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > Well said Donnah,,,, well done with understanding. > Harv bless you and your family, sweetness. you sure do have a turkey platter full! it's an overwhelming load. (((((((((((((((((((donnah))))))))))))))))))) wish there was something i could do to help you. y'know, that might be your mom's outward rationale, kid, but i think, deep down, it's really because she trusts and has faith in you. it is such a vulnerable time, for all of you. glad you'll be getting outside help, so that you can get some rest, donna. and i hope you really did rest and read that book! take good care of you, hon. my prayers continue for all of you. kate > thank you for asking, Donna... > Hospice is doing a good job in keeping him comfortable, although he [quoted text clipped - 62 lines] >> >> Donna G thanks, Kate... and I did get half the book read <g> then Thursday, we are going to see the grandsons--YES! what a happy thing to look forward to doing <s> And I think you are right about her trust in me, but she is frightened about losing my "dependability" as she has always turned to me for so many things. The hospice nurses have been making very nice suggestions to her about "house-help" being needed, not just for her but for the rest of us. Time will tell, I guess, if she goes along with it willingly or not...but she will have to do some adjusting because I just can't keep up this pace (rats! I feel like a wimp). donnah > bless you and your family, sweetness. you sure do have a turkey platter > full! it's an overwhelming load. [quoted text clipped - 79 lines] > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.769 / Virus Database: 516 - Release Date: 9/24/2004 > thanks, Kate... > and I did get half the book read <g> [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > up this pace (rats! I feel like a wimp). > donnah half a book is goooood. YAAAAAY! i'm positive that grandbabies are nature's emotional and physical battery rechargers!<smile> y'know, those hospice nurses might just be able to get through to her, by making it about the welfare of the rest of you. i'm glad they're on your side, sweetie. you are ssss0000oooooo t0tally NO whimp! i know i couldn't handle your turkey platterfull and still find a way to squeeze taking care of me in there, too. you're doing good, kid. balance is important and you're doing that. i'm proud of you for the way you are handling such a delicate and difficult situation. ((((((((((((((((donna))))))))))) kate >> bless you and your family, sweetness. you sure do have a turkey > platter [quoted text clipped - 116 lines] >> Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). >> Version: 6.0.769 / Virus Database: 516 - Release Date: 9/24/2004 (((Kate))) thanks donnah > > thanks, Kate... > > and I did get half the book read <g> [quoted text clipped - 147 lines] > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.769 / Virus Database: 516 - Release Date: 9/24/2004 >I feel like a wimp). The word is GIMP, dear. lol And we all are.lol Char "Remember, I'm pulling for ya'. We're all in this together." Red Green you know, Char...that really struck home with me for some reason. I guess I was thinking more along the lines of being a wimp instead of a gimp with some limitations...that I should just ignore my body and mind signals that I am getting overloaded. Thanks! <s> donnah > >I feel like a wimp). > > The word is GIMP, dear. lol And we all are.lol > Char > > "Remember, I'm pulling for ya'. We're all in this together." Red Green >you know, Char...that really struck home with me for some reason. Glad it made you think hon. It really is that simple,. you know. >that I should just ignore my body and >mind signals that I am getting overloaded. Dont you dare ignore your bodies signals. You have done that before and gotten in major trouble. I dont want that to happen to you again. And enjoy the trip to see the grandbabies! Char "Remember, I'm pulling for ya'. We're all in this together." Red Green Donnah, I am so sorry to hear your plate has been so full. I have been wondering about you and how you were doing. I guess I have missed connections with you here on the group. But glad to finally have word from you. I hope things start to get better for you and your parents situation. I hope they will let someone else come in and help out. YOu take care of you ok.  SignatureLove and hugs to all Good thoughts coming your way too. Squirrely Jo > thank you for asking, Donna... > Hospice is doing a good job in keeping him comfortable, although he [quoted text clipped - 62 lines] > > > > Donna G thanks, Jo... and how are you? donnah > Donnah, > [quoted text clipped - 76 lines] > > > > > > Donna G To be honest, Donnah, not quite sure. I am on antib's since Fri. Now I am coughing water. One of my friends said it could be the stuff breaking up, which I hope is true. But I am finally coughing stuff up. Couldn't cough before except the asthma cough. Not sure if I recaught something or what. Jim seems to be getting bad too. So I think we got reinfected on top of what we had. Jim went today over to unemployment office to apply for a job with Home Depot. So we are still hoping. Having dehydration problems because of the stupid antib. It always does that to me and that is why I fought so long not to go on it. But we shall survive this too as we always do. ;-) SignatureLove and hugs to all Good thoughts coming your way too. Squirrely Jo > thanks, Jo... > and how are you? > donnah you and Jim remain in my prayers! donnah > To be honest, Donnah, not quite sure. > [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > > and how are you? > > donnah > you and Jim remain in my prayers! > donnah in mine, too. kate >> To be honest, Donnah, not quite sure. >> [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] >> > and how are you? >> > donnah Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. Diane W. I am sorry to have taken over your thread here, I should have answered Donnah in another thread. Forgive me. SignatureLove and hugs Jo (\__/) .~ ~. )) /O O ./ .' {O__, \ { / . . ) \ |-| '-' \ } )) Warning: squirrels. .( _( )_.' '---.~_ _ _& > you and Jim remain in my prayers! > donnah [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > > > and how are you? > > > donnah Jo, praying the Home Depot job will pan out for Jim. Gwen > To be honest, Donnah, not quite sure. > [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > > and how are you? > > donnah Crossing fingers for that Home Depot job. You guys deserve a break. Duckie > To be honest, Donnah, not quite sure. > [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > But we shall survive this too as we always do. ;-) Signature_('> (_<_) _ _('< -quack (_<_) _ __('< *QUACK!* <_{__) _('< "|,,|_" (_<_) _('< "AFLAC!" (_<_) me, too. kate > Crossing fingers for that Home Depot job. You guys deserve a break. > Duckie [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] >> >> But we shall survive this too as we always do. ;-) According to today's news, Orlando got really hurt with Jeanne. Diane lives very close to Orlando. I surely hope they came through okay. Gwen > Diane called and talked with Nick while I was at my parents. > She wanted to let everyone know that she is fine--her computer is [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > Peace, > donnah me, too, Gwen...especially since she told Nick they thought they would not get much from it! donnah > According to today's news, Orlando got really hurt with Jeanne. Diane lives > very close to Orlando. I surely hope they came through okay. [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > > Peace, > > donnah Donnah So sorry you are having it so tough. I do understand how it is with your aged parents. they can be stubborn, I know how mine were.but how I wish I still had them I will probably be as bad or worse. Do take care of Donnah, She is also important to all of us. thinking kind thoughts and prayers coming your way Janice | me, too, Gwen...especially since she told Nick they thought they would | not get much from it! [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] | > > Peace, | > > donnah (((Janice))) thank you... yeah, I will probably be a stinker, too! <g> and I do know how much I will miss them when they are gone so I try and keep that in mind... donnah > Donnah > So sorry you are having it so tough. I do understand how it is with your [quoted text clipped - 32 lines] > | > > Peace, > | > > donnah I am glad she called to let someone know what was going on. Thanks for passing the message on to us. I saw your update and glad that she made it thru the hurricane ok. Sorry to hear about her mom. Prayers are still be sent and healing thoughts, also. SignatureLove and hugs to all Good thoughts coming your way too. Squirrely Jo > Diane called and talked with Nick while I was at my parents. > She wanted to let everyone know that she is fine--her computer is [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > Peace, > donnah |
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