(((((kate)))))

(((((family)))))

love and prayers,

Vickie B.

Kate,
He knew you were there - that is the important thing.  Doesn't matter where
in the world you were physically - he knew you were there with him.

This is so much to handle - know that there are lots of people with gentle
hugs standing right beside you.  Not physically maybe but with all our
hearts.

Hugs - please take care of Kate - this has been a really tough time.

Kelly in BC

I am so sorry. You were there for most of the day, and were there in
spirit if not in body when he finally left. My thoughts and prayers
are with you and your family.
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Oh Kate, I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and your
family.
Know that we are with you in love.

So sorry to hear the news kate. May the good Lord bless him and keep him.
GaryZ

Our hearts go out to you, Kate. At least now he has no pain or problems. I
pray that you and your family can be at peace about your Dad.

Love ya kiddo - DeeTee

May each of the family be there for all of you.  May God bless all of you
with a time of peace and understanding.

Harv

Sending love at this difficult time.

My father and grandmother each waited until most of us had left for the
evening. It seems like sometimes, they hold on while we are there to stay
with us and can let go when we are away. You dad had no doubt you love him
and were there for him, in every way he needed you to be.

In fact my grandmother, who had long ago instructed us she didn't want us
hovering around her waiting for her to die, waited until the last of us flew
in to Houston and visited. Then we all left to go have dinner. She died
within ten minutes  of our going out the door. We got the call in the car to
come back to the hospital. So she waited until we all had said goodbye but
most of us weren't there.

Adelle

Many prayers and hugs Kate...
Cindy

((((Kate))))

You were there when it mattered, and he knew that.

My love to you and your family.
Kelly C.

Sending Good Thoughts for those left behind,
{{{{Kate and Family}}}}

GrampaHugs,
Alex,

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luv&hugs,
Denise

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it's been a long hard road. my condolences to you and your family.

diane

Hi,

I have been lurking for quite awhile now. I was diagnosed with RA in
2005.

I have been following this post, and my heart goes out to you.  I can
tell you that he differently knew you where there. And just maybe he
didn't want you to be there when the time came, to spare you. And I
can tell you that your loved ones DO come for you.

I took care of my step dad in his home for 2 1/2 years. He wanted to
die in his own home.
I had to go to my mobile home (my son lived there) to take care of
some things. My sister came over, and I didn't want to go. When I came
back his nurse (it happened to be her night to come) came out of the
room and told me he was gone. And my response was? I said: "I was
supposed to be here". And she told me that maybe he didn't want me
there. He died on December 31. She told me that maybe he wanted me to
start a new year, without me having to take care of him. Those words
gave me some comfort.

I could also tell you about the night before he died, just suffice to
say it was a spiritual experience, one that I will never forget. I
also believe that angels come for you also. I was never a very
spiritual person until that night. He will be beside you now and
forever.

Take care of yourself and your family.

Laurie

Oh, Kate. I'm so sorry. Prayers being said for your dad and your family.

BIG HUGS,
Carole

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I am sorry that this happened....
RhondaM

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your showed your father how much you loved in him so very many ways through
the years and even more so in recent weeks.  As much as you would have liked
to be there for his final moments, it is the love and caring you've shared in
the past that really counts.  Because of that, he KNEW that you loved him and
your love for each other lives on.  I know, I've been there - with a much
loved father who died in the hospital (unexpectedly) with none of the family
there.  But we all knew how much we loved each other and that's what really
mattered.

Meanwhile, may the love your family has always shared help you get each other
through the grief of yet another death.  Hugs to all of you.

My condolences to you and your family, kate.

thank you, each and every one of you, for your dearness.  you'll never know
how much you guys mean to me and have meant to me throughout the years we've
shared here.

so far this year, it's been difficult and challenging.  i'm still trying to
process and strike a balance with what sometimes feels overwhelming.  i have
faith i'll get there, eventually.  i know it's going to take some time and
inner work to filter out my stinking-thinking, all the
shoulda/woulda/couldas--one thing at a time, one moment at a time.

my grandmother (my father's mother) used to always say that whenever she
heard of a death in the family, she would also hear of a birth and a wedding
in the family soon afterwards.  i'm thinking, i hope she was right.  two
births and two weddings would give the rest of this year some welcome
balance.  in a way though, i hope these hold off, a couple of months, in
making themselves known, just so i can catch up on the processing.<smile>

thanks again, you lovely, loving and wonderfully kind and generous angels in
my life.

kate

my father passed away, just minutes ago, and i wasn't there.  need to get
dressed and get there.

kate