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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Alzheimer's / December 2003dementia unit loses walker
Mom's been in the dementia unit of the assisted living facility where she was living for almost 2 months now and I thought things were finally going along ok - but on Christmas her walker disappeared and they put it on me! This really irritates me. Clarification - she was in plain assisted living for 4 years and after a hospital stay is now in the dementia wing. 5 days after she was in the dementia unit they axed the unit director and this was very irritating too. After 6 weeks without a director now there is a new one who appears to be rather flacid and helpless. So Mom and I returned Christmas afternoon, Mom walking with her walker as usual. The walker was in her room when I left, and apparently it disappeared right after that, and they assumed I did not bring it back. So I come back today and look all around, get told I didn't bring it back, and then I go turn it all over to the big boss, who says it's all ridiculous and she'd take care of it herself. Well it's still gone. I'm so mad I'm going to start looking for another place - except I don't want to jerk Ma around. I haven't even filed the insurance purchase claim for her brand-new walker in the first place, and now it's gone. I looked in all the rooms and bathrooms - nothing. Looked in the dining area, the bathing area. All I can figure is it got pushed out into the regular assisted living place where someone has it. Now that someone told everyone I must not have returned it and I've disputed this, I really hope someone turns it in if they find it rather than hiding it so they won't get in trouble. We're right on the edge (over the edge really) of what I can afford here in the East San Francisco Bay area. I did find a place that was much lower, but haven't finished checking it out yet and am reluctant to put Mom in there because she is very mobile and doesn't really sleep at night and the place looks like a converted nursing home with linoleum floors. I like all-over carpet because of the safety. Any recommendations appreciated. Gad I should have unloaded all this earlier. They just called and told me they FOUND IT.... in the linen closet. I feel so much better - thank goodness I didn't make a complete a.s of myself and I didn't break down and cry. For the past 6 years I've called Mom every night or seen her, but she's gotten to the stage where she just can't handle the telephone. So I was really suffering from withdrawal until I gave up and decided to not go over there every day. I had to limit myself to twice a week because it was getting to me so bad. That turned out to be good for her, too and she appeared to adjust better with me not showing up all the time. I had to get used to the idea that her glasses and teeth could disappear like her hearing aid did because I couldn't be with her all the time anyway. The walker thing was like a flashback and brought all this dismay to the surface. Thanks for listening. Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sat, Dec 27, 2003, 5:06am (CST+6) From: vohar3@hotmail.com (JM Van_Horn) Gad I should have unloaded all this earlier. They just called and told me they FOUND IT.... in the linen closet. I feel so much better - thank goodness I didn't make a complete a.s of myself and I didn't break down and cry. For the past 6 years I've called Mom every night or seen her, but she's gotten to the stage where she just can't handle the telephone. So I was really suffering from withdrawal until I gave up and decided to not go over there every day. I had to limit myself to twice a week because it was getting to me so bad. That turned out to be good for her, too and she appeared to adjust better with me not showing up all the time. I had to get used to the idea that her glasses and teeth could disappear like her hearing aid did because I couldn't be with her all the time anyway. The walker thing was like a flashback and brought all this dismay to the surface. Thanks for listening. Dear JM, Was it found in a linen closet in your Mom's room or in one somewhere else? When I first read your post I had suspicioned one of the other patients that didn't know any better had gotten off with it. :-) As that's what happened to some of my neighbor's things when he was in a nursing home. Love, Ronny I hate to be the one to say this, but you will also find that at times employees walk off with things! Gwen xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxx Christmas gift suggestions: to your enemy, forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart;; to a customer, service; to all, charity; to every child, a good example; and to yourself, respect. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxx Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sat, Dec 27, 2003, 5:06am (CST+6) From: vohar3@hotmail.com (JM Van_Horn) Gad I should have unloaded all this earlier. They just called and told me they FOUND IT.... in the linen closet. I feel so much better - thank goodness I didn't make a complete a.s of myself and I didn't break down and cry. For the past 6 years I've called Mom every night or seen her, but she's gotten to the stage where she just can't handle the telephone. So I was really suffering from withdrawal until I gave up and decided to not go over there every day. I had to limit myself to twice a week because it was getting to me so bad. That turned out to be good for her, too and she appeared to adjust better with me not showing up all the time. I had to get used to the idea that her glasses and teeth could disappear like her hearing aid did because I couldn't be with her all the time anyway. The walker thing was like a flashback and brought all this dismay to the surface. Thanks for listening. Dear JM, Was it found in a linen closet in your Mom's room or in one somewhere else? When I first read your post I had suspicioned one of the other patients that didn't know any better had gotten off with it. :-) As that's what happened to some of my neighbor's things when he was in a nursing home. Love, Ronny > Gad I should have unloaded all this earlier. They just called and told me > they FOUND IT.... [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > brought > all this dismay to the surface. Thanks for listening. I am so glad they found her walker! How frustrating. From what I have heard, in nursing homes they often take one anothers things because they don't remember which aren't their own. Oddly enough, in my mother in law's case, she doesn't remember the things which ARE her own and thinks that everything belongs to me that she wears etc. I have to tell her over and over again that these are HER clothes and that mine are a different size etc. Of course that doesn't matter. At this point there are very few arguments about anything, and she doesn't really care much what she wears anymore. I care though, and I make sure she always looks nice. She used to go through all the jewelry and put on appropriately matching stuff, but not anymore. Once in a while she will wear a bit of jewelry, but not like before.  SignatureEvelyn (To reply to me personally, remove sox) You might want to get yourself one of those inexpensive metal engravers and put her name and your phone number right on the walker. We have one, and its great - we've put name and number on a lot of things, including cameras, so if it were lost or stolen, we'd have chance to get it back. Mary G. Good suggestions. Also, paint a bright (yet attractive) colour somewhere on the walker. On a related subject, the hospital that my SO is doing her residency at has a BIG problem with the support staff stealing stethoscopes. Her new one is so multicoloured that the kids love it and everyone else points out that it sticks out like a sore thumb :). Used medical equipment is big business on eBay. Hope everyone had a great Christmas! I spent mine in bed with the flu! Darryl. >You might want to get yourself one of those inexpensive metal >engravers and put her name and your phone number right on the walker. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > >Mary G. Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sat, Dec 27, 2003, 2:54pm (CST+6) From: umpolung@REMOVEhotmail.com (Darryl) Good suggestions. Also, paint a bright (yet attractive) colour somewhere on the walker. On a related subject, the hospital that my SO is doing her residency at has a BIG problem with the support staff stealing stethoscopes. Her new one is so multicoloured that the kids love it and everyone else points out that it sticks out like a sore thumb :). Used medical equipment is big business on eBay. Hope everyone had a great Christmas! I spent mine in bed with the flu! Darryl. Dear Darryl, Sorry to hear you've come down with the flu! :-( Love, Ronny How frustrating for you....but I am glad they found it....hopefully they will be more careful in the future |
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