My brother-in-law continues to want things all the time. He wants water,
napkins, get me this, get me that. This goes on all night long. Sister very
exhausted. I feel so sorry for him because I know he is ill but I am
concerned about my sister's health too.
Why does he continue to be demanding like that. If she doesn't do what he
wants, then he starts cursing her and calls her every name in the book.
she cannot put him in a nursing home because they are very expensive, even if
they took all his SS, then she would be so limited in her income.
Bri
Evelyn Ruut - 14 Mar 2008 00:48 GMT
Brianna, I believe I have mentioned to you before, that your sister needs to
get him on the right medication to limit his agitation, which manifests by
his nagging her like that.

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> My brother-in-law continues to want things all the time. He wants water,
> napkins, get me this, get me that. This goes on all night long. Sister
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> Bri
Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 15 Mar 2008 17:32 GMT
Bri, as Evelyn says, this behavior is "agitation" behavior. He needs
some anti-anxiety meds. A lot of people with AD get into this. They
can fuss continually about a specific thing they get fixated on, or
fuss in general - its just restlessness.
He absolutely can't control this, nor is he doing it on purpose. He
has no insight into his own behavior, much less the impact it has on
those around him. Its really pointless to be annoyed with him, given
that annoyance implies he is doing something he could stop if he
wanted to. He needs some meds to bring his anxiety and agitation down
a notch or two, and then he won't be up pacing around and worrying at
her.
She should see a lawyer about their financial situation and the
medicare/medicaid rules where they live and do some planning. The
thing is, for sure he will get worse and worse, so if she's at the end
of her rope now, it won't improve with time. She needs an informed
plan, because she may have to place him eventually just to survive.
M.