Harv,

According to my surgeon, first and foremost, any anti inflammatory meds for
obvious reason ( bleeding) and also have been told that with type of surgery
there is more bleeding and something I did not know, a high fever, the body
fighting the prosthesis, but coming back to medications, no stronger
medications, because the one I will need after the surgery would not be as
effective,ok that's make sense, but giving me something different than what
will be used post op, would really help now.
Gigi.

I tell my Normie to shuddup when he's not thinking it thru and not being
supportive, Harv. Rarely, but I do. That's because I'm lucky enough to have
an understanding spouse.

  There is a place, as you say, for standing up for yourself when you're
not being valued -- and doing it firmly and clearly works.

  If Gigi doesn't want to do that then I suggest she drags his sorry self
to the Rheumatologist with her and have him tell her MD that he thinks his
wife is a drug addict. Then when the Doc tells him to shuddup because she's
not then he'll know something. :-))))

 I don't care how old and set in one's ways someone is...being mean due to
being ignorant and staying that way is wrong.

  I'm not even going to tell Gigi again that her question isn't
stupid...but that she keeps refering to her questions that way speaks
volumes, unfortunately.

ReHugs from Rosie

You are all soooo right, I have a very low self esteem, he knows it and have
use it for the past 20 years we are together, I'm mad at myself for been so
weak, one example, in 1993 I went to school to become a Nurse's aide, the
bottom of the ladder, and I really was thinking later on to go back to
school to be a LPN, to which he told me many times, that I would never make
it, and me of course, instead of going back and prove to him that I could, I
continue to do my job, do not get me wrong, I enjoyed every minute taking
care of patients, I was going to their homes helping them with baths,
medications, and other little things, but what I found out is that everyone
of those people were lonely and loved to share their life experiences and I
am a good listener, I did that job for 10 years, and unfortunately hurt my
back and had to do something else.
Now when mad at me, my husband who has a bachelor degree, and other fancy
degree, tell me when he's mad, that I was just a BMW, bowel movement wiper,
so yes you are right, at my age, I don't think I will never have the courage
to tell him to go to H..., I do not live, I survive, and am very aware of
it.
But I thank you all for your kindness., oh and no I do not feel sorry for
myself, just tired of fighting a losing battle.
Gigi