No, she needs to grieve, to rant and rave or whatever.

Joan

Granted its probably too soon for her to wrap her mind around next steps,
but I do want to try to give you a different perspective on
anti-depressants, or possibly psychotropics as you call them.

I'm not a doctor.  Just been a patient for an awful long time.

As a comparison, without pain and some medication that is necessary for
other conditions, my blood pressure would be just fine.  But I don't live
in that world and it isn't, so every day along with my other stuff I take
blood pressure medicine.

Without pain, stress etc. I likely would only have intermittent problems
with depression.  Even then with my family history of depression and
varying degrees of bi-polar problems it is no surprise that life has more
than its share of ups and downs.  No matter what is going on in the world
around me.  I've also been blessed with migraines in the gene pool and I
didn't leave them there.

As a consequence as I understand it, while my brain (think of it here as
just an organ like a pancreas) might or might not produce the amount of
seratonin I need to function, sometimes I burn it off and there isn't
enough left.  Paxil, an antidepressant, helps to keep those seratonin
levels more normal and as a consequence I feel better.  For reasons I do
not understand it also keeps migraines at bay for me.

Now there have been times when I've gone through depressions that took all
the color out of my life.  The first time it happened I had no reason to
think my life wasn't always going to be like that.  And looking ahead at a
lifetime like that was pretty near intolerable.  After the first time, it
wasn't as bad.  Yes I felt just as bad, but then I knew it wasn't going to
be forever.  With anti-depressants, I don't have to go there.

It really physically is no different than taking a drug to help your body
when it won't produce or metabolize insulin properly.  Just a different
organ and a different chemical.

The brain is far more than just thought processes, reason and personality.
It also regulates the very complex organism this is us.  And just like the
thyroid or pancreas or adrenal glands, sometimes it needs some help to do
its job properly.

Jo