Songbird,that sounds like something i would do,in fact i have.LOL

we move Mom and Dad closer to me this Friday. I went up this weekend to
help pack, and Mom's confusion when things are moved around is becoming
evident. (She was cleaning out the pantry, and I moved the trash can
next to her to faciliate discards. No matter how many times I said "Mom,
here's the trash can," she walked across the room to where it usually
sits and piled things to be discarded on the countertop.)

If I call you a fool,
Doesn't mean your a fool
It Only means
I'm a person with a need to Judge!

As far as the physical aspects of the move, I have taken full
responsibility. There are eight friends and relatives converging for two
days, all from at least four hours away (so they are all spending the
intervening night at my house), to accomplish the loading, transport, and
unloading. I am handling the closing on the new house, arranging for
appliances, getting blinds hung (new house -- no privacy), having the
utilities hooked up, opening the bank account, etc. I will stock the
refrigerator and pantry, have the beds set up, towels in the bathrooms,
shower curtains and rods installed.

What I am talking about trying to get him to take "responsibility" for is
unpacking personal belongings and deciding where he would like them. A
friend is coming in to hang all their 60+ pictures, but I have asked Mom and
Dad to decide where they want their most treasured ones to go. Another
example: He is adamant about using DishTV rather than cable, which was
unreliable in the rural area he lived in but here is a cheaper alternative.
OK, fine, let him have control where he can. He had already called DishTV to
find out about how he can transfer his service and just needed to call and
give them the date. I asked him to make that call, since I know nothing
about DishTV and he had already navigated the trickier part with them.

Whenever I tell him something of any importance, he says "Let me put your
mother on and repeat that to her, because she doesn't listen to me." What he
means is she doesn't remember -- he has not grasped that she can forget
anything anyone tells her, with no rhyme or reason. He still takes it as a
personal affront. (he has also decided she must have a hearing problem --
but I think he's the one with that issue! lol)

I have got to do some FAST Alzheimer's education on him. Although he is the
first to say "I think your mother has Alzheimer's," he is in denial about
what that MEANS. I am hoping the new doc she sees on the 5th will cooperate
in getting a diagnosis and that will help all of us face the future with
facts in hand.

Songbird