 |
 | Home | Contact Us | FAQ | Search & Site Map | Link to Us |
 | Sign In | Join | Other 45 Sites in Network |
Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Arthritis / July 2004Mother in hospital
My mother had to go to ER by ambulance this afternoon. She was experiencing shortness of breath and chest pain radiating to her back. They did numerous tests and do not think it is a heart attack, but they are treating her for pneumonia and a possible embolism. The dr. said that the heparin was moe of a precautionaly measure, but she is waiting until she can get a CT scan and has been admitted. I was a little taken aback by her doctor because I asked him what her INR was and he stopped and gave me one of those very penetrating looks, as much to ask who did I think I was. He looked at me for what felt like a full minute, but may have been less before saying that the INR was not significant since she has been off coumadin for about a month. I apologized for overstepping just because that is what i usually do, but I was seething inside. She is my mother and I have a right to ask questions, and if it is the wrong question, he only needs to say so. I do think that he has been thorough in his evaluation and covered all the basis. I do think it is pneumonia, because here breathing at the end sounded very raspy, and she had had a very high termperature. This is not a good day for me anyway because this is the day my nephew struggled between life and death three years ago until he finally passed away at 12:20. Technically he lived until the 7th, but in my heart this is really the day we lost him. So i was extremely concerned when I heard about Mom for all ther usual reasons but also because of the day it is and the fact that I am alone again should any major decisions need to be made. I think she will be OK though, given that the treatment has started. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! {{{{{{{{{Rose}}}}}}}}}} Prayers for you and your mom m >{{{{{{{{{Rose}}}}}}}}}} > >Prayers for you and your mom > >m Thank-you. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! Rose, Sending prayers and healing wishes for your mom and also for you!!! I pray that your moms situation is easily treated and she can be back home in no time. I also pray for continued healing in your heart and soul. I remember your loss well and know just how hard it can be. Hang in there and feel the love surrounding you!!! Donna G Hang in >there and feel the love surrounding you!!! > >Donna G Well I do. and that is why i find it so easy to share here. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! prayers for all  SignatureNann remove the Gator cheer to email me Simply the thing I am shall make me live --- William Shakespeare {{{{{Rose}}}}} Sarah L "Friends are those people who know the words to the song in your heart and sing them back to you when you have forgotten the words." (unattributed) ((((Rose and Mom)))) Prayers for a speedy recovery. Kelly C. Rose, Just got home from work and got your email - what a lousy day. Is she in Kamloops hospital or the Merritt one. Hope she is okay now that treatment is started. I made the decision not to take girls to Merritt for the camp - I would have had to handle too much and knew I couldn't do it. Just as well as my feet, knees and hips are giving me grief - hopefully once my orthotics and heel lifts are fine tuned they will be better. I have huge nodules on both achilles tendons throwing everything off. If not one thing it is another. The enbrel is working though (touch wood.) Maybe later this summer I will get up to see you. Would love to get togehter for coffee. Take care - prayers going out to you and your mom. Kelly >Take care - prayers going out to you and your mom. > >Kelly Thank-you so much Kelly. Sorry you won't be coming but I understand. I am also sorry that your joints are giving you so much grief. Enough already. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! I will keep your Mom in my prayers, Rose, and here's a BIG HUG for you! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ROSE}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} As for the doctor, you KEEP asking questions! You have a right to know what you need to know. I used to be afraid to ask doctors questions, but not anymore. I am a teacher and if a parent has a question about what I do in class, they are entitled to an answer. The doctor is in charge of your Mother's treatment, and you have the RIGHT to ask questions and have them answered in a professional and civil manner (ie, without the 'who do you think you are' glaring look). If the doctor did that to me, I'd would first speak to him about it, and if I didn't get the response I wanted, I'd be in the office of the hospital director and fast! Carole :) who learned the hard way! > My mother had to go to ER by ambulance this afternoon. She was > experiencing shortness of breath and chest pain radiating to her back. [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > @}>-->>> > Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! > So i was extremely concerned >when I heard about Mom for all ther usual reasons but also because of >the day it is and the fact that I am alone again should any major >decisions need to be made. > >I think she will be OK though, given that the treatment has started. Thinking of you Rose those anniversaries can be tough to handle. The Dr sounds like an arrogant jerk. I am not sure I would have held my tongue. hugs -- MZ Visit my website: http://www.mzuschlag.com I am pretty sure I would not have but then you all knew that. Duckie > Thinking of you Rose those anniversaries can be tough to handle. The > Dr sounds like an arrogant jerk. I am not sure I would have held my > tongue. hugs -- MZ > > Visit my website: > http://www.mzuschlag.com Signature_('> (_<_) _ _('< -quack (_<_) _ __('< *QUACK!* <_{__) _('< "|,,|_" (_<_) _('< "AFLAC!" (_<_) (((((Rose))))) (((((Mom))))) Love and Prayers, Vickie b. Hang in there Rose. Things have to start looking up soon. Thoughts and prayers for your mom... hope she is feeling better in no time. I was thinking of you this afternoon... my son phoned me from your town going to (or from?) Vancouver, and I wondered how the summer vacation was treating you. Hope some of our rain has found its way to you as well. Take care, Janet N > Hope some of our rain has found its way to you as well. Thanks Janet. Somehow we have missed most of the rain. What we have had for the last two days is wind. We need the rain more. One good t hing is that it has cooled off a bit. I have started my next course and since I have an assignment due on the 12th, need to get busy. I find that the readings and the discussions are enough to keep my busy when I am not packing. I have most of the contents of this house packed up. I was doing the bathroom today when I had to leave to go to the hospital. I have done most of the packing myself (yay prednisone!) but will get help with the kitchen cabinets. I now have to navigate the maze that has been created by the boxes. At night, instead of sleeping, I worry about little things, like how I will get Milo into the carrier to move him, what if none of my help shows up on the day of the move, what if the cable man gets to the new house to install a new cable jack and hook up my cable modem, before the comouter does? These thoughts and others of a similar ilk interfere with my sleep. As Char said, I am practicing for the Olympic worrying team (Where no problem os too big or too small). I even worry that the new owners of this house will not be happy here, although it is a perfectly nice house, it is just that it is in a crummy area and it is soooo noisy. And now I will be worried about mom. It never ends, does it? Rose (Aren;t you glad you asked, LOL?) PS I will be finished my coursework at the end of August. I will then start on my final project. I don't know if Imentioned it here or not, but in September between the other Grade one teacher and myself, we will have three children with autism spectrum disorder. One of mine is profoundly affected and only communicates through a shrill scream. So, I have decided to do a qualitative study on autism and curriculum, and how modifications are made- whether they are adequate, etc I intend to interview parents of autistic children to formulate a picture of whether needs and expectations are being met. @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! >As >Char said, I am practicing for the Olympic worrying team Now CUT THAT OUT!!! LOL Honey, you have enough REAL things to worry about without inventing them. >I even worry that the new owners of >this house will not be happy here, Get a grip!!! LOL You are going WAY overboard! But I know that is easier said than done. But try. OK? You really are a bit over the top here. Char "Remember, I'm pulling for ya'. We're all in this together." Red Green >Now CUT THAT OUT!!! LOL Honey, you have enough REAL things to worry about >without inventing them. During the day I have no time for worry, but at night, the mind still wants to keep on going, I guess. I will try to be a good girl from now on. I promise. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! > I don't know if Imentioned it here or not, > but in September between the other Grade one teacher and myself, we [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > I intend to interview parents of autistic children to formulate a > picture of whether needs and expectations are being met. Taht is truly making use of a difficult situation. Good thinking. Congratulations on getting all of this work done, even with everything else you've had going on. Good vibes for health and energy to you and prayers foryou and your mom. Oh, and try not to kill that doctor. Just practice an appropriate return glare..... LOL SignatureNann remove the Gator cheer to email me Simply the thing I am shall make me live --- William Shakespeare Oh, and try not to kill that doctor. Just practice an >appropriate return glare..... LOL Well today when I go for my remicade infusion I am going to try get the scoop on this doc from the nurses. Hopefully it will be nice and quiet.... Then I will be beter equipped to deal with him next time. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! You ARE a busy lady these days! It sounds like you are starting to worry about your worrying, which is not a happy place to be. I used to do that, and never slept... until I realized something: If the cable guy is there late, early or whenever... he can come back. If you can't get Milo into the carrier... you can get help If nobody shows up... you can call and remind them If anything else goes wrong... the sun will still come up in the morning Don't worry about what you can't control. It doesn't help. And please, please, please take care of yourself. I will be wishing some of our rain your way... we've had some flooded streets and don't need any more. Sounds like you guys could use it (again). Glad to hear you are being proactive with regard to the autistic kids... it should make life easier for you and for them if you are well prepared. Prayers and warm thoughts for you and your mom... and I'm hoping you can take a 'rest day' sometime soon... Janet N >Prayers and warm thoughts for you and your mom... and I'm hoping you can >take a 'rest day' sometime soon... > >Janet N Thanks Janet. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! Rose, So glad they were able to figure out what was going on with your mom so quickly. Praying that they can clear the clots and she will never have problems with them again. Praying also that you can set some of your stress and worries aside and just roll with the punches. It will all work out great! Donna G It will all >work out great! >Donna G Thanks so much Donna G. In general I do roll with the punches, it is only in the dead of night when insomnia hits that I get these doubts. I think that my mind is having a hard time slowing down so at night I process all of my concerns. People think I am one of the calmest people around. I think that's why some of this stuff comes out at night when I should be sleeping. Am down to 7.5 mgs pred so that may make a diff too. Thanks again. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! > It will all > >work out great! [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > Thanks again. > Rose I can be about as bad as they come with night fears and bedtime anxiety attacks. And I used to be a lot worse. It is so much easier to keep your mind occupied during the day. (Specially when you are having to cope with a little brain fog) When it gets bad, I remind myself that anything worth worrying about at 1 AM is worth devoting some time to thinking through at 1 PM. So I make a deal with myself to let it go just until the next day and then to really sit down and think it out and deal with it. Of course you know what happens the next day. Turns out it wasn't worth a second or third thought. When all else fails there is always my Grandmother's recipe for peace of mind. Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8 Not a bad way to live regardless of ones religious beliefs. Jo >Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things >are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > >Jo Very true. Thanks, Jo. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! Rose, I totally understand. I used to always tell one of my friends that I wish God would have made us with on/off switches as there has been many a night where my mind just raced with thoughts, not necessarily even worries, and I wished I could have just turned it off so I could sleep and then turn it back on in the morning to deal with whatever! Donna G Jo, thank you for sharing this... In the midst of all what was happening, I finally realized that if I could do anything at 2am to make things better, then I should get up and do it--'course then I knew that there was nothing I could do and it made it easier to let go for the next day...and (naturally) there was still nothing I could do. it did help me understand that there are just things that I have absolutely no control over and I have to leave it in the hands of a Wiser Mind... donnah > > It will all > > >work out great! [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > Jo {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Rose}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Duckie > My mother had to go to ER by ambulance this afternoon. She was > experiencing shortness of breath and chest pain radiating to her back. [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > @}>-->>> > Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! Signature_('> (_<_) _ _('< -quack (_<_) _ __('< *QUACK!* <_{__) _('< "|,,|_" (_<_) _('< "AFLAC!" (_<_) Rose honey, My heart goes out to you. I know how it is to worry about an aging and ailing mother. But you know that. Prayers on the way, kiddo. Char "Remember, I'm pulling for ya'. We're all in this together." Red Green Sending hugs and prayers for you and your Mom. Keep asking medical questions. That's your job- to get as much info as possible to make good choices and anticipate issues. Questioning the docs is good. It reminds them they aren't fully in control. They hate that reminder. But it's good to keep em humble. No wisdom in 'anniversary' issues. It's sad. It sucks. It's this year with new problems on top of those. Wish so many things weren't piling on top of you. Hang in there. SignatureAdelle D. Stavis, Esq. > My mother had to go to ER by ambulance this afternoon. She was > experiencing shortness of breath and chest pain radiating to her back. [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > @}>-->>> > Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! Rose, Sending prayers for your Mother and your Family. This is a sad time for you and then your mother's illness on top of that... Sometimes Doctors can be so so aRGH...For no other words... Hugs Cindy Prayers on the way. DeeTee ________________________________ DeeTee and Bob Taggart http://www.marykay.com/dtaggart3 http://mysite.verizon.net/vze8fwov/ ________________________________ > My mother had to go to ER by ambulance this afternoon. She was > experiencing shortness of breath and chest pain radiating to her back. [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > @}>-->>> > Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! (((Rose))) my prayers are with you and your Mom... donnah > My mother had to go to ER by ambulance this afternoon. She was > experiencing shortness of breath and chest pain radiating to her back. [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > @}>-->>> > Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! Thanks to all for your kind words, prayers, and encouragement. This group always has a way of cheering me up and helping me through these things. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! >My mother had to go to ER by ambulance this afternoon. She was >experiencing shortness of breath and chest pain radiating to her back. [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] >@}>-->>> >Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! We found out after the CT that she has two blood clots on her lung. So I am thankful that her doc is a good siagnstician even though he is not much in the bedside manner department. From what I have read pulmonary emboli are not that easy to diagnose as they can be missed and confused with pneumonia, since there is an overlap of symptomology. She will stay in the city hospital for one week before coming back here. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! . So >I am thankful that her doc is a good siagnstician even though he is >not much in the bedside manner department. Sorry, I meant diagnostician. Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! > We found out after the CT that she has two blood clots on her lung. So > I am thankful that her doc is a good siagnstician even though he is [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > Rose I was surprised when I did research on pulmonary emboli after I had one, and the symptoms are usually pretty classic. And it doesn't hurt that the first treatment while waiting to get a cat scan isn't that dangerous as long as it is monitored. Sudden chest pain, or rather sudden. Pain tends to move around or radiate or refer from one area to another. Difficulty breathing. (But sounds different when listening to the chest than pneumonia.) Don't know about the fever, but I know I will sometimes spike a fever when my body is stressed. Without an infection. Also if a doctor suspects a PE it can turn really bad, really fast so he might be a bit abrupt with the bedside until he has someone under treatment and stabilized. Nearly all ER docs are poor on people skills etc, or they would be in private practice to start with. Jo >Sudden chest pain, or rather sudden. Pain tends to move around or radiate >or refer from one area to another. Difficulty breathing. (But sounds >different when listening to the chest than pneumonia.) Don't know about the >fever, but I know I will sometimes spike a fever when my body is stressed. >Without an infection. Hi Jo: I had a fever when I had my dvt, so maybe it is the body's reaction to the process. The nurse told me it is not that uncommon following tkr, especially in older people. It is certainly something to be aware of. And mother had three surgeries within a year so was pretty well run down from that. Thanks for your post, Rose @}>-->>> Please remove "Ima" to reply privately! Hope all is well soon for everyone. {{{{{{{{{{Rose}}}}}}} Hugs and prayers headed your way. Mag |
Reply to this Message |
 Sign In
 Join
 My Latest Posts My Monitored Threads My Blog My Photo Gallery My Profile My Homepage Start New Thread Enable EMail Alerts Rate this Thread
|
©2008 Advenet LLC Privacy Policy - Terms of Use
This website includes both content owned or controlled by Advenet as well as content owned or controlled by third parties.