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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Alzheimer's / May 2004taking things?
My aunt has ad and when she's visiting and sees something she wants, she just takes it. My mother always goes thru my aunts purse before she leaves this house and retrieves many little things. My aunt lives in a retirement home. She walks to Kroger's everyday and was stopped yesterday after leaving the store with unpaid for cigarets in her pocket. I bet this has been going on for a long time. She just never got caught before. After explaining her problem, the store agreed not to prosecute. But this will happen again! Will they bar her from the store then eventually take her to jail? She needs to be in a facility with locked doors. But she has children who are taking care of her. (?) I just hate to see something bad happen before they make changes. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this. Taking things? Thanks, caroll My mother last night was a real bugger.She was waiting for my dad to pick her up and take her home.I just wish i knew what triggers the bad nights.Tonight she was sooooo good.My mom is just the opposite.She doesn't believe anything is hers including her clothes.Last night she was so mad at me she called me a bit__.I was trying to get her to go to bed. Evelyn,Other than the clothes issue how is Ida doing?We are attending a wedding Saturday,with my mom.Of course there will be no staying over cause that is very difficult with her.So we will drive home the same day.100 miles. Barb > My mother last night was a real bugger.She was waiting for my dad to > pick her up and take her home.I just wish i knew what triggers the bad [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > staying over cause that is very difficult with her.So we will drive home > the same day.100 miles. Barb Barb, I think it is something you are going to regret doing, but I HOPE it isn't. I drove Ida down to my father's house with me once, and she drove me absolutely crazy the whole way. She refused to use the toilet at my dads house, and she was so difficult and argumentative the whole time going home. I never again took her along for a ride that was anything but a short jaunt. But you know as well as I do, it could be just as easily the other way and she could behave like a saint, as well as an abominable brat. Hope you get the saint instead. Enjoy the wedding! Ida is doing well in the nursing home. Yesterday she asked again to go home, and Peter gave her the standard answer ..."when the doctor says you are well enough". She then says "OK" and the subject is over with till the next time she asks. She is clean, comfortable, and other than someone taking almost all her clothing, I can't complain. I am very annoyed about that and intend to speak to someone about it today.  SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > My aunt has ad and when she's visiting and sees something she wants, she > just takes it. My mother always goes thru my aunts purse before she [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > Thanks, caroll Sure,it happens all the time. My father used to go geta paper and then started just picking it up and walking out. She shouldnt be allowed to go shopping by herself. SignatureTumbleweed Remove my socks for email address > Sure,it happens all the time. My father used to go geta paper and then > started just picking it up and walking out. She shouldnt be allowed to go > shopping by herself. This thread brought up a childhood memory ... I lived in a small Southern (US) town, and we had an elderly lady in town who everyone said was "a bit off." She would wander downtown, and everyone kept an eye on her to make sure she didn't step into traffic. Even at 10 or 11, my best friend and I knew to go speak to Miss Irene if she looked like she might step off the curb and then gently guide her back onto the sidewalk. Eventually one of the handful of police officers would tell her "I think it's about time for you to start supper, Miss Irene," and she would head home, with the officer discreetly keeeping an eye on here til she got there. She started filching small items in the drugstore, and rather than confront her, the shopowners just kept a tab. It was never more than a lipstick or a pack of gum. Her daughter would come settle up every few weeks. The beleaguered daughter tried to keep her mom at home, but with small children as well -- well, we all know how fast someone can disappear, and this was before we had the sophisticated alarms and such we have now. There was probably nothing but a hook and eye latch on a screen door keeping her in. Shame we can't all live in small towns where we tolerate and are affectionate towards those who are "a bit off." Songbird > Shame we can't all live in small towns where we tolerate and are > affectionate towards those who are "a bit off." Mary responds: It really is sad, isn't it. We have a summer home and the nearest town is a small village with maybe 1000 people total. There are a couple of older mentally handicapped men who I see all the time - and they are clearly much loved and well protected members of the community. I know that everyone looks out for them and that they do odd jobs for local residents. They often hang out on a park bench in front of the grocery store, and everyone stops to say hello to them. It really struck me how much better their lives are than so many with similar problems who have to live in larger places where strangers are a danger. > My aunt has ad and when she's visiting and sees something she wants, she > just takes it. My mother always goes thru my aunts purse before she [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > Thanks, caroll Caroll, when Ida first started going to the daycare center and in fact throughout the entire time she went there, she would take rubber gloves. Every night her handbag was stuffed with rubber gloves. Not quite stealing, because we told them she was stuffing them in her bag every day, but they decided to just let her. We threw out dozens and dozens of them every week. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") A couple of things about this are not good - first off, she has AD and she has the freedom to roam unescorted, which is dangerous - she is going to get lost or taken advantage of or worse. She is already doing inappropriate things when she is out (i.e. taking things without paying for them). Many businesses will be understanding with regards to AD behaviours, but this store and staff should not be expected to let her in with the knowledge she's going to walk out with items. Second off, she's free to buy smoking materials...and then I presume, use them unsupervised? Bad, bad idea. We've had some family members with AD who were smokers, and the facility was very, very strict about keeping all the smoking supplies with the staff. They would let the person smoke in a designated smoking room under supervision. People with AD should never, never have matches, lighters, cigarettes etc. without direct supervision. The danger of fire is just too great - and they put others in danger as well. Mary G. |
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