Hi Lynn,

Yes, it is true that this is probably one of the most genuinely helpful
groups on usenet.   But it doesn't happen that way by accident.   We have
had our share of trolls and troublemakers too, but we have been pretty much
consistent in the way we have handled them.   They too, have been dealt
with, with compassion and decisive action, rather than abusive language and
flames, unlike much of the rest of usenet.

What is more, those who choose to care for a loved one (whether in a care
facility or in an at-home situation)..... rather than shuck off the
responsibility, tend to be the kinder  more responsible members of society
anyway.

The regular posters here are the "roll-up-your-sleeves and DO something"
types as opposed to the "ignore it and maybe it'll go away" types.
Invariably, whether the poster has designated POA or not in their family, it
is the person who CARES that comes here for support and guidance, and to
offer support to others.

I have no idea what I would have done without the help of the people here.
All too often caregivers are the ones who spot the illness first, and are
reviled for it even by their own relatives, or the friends of their
afflicted loved one.   All too often we find ourselves bucking everyone else
and feel as though we are fighting a losing battle all alone against all
odds.

Worse yet, the person with the illness seldom realizes it or appreciates you
either.   The very illness itself generates paranoia and distrust, and often
caregivers are the brunt of that too, on top of the enormous pressure from
without.

Being able to come here to this group of individuals who not only
understand, but can offer constructive advice and support, is beyond price.
Not only that, but this newsgroup is available 24 hours a day all week long,
not just at a single monthly support group meeting.   You can rant, cry,
dump, rationalize and brainstorm with others to solve problems, if the need
is there!

In our family we are nearing a new phase of the journey, in that we are
seeking placement for my mother in law at this time after caring for her at
home for three years.   At every new step of the way there have been
constructive suggestions and advice....

All I can say is that I include all the members of this group in my
meditations and prayers.  Hugs and kind thoughts to all of you.   You are
the very best... all of you.   My thanks are added to Nancy's and Lynn's.