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Ladybug75 - 15 May 2007 11:27 GMT
Donna,

I like the share your Day thread, ok, in France Mother's Day is  June the
third, she's be living there for over 7 years, but of course, Me, number 1
pain in the a.., had to call her telling I wish she had remember, the
Holyday here.
Second I was trying to make my husband breakfast upon his request, bacon was
hot and sizzling, looking for the eggs he bought the Days before and no way
to be found, I was immediately to blame, he looks everywhere including the
bathroom, telling me I was crazy enough to do that, I got p....off took the
bacon and proceed to put it in the trash, few hours later he found them in
his truck, under the seat, the Day was not going well.
But I worked on my new resolution, do not answer, if confronted, stay calm,
leave the room, sound like a tornado drill...but so far, so good, and I
learned he was leaving July 15, for 15 months, and I again, I resent the
fact that he doesn't want to be here, I was really thinking that if all is
well for the firth surgery I will get the other hip replaced also, so next
year,finally I will be able to be better, but its life.
So here was my Day, spend in the bedroom all Day avoiding any
confrontations.
I'm glad most of you had a wonderful Mother's Day.

Kiki.
Harvey R. Stone - 15 May 2007 13:22 GMT
> Donna,
>
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>
> Kiki.

Hi Kiki,   Please tell your husband what a great guy he is.  After finding
your work in the trash,,, you might of found yourself there.   Combative
escalation
is not the way to find peace.  :-)
Harv
Ladybug75 - 15 May 2007 14:56 GMT
Harv,

I don't know any other way, but will give him the message... :-) he will be
so proud of himself to be right for once....

Take care,

Gigi.

>> Donna,
>>
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> is not the way to find peace.  :-)
> Harv
Joan Carter - 15 May 2007 16:48 GMT
>So here was my Day, spend in the bedroom all Day avoiding any
>confrontations.
>I'm glad most of you had a wonderful Mother's Day.

Kiki, sounds dreadful, but at least no confrontations. Did he
apologize for the egg mix-up? Sorry, silly question. :-)
Harvey R. Stone - 15 May 2007 17:26 GMT
>>So here was my Day, spend in the bedroom all Day avoiding any
>>confrontations.
>>I'm glad most of you had a wonderful Mother's Day.
>
> Kiki, sounds dreadful, but at least no confrontations. Did he
> apologize for the egg mix-up? Sorry, silly question. :-)

Nooo, it is a good question.   Did she apologize for throwing way his bacon
on purpose?

Harv
sweetpickleNO@SPAMknology.net - 15 May 2007 18:27 GMT
Harv, the way he treats her, my thinking is that she had no reason to
apologize!
Gwen

>>>So here was my Day, spend in the bedroom all Day avoiding any
>>>confrontations.
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>
> Harv
Harvey R. Stone - 15 May 2007 18:36 GMT
> Harv, the way he treats her, my thinking is that she had no reason to
> apologize!
> Gwen

That may be true and I missed that part but still,,, it does not make peace
likely.   Spite, revenge, and one upmanship just make things worse and it
does not matter if it is a man or woman doing the deed.
Harv
Nann Bell - 15 May 2007 23:20 GMT
>>> So here was my Day, spend in the bedroom all Day avoiding any
>>> confrontations.
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>
> Harv

Harv, have you been reading Kiki's tales of her husband's behavior?  She WAS
justified!  And BTW, if Mike ever seriously told me I was crazy enough to put
the eggs in the bathroom, he'd get an earful back from me!

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Ladybug75 - 15 May 2007 23:21 GMT
Harv,

Tell me you are kidding....:-)

>>>So here was my Day, spend in the bedroom all Day avoiding any
>>>confrontations.
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>
> Harv
Harvey R. Stone - 16 May 2007 05:26 GMT
> Harv,
>
> Tell me you are kidding....:-)

I wish I was.   You know it is only going to get worse with things like this
taking place.   I hope it is not too often.   I also hope you will consider
some of the other things I had to say.    I am not a person that lets things
slide or go on and on.   If you are,,, I am not the right person to talk
too.   None of us here want anything but the best for you and yours.   That
does not mean you should put up with abuse.   I think you can deal out just
as good as you receive   but then   we have to ask ourselves is this the way
I want to live.
Harv
Ladybug75 - 16 May 2007 12:14 GMT
No Harv, that's not the way I want to live, and I wish things were better, I
do apologize a lot, too much, action should speak louder than words, I'm
under a lot of stress, and sometimes you can't just take it anymore, but you
are right maybe you are not the right person to understand that type of
situation, I appreciate the good advice you're gave me in the past,
regarding the disease, but when it comes to  personal life, you have failed
to understand, and you know what, I do take the blame, I open up too much
with my problems at home with the group, but what is a support group if you
have to be selective and be afraid to express my feeling.
I will be more careful in the future and stick to OA.
Have a great Day.

Kiki

>> Harv,
>>
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> ourselves is this the way I want to live.
> Harv
Harvey R. Stone - 16 May 2007 13:00 GMT
> No Harv, that's not the way I want to live, and I wish things were better,
> I do apologize a lot, too much, action should speak louder than words, I'm
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
>
> Kiki

That is a very defensive reply when you are  the one that is being pushed
around and no one here is saying you did anything wrong except throwing your
husbands bacon in the trash.  :-)  If you have given up on making your
husband understand his own behavior,,,  stick to OA.   I have not given up
on you and I do not think anyone else has either.
Harv
Ladybug75 - 15 May 2007 23:20 GMT
Of course not...lol

>>So here was my Day, spend in the bedroom all Day avoiding any
>>confrontations.
>>I'm glad most of you had a wonderful Mother's Day.
>
> Kiki, sounds dreadful, but at least no confrontations. Did he
> apologize for the egg mix-up? Sorry, silly question. :-)
 
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