I'm hoping it has to do with the cold she seems to have caught but for
the first time my mother did not seem to be able to lift her head.
Balance was worse than usual as well. I think I'd heard that this may
happen eventually cold or no cold and I'm wondering if there's anything
that people (in a nursing home or elsewhere) do about it. Are there
neck braces or something?
Thanks,
John
General info.
Mother born in '25. Diagnosed in '03. Hasn't spoken since about Sep.
of '06. Can't walk without assistance. Can't get out of a chair
without help.
sweetpickleNO@SPAMknology.net - 20 Feb 2008 16:55 GMT
John, sorry I can't help you.
Gwen
> I'm hoping it has to do with the cold she seems to have caught but for the
> first time my mother did not seem to be able to lift her head. Balance was
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> help.
deerwoodflower@hotmail.com - 20 Feb 2008 17:52 GMT
> John, sorry I can't help you.
> Gwen
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John,
So sorry to hear that.I have no clue though what they do for
that.Hopefully someone will,Barb
Evelyn Ruut - 20 Feb 2008 18:53 GMT
John, how about one of those small travel pillows shaped like a U ?

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> I'm hoping it has to do with the cold she seems to have caught but for the
> first time my mother did not seem to be able to lift her head. Balance was
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> '06. Can't walk without assistance. Can't get out of a chair without
> help.
John M - 21 Feb 2008 10:59 GMT
Thanks for your reply. I think it'd have to be in the front of her neck
(she sort of slumps forward) and I'd be a little worried about her
having breathing problems. Might be worth a try though.
> John, how about one of those small travel pillows shaped like a U ?
Beth Heimlich - 20 Feb 2008 21:29 GMT
John, You can hope that her decrease in head control is a fleeting thing
and tomorrow will be better. If it's part of the slow decline, then I
would suggest getting a reclining wheelchair as it has a head support on
it. Collars and propping alone are not going to encourage volitional
movement and are only a stop-gap measure She needs her head supported
for feeding and sufficient oxygen intake. Be sure and get a seat
cushion for in the chair, and her bottom will have to be monitored for
redness and skin breakdown. Ideally, these folks should be moved around
(from bed to chair, to maybe recliner often-as in hourly.
Best wishes,
Beth, Physical Therapist in Maryland
John M - 21 Feb 2008 11:01 GMT
Thanks. Not sure what a reclining wheelchair is but I'll look into it.
John
> John, You can hope that her decrease in head control is a fleeting thing
> and tomorrow will be better. If it's part of the slow decline, then I
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> Beth, Physical Therapist in Maryland
SJF - 22 Feb 2008 21:57 GMT
> I'm hoping it has to do with the cold she seems to have caught but for the
> first time my mother did not seem to be able to lift her head. Balance was
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> '06. Can't walk without assistance. Can't get out of a chair without
> help.
My wife was in the dementia ward of a nursing home which appeared to
maintain a very high quality of patient care. One of the patients there was
unable to hold his head erect. It seemed that this was accepted with no
effort at correction. Except for appearances, I couldn't see what benefit
support might have provided.
SJF
John M - 23 Feb 2008 11:27 GMT
>>I'm hoping it has to do with the cold she seems to have caught but for the
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> SJF
I was just thinking her life might be a little better if she could look
at something rather than her own lap. At any rate she seems to have
improved a bit (I guess it was the cold causing the problem) but I have
a feeling today's temporary downturn is tomorrow's normal state. You'd
think I'd get used to it, but every step down seems to put me at a new
level of sadness and despair.
John
Evelyn Ruut - 24 Feb 2008 12:00 GMT
>>>I'm hoping it has to do with the cold she seems to have caught but for
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> John
John, caregiver depression is very real. It took us both at least 6 mos.
to even begin to come out of it after my mother in law died. All I can
tell you is that it will not help either of you if you go into that deep
depression. Do all you can to stop it from happening. The most important
thing is physical activity. Exercise releases natural brain chemicals that
naturally fight depression. Stay involved in whatever hobbies and
enjoyments you involved with before. Don't hole up in the house and see no
one. Clean the house, get out, organize and tidy everything up. Eat
right and get out as often as you can and maintain your interest in just
about anything that ever gave you pleasure. Those are the strategies that
helped us.

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deerwoodflower@hotmail.com - 24 Feb 2008 22:03 GMT
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Evelyn,
I can attest to it taking 6 months.I am at 1 month of my mom
passing and it still seems like yesterday.I am trying not to let it
consume me.But its all i can think of.Mainly the nature of her
death.But i am working at it.Barb
Evelyn Ruut - 25 Feb 2008 01:02 GMT
On Feb 24, 6:00 am, "Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.r...@gmail.com> wrote:
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Evelyn,
I can attest to it taking 6 months.I am at 1 month of my mom
passing and it still seems like yesterday.I am trying not to let it
consume me.But its all i can think of.Mainly the nature of her
death.But i am working at it.Barb
Barb,
Your mom would want you to be happy.
Make it a conscious and active choice.
You owe it to yourself.
:-)

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