SJ, you have done so much for so many, please don't worry about what you
can't do.  We all know you are trying and keep praying for better things for
you and Jim.
Gwen

oh, sweetie, don't put so much pressure on yourself.  you give so much of
yourself to this group and while we love you for it, we certainly don't want
you wearing yourself out for us.  there is no earthly reason that you need
to feel like you must keep up a super-woman pace.  relax, hon.  just kick
back and enjoy yourself, sweetie.  coast for awhile and give yourself a
well-deserved break.  you need to take care of you, y'know.  and we need you
to take care of you, so that we can just love and enjoy you.

y'know, sweetie, years ago i used to be accused of having just two speeds,
in everything i used to did (and i mean everything) --pedal to the metal
(and that wasn't enough for me, because i was also a perfectionist.) and
full stop.  full stop was only because of my hitting the wall and no longer
being physically able to go on.  and one day, after hitting the wall for the
zillionth time, i realized that the people around me, my friends and family,
were absolutely right.  i also realized i was being thoughtless, in a sense,
because whenever i hit the wall, those around me had to pick up my share of
the mundane load that ordinarily i could handle.

so, late in life, i had to learn not simply to pace myself, but to also say
"no".  and that means, not just saying "no" to others, but also, saying "no"
to myself--no matter how much i want to do something that i know would be
energy depleting and/or would increase my pain levels.  and for me, the
hardest part was forgiving myself for not being all that i wanted to be and
for not doing all that i wanted to do.  but, you know what i
discovered?--that it's ok that i haven't maxed-out my abilities and desires;
and i also discovered that i'm not a mediocre version of myself, even though
i haven't maxed-out.  i simply am where i am.  and i don't go *splat*
against the wall, as often as i used to.LOL

you take good care of you, honey.  we love you and you don't have to do more
than is comfortable for you.  i know i don't want you to.

love and hugs,
kate

I have been having trouble keeping up with the group. Tiredness, ill, and
pain.
So please if I missed anyone in prayers or such forgive me, I am reading as
I can and posting when I can. I do have you all in my thoughts.

Rosie, I was telling you about this and thinking by Jan, I would have to
leave all groups. Well it looks like it might be sooner if this doesn't soon
stop. Sorry.

Luckily I got all bday cards addressed till Dec. So all I have to do is
write a small note and sign them. Or otherwise they wouldn't get done
either. I am sorry my friends. I am trying.

You take care of YOU, SJ. That's the most important thing! You are in my
prayers every day and I hope things will get better for you soon.

Hugs and Love,
Carole

((((((((((((((((((((((((Gentle hugs))))))))))))))))))))
I understand
RhondaM

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Jo))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Treat yourself kindly, take all the time you need.
We'll always be here when you need us.

Ginnie    >^..^<
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Jo}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}},

No one has ever done more than you do to help us gimps and fibromites
get thru our too often difficult days. Yer cards over the years have
meant more than you will ever know. I know it is truly frustrating when
your too tired to get thru all the posts. So right now you just gotta
skim what you can and let the rest go. This year has been a really
rough patch for you and it seems like it will never improve but it
will. I thought the really bad two years 'valley fever' had me "under
its thumb" would never end but slowly the energy returned as it eased
its grip.

You gotta remember that sometimes you need to focus all your attention
on yourself for awhile. Let some of us help you get thru this with the
love we have for you. Cause if you don't know it you should
.............. there are a lot of us that love you and think about you
every day.

you just keep fighting the good fight kiddo and Do Not feel guilty for
falling behind with the groups. We are not going anywhere and you can
catch up later. okay?

high desert healing hugs,
johnie

Hey Jo,
Relax. Go Slow. Rest. Recuperate. Get well. Then, when all that has been
accomplished.....give 'em hell!
Until then, you get my prayers. I owe you a ton of those.
GaryZ

Sending Good Thoughts,
{{{{Jo}}}}

GrampaHugs,
Alex,

Jo,
I have struggled to write this - I know how hard it is to sometimes step
back from what little we feel we do and take time for ourselves.  The
hardest word to say in the world I feel has to be no.  Now is the time to
say that for you.  If you had the money I would say you need to get to a
doctor and get some real help - I know that is tough right now.  Do not feel
guilt about not being there for anyone right now - take care of yourself.
It won't be easy but take time to breathe, relax, pamper and treat your body
as it should.  Do your range of motion exercises, try to walk a little (even
if only twice around your chair), reward yourself for goals you have set for
yourself and accomplished and make those goals attainable.  Rub nice hand
cream on your hands if that is what makes you feel good.  Drink lots of
water and take time to spend with your husband.  The birthday cards can go
out late or just with labels on - we know you have signed them with your
heart - labels with your name on are signatures.  Leave the notes off - we
can imagine the notes instead.

As for feeling guilty about Denise - you are the best friend ever but you
can't be a friend without taking care of yourself.  She knows that and some
of us can step up to the plate.  Bet she will be here herself to tell you
that.

Take care of you for a bit - I for one am very worried about you.

Kelly

Squirrely,
please dont think you must be super woman.  We all appreciate so much what
you do but you must now think of your own health.  take care of your own
needs and health and let us look after you for a while.
love and prayers
janice