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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Alzheimer's / March 2008granddad update
Sorry for no posts for a while... I hadnt been to see granddad for a couple of months, so many problems here, wont go into the details...i had got a camper van for me and the dog which wasnt road legal (got it from Berlin) here in UK Monday went to see granddad with the dog...he didnt recognise me, but worst of all he didnt recognise Arthur... we got there as it was dinner time, so we said hello, and then waited in his room... He came about 30 min later...he talked to us like people passing in the street...nothing personal...ok we hadnt been for a while (something told me not to go, like i did once or twice a week, i was dreading this day coming, but i kept telling myself it would never happen to me) I wanted to go and see him, no matter how i felt so we went... I asked him how he was, said fine....how are we... i guess i knew this day was coming, i would never belive it...i still dont. it wasnt my grandfather, it was like watching that movie with the alien pods, when people sleep, they wake...look the same, but something isnt right... At the weekend, i drove into the countyside with the campervan, so me and A could have a nice time, lots of walks and new smells...i even found the campsite my grandparents took me to in the 70's...the same big sign...i suddenly went back in time to being a kid, like we would go on Sat afternoon, after my grandparents would close there corner shop for the weekend, play in the field...Sunday morning granddad would wake me at 4am in the caravan, take me fishing (thats when he taught me to drive at the age of 8ish sat on his knew)....fish until dinnertime and drive back, nan would have dinner ready... the campsite was exactly how it was...apart from being not open yet. maybe that was a sign... i want to go and see him again at the weekend, maybe he will be better and remember us, could this happen? hope everyone is ok  Signatureplease use my email on my homepage www.julianhales.co.uk im phasing out this email over the next month or so..... Im against hanging, im well hung as it is! > Monday went to see granddad with the dog...he didnt recognise me, but worst > of all he didnt recognise Arthur... I'm so sorry. Jules. We're always ready for this but never really ready when it finally happens. Wishing you and Arthur great times together. (BTDT) Bud Jules, he might recognize you and Arthur next time, or he might not. You never can tell how the brain is going to work. But you know him and love him, so do keep going. Gwen >> Monday went to see granddad with the dog...he didnt recognise me, but >> worst [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > Bud Hi Jules, It is so nice to hear from you again. It's a shame your grandfather didn't recognize you, but that might have been because you didn't visit for a couple of months. If you go again on the weekend maybe he will recognize you then. You know, they get good days and bad days. I may have mentioned to you about the time when Ida forgot who I was. I had taken her on a ride for only about 100 miles down to visit my father. She was impossible to deal with the whole time, and finally I had to drive her home because she was just being so difficult. On the way home I realized she didn't know who I was. Only after we got home and had put her to bed for the night, the next morning she knew who I was again. I suggest the next time you visit your grandfather, you should go early in the morning. They are always a bit more clear in the mornings. Late afternoons are the most difficult times, and you may have heard us speak around here of "sundowning" which means difficult behavior in the late afternoons. So next time you visit him, try going in the morning. Best Regards, Evelyn > Sorry for no posts for a while... > [quoted text clipped - 49 lines] > > hope everyone is ok > Sorry for no posts for a while... > [quoted text clipped - 46 lines] > > Im against hanging, im well hung as it is! Jules: Great to hear from you! However, I'm sorry to hear about the visit with your Grandfather and him not remembering you. It's this way quite often, Jules. No matter how you prepare for something - them forgetting you, them dying, etc., it's never easy even though you KNOW it could happen, or it's going to happen, and why. However, as Evelyn mentioned, perhaps if you go in earlier in the day, you'll have better luck. You might also try bringing up some of the things that your Grandmother, Grandfather, and you all used to do together to see if that jogs his memory. I can't imagine how hard that's gotta be. No matter what, my Mother, Aunt and Uncle always remembered me. I was lucky. My Aunt did finally forget who her Daughter in Law was. Just keep visiting and doing what you're doing. You'll never have any regrets for doing that, despite the fact that it might get increasingly hard. I know there are a couple people here who would probably disagree with that and say that it'll make it harder on you (and there's truth to that), but I look at it as when your Grandfather does ultimately go, you'll know you were there till the bitter end for him. That is something you won't regret. Jules? Why is it that hearing from you makes me want to stop by the "Flavour of Britain" and purchase some McVittie's products? :-) Take care, and tell your excellent dog Arthur I said "Hello". Charles R. Whealton Charles Whealton @ pleasedontspam.com
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