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Brianna, traveling with a person who has alzheimers is pure hell. A
couple of years ago a woman was lost in an airport. She went to use
the bathroom, or her traveling companion went to use the bathroom, and
the woman just disappeared. I don't know if she was ever found, I
never noticed whether there was a followup in the paper.
Your sister would be wise not to go on any real trips with him. He
could wander off, or make some bizarre claim that she was kidnapping
him and he didn't know who she was and she took his money, or
something like that. By the time it got all sorted out it could be
very difficult and stressful for her.
The only way I would consider traveling with someone with cognitive
issues, would be with two extra people to spell one another if one
went to the bathroom or had to sort out something with tickets or
etc. And with a letter from the doctor stating clearly that the
person had alzheimers. And even then I wouldn't want to do it.
Once I took my mother in law on a little car trip to visit my family
in the next state. It was only two hours away. My husband had some
work to do around here and I thought it would be good to keep her out
of his hair. Well she forgot who I was!!!!!!!!! She was very
difficult and made the whole trip a complete hell. I had to turn
around and go home after only having just arrived.
I didn't even dare to stop for an instant, she was so difficult. I
got back home sick and exhausted out of my mind. She told my husband
she didn't know who that woman was who took her home (me)!!!!! She
yelled at me all the way home. I thought she might even try to
wrench the wheel from me. It was scary.
That was the last time I took her on any kind of a trip without my
husband along. Never again. Please tell your sister it might be a
very bad idea.
Evelyn
deerwoodflower@hotmail.com - 18 Aug 2008 00:46 GMT
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Evelyn,
That reminds me of when my sister was gonna take my mom home for a
week.110 miles away and soon after getting home they had to turn
around and bring her back. Barb
A R Pickett - 18 Aug 2008 18:54 GMT
Evelyn wrote in part - >Brianna, traveling with a person who has alzheimers
is >pure hell. {another partial snip} Your sister would be wise not to go
on any >real trips with him."
In my retirement, I work part time at our local major league baseball
stadium. We have an established routine for locating lost individuals
and/or misplaced parents/escorts. The most scary are the times we are
trying to find an Alzheimer's patient who, for whatever reason, has been
left to his/her own devices for a time - often for 5 minutes or less.
One particular afternoon, the staff heard repeated requests over the radio
to locate a woman, now on her own, who suffered from Alzheimers. We had
detailed descriptions of what she was wearing. A flowered skirt and a
purple top. Our team colors are purple and black. Can you guess how many
women of late middle age come to the ball park wearing flowered skirts and
purple tops? Hundreds. It was 3-4 hours before someone spotted her
wandering around alone.
She was finally located in one of the luxury seating areas, clear across the
stadium from her ticketed seat, without a ticket for the area where she was
found, and how she evaded the ushers who check tickets for persons arriving
in that area remains a mystery. The staff of the assisted living area who
brought her to the stadium were quite concerned, and also mystified on how
she eluded their supervision.
This event, which fortunately had a happy ending, scared me quite a bit.
This woman had come, in a group, with several trained staff members
supervising, and with other attendees at the game in the group. She still
managed somehow to wander away, she did not have a ticket with her, and was
unable to answer staff questions when they did find her. This, of course,
was the important fact which put her back in the company of the supervising
staff from her facility.
Contemplating your sister, on her own, away from home, with her own needs to
eat, sleep, visit the bathroom seems as Evelyn said - a trip to pure hell.
Remembering my own level of discomfort that afternoon at the ballpark, when
I didn't even know the person we were looking for makes me regard the
prospect as a nightmare.

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> He keeps saying he wants to go home to Texas so my sister made reservations
> to go. The reservations are on Amtrak because she felt she could handle him
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> He even said she had something going with his brother and they both kept his
> money.
tell your sister that HE CANNOT REASON and she needs to stop
attempting to reason with him. his brain is broken, and he is
incapable of making any rational decision. she needs to make all
the decisions now, whether he likes it or not.
AD patients often express a wish to "go home". what they want to
do is return to the time and place where everything made sense
and they felt safe. the best she can do is try to make him feel
safe.
she really should get him some meds to help with his delusions
and relieve all the distress that they are both encountering. she
should discuss this with his doctor, along with strategies for
giving him medication in food or drinks if he won't take it.