What is one to do with a father who is wearing down our mother.  We
finally got her into going to adult day care 2 half days per week.
She just loves it, but everytime she gets ready to go he starts in on
her and makes her feel guilty about leaving him.  We have told him
over and over what she is doing and have posted notes so he will see
them but to no avail.  He is slowly wearing her down.  We don't have
the money to hire someone to come and stay with him while she is gone
-- he would not allow a stranger to be in the house anyway.  He has
always been a little on the mean-spirited side but the dementia has
made him so much worse.  In a split second he will tell us to get out
of his ____ house, that we are in his business.  We all know that this
is the dementia but it is hell on my mother.  She can barely walk
using her walker and she is a good spirited woman.  She needs to get
away a couple of half-days per week.  I feel guilty because we don't
go over and visit as often as we use to and I know it's because my dad
can be so argumentative that he is not pleasant to be around.  Any
suggestions?