I feel so sorry for your sister.   She may need to find some way to get this
situation under control sometime soon.   There was a lady who used to post
here named Sandra and her husband had been a policeman.... actually a
trooper.   He was abusive and violent too.   He wouldn't let her change his
underwear and help him clean up when he'd been incontinent, and he'd try to
hit her.   Finally he passed away.... she'd taken care of him at home till
the end.   She went through an awful time.

Brianna:

It sounds like he needs more of a GERIATRIC psychiatrist.  It was the
same deal with my late Mother.  The social worker we used recommended
one who was absolutely great.  He was always willing to work with me
to get her medications right.  Her dementia was probably brought on by
mini-strokes.  Later, when I found out more about him, it turns out
he's actually very well known in the psychiatric field.  Yet, at the
same time, he saw your regular old everyday patients.  I really do
believe he actually CARES about the people he was helping and it
wasn't just for the dollars.  I was able to email him with questions,
he always answered and never charged additional, just an all around
great guy.

Thanks to him, we got some extra time with my Mother that we wouldn't
have had otherwise.

If there's a social worker in the area that deals with this type of
thing, they might be able to point you in the right direction.  I hope
you get as lucky as we did.

It also sounds like your Sister could really use a break.  This has
gotta be killing her.  I know where she's coming from, though.  My
Wife and I were determined to keep my Mother here as long as
possible.  Unfortunately, we didn't get that chance at the very end of
her life.  But I do understand where your Sister is coming from.

I certainly wish you the best of luck...

Charles R. Whealton
Charles Whealton @ pleasedontspam.com