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garagecapital - 13 Dec 2007 14:43 GMT I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother dismissed it as old age dementia. But I believe she is just in denial or stigmatizes Alzheimer's. I think with the prescription we are pretty much past that. But when I see my father do I openly discuss Alzheimers or is this a family/communication issue that really isn't for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt.
Evelyn Ruut - 13 Dec 2007 16:25 GMT >I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three > years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt. Hi my friend,
If your dad is on Aricept, it is a pretty safe bet that the doctor feels there is a good reason for it. I wonder if he has been tested for everything? There are lots of things that cause memory and cognitive problems and not all of them are alzheimers. Your mother may not have mentioned whether he had testing done three years ago when he first showed signs. It would be good if you could talk to his doctor yourself and find out exactly what was tested etc.
There is no strict timetable for how long your dad has left. It could be within a three year period, but there are those who can stay alive for many years with the illness. In my mother in laws case, she was showing symptoms in 1999 and she died in 2005 of pancreatic cancer..... so she didn't die of alzheimers. However the last year of her life she was in a nursing home due to her growing more and more incapacitated. From her diagnosis in the year 2000 till she died, she slowly became more and more confused, and ultimately unable to walk by herself even for a few feet without falling down. Ultimately we couldn't cope with her incontinence and incapacity ourselves and reluctantly we had to place her in a nearby nursing home where she got excellent care until the end.
She started out just a bit confused and forgetful and very depressed, which spurred us to take her for full testing and diagnosis. It only got worse and worse over time, not better. The life expectancy timetable is different for everyone it seems. I have been posting here and reading here for many years now, and everyones loved one seems to have a different schedule. The gentleman who just posted that his wife passed away, came here around the same time I did, and his wife was pretty much suffering from the same level of impairment as my mother in law at that time. His wife just passed, and she did pass from the illness itself, not from another disease. So in her case it took about 7 yrs. We have heard of shorter and longer times from others.
The most important thing you need to know now, is whether or not your father went to an elder law specialist attorney when he first got alzheimers, and if your mother or yourself is his health care proxy, and whether they took any steps to preserve his estate, and if he has all the appropriate paperwork in place, will, DNR, living will, etc.
You need to know what will happen when your mom can't handle his illness at home anymore..... and I assure you that day WILL come. We were two people, not one, and we reached that point after about 4 years. She had terrible delusions, and grew more and more incontinent and unable to hold herself up. It was a very difficult time and our only regret is that we didn't place her in that nursing home a lot sooner. We nearly killed ourselves trying to care for her at home to the end, and we aren't the only ones who did that. Others here have done the same. It would have been better to let someone else do the harder caretaking work and visited her when we were at our well-rested best.
At any rate, this is a great newsgroup. Feel free to ask questions. Lots of good people here. Oh.... and don't listen to the wackos. We do have a few trollish types as do all the usenet groups.
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Ellen 01 - 13 Dec 2007 17:16 GMT > >I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been > > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother [quoted text clipped - 64 lines] > > Evelyn Hello I am also new in this group, My mother have alzheimers, she is very young now 67 years, and the symptoms started before she went 60 ... In the start we just laugh when she said something funny...but we learn.. better.. But she moved to a home for only persons with alzheimers they are only 10 people there, and she is so happy to bee there. But I can only say it is important that the person with alzheimer not move to late.. It is important that they now where they are.. So they feel it is there home.. Kind regards Ellen
Evelyn Ruut - 13 Dec 2007 18:12 GMT >> >I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been >> > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother [quoted text clipped - 101 lines] > home.. > Kind regards Ellen Hi Ellen,
Welcome to the group nobody wants to join! Yes, you are right. We waited far longer than we should have, but fortunately, my mother in law adjusted easily. She too was in a separate wing of the nursing home that was only for people with alzheimers. They treated her very well there.
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Alan Holbrook - 14 Dec 2007 11:05 GMT > .. >>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message <snip>
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>> Kind regards Ellen > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > home that was only for people with alzheimers. They treated her very > well there. Unfortunately, there is also the other side of adjusting to a nursing home. My mother-in-law spent the last few years of her life in an Alzheimer's care facility and _she_ adjusted well. But my wife, 59 years old and diagnosed with EOAD a couple of years ago, has made it very plain to me that she will not go gently into that particular dark night and I'd better not be thinking about a home for her. Not a situation I'm looking forward to at all when the time comes, for a number of reasons...<sigh>...
Evelyn Ruut - 14 Dec 2007 11:58 GMT >> .. >>>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > not be thinking about a home for her. Not a situation I'm looking forward > to at all when the time comes, for a number of reasons...<sigh>... Hi Alan,
Ask her what sort of alternative plans she has in mind. After all at some point in the illness she is going to need other peoples efforts, committments, and personal care, which COULD become exhausting and even an imposition at some point. It isn't fair to involve other people for more than they are reasonably willing to give.
Over the years we have seen a lot of people who posted here, and many of them were completely committed to caring for their loved one at home, until the end, no matter what it entailed or how long it took. Some have been able to do it alone, some have been able to do it with lots of hired help, and the vast majority have found it just got too impossible to manage at a certain point and realized they needed a break.
I would tell your wife that you will take care of her at home as long as you possibly can.... assuming that is what you want to do, but that if you begin to lose your own mental or physical health, there needs to be an alternative plan in place. Nursing homes would go out of business if people all could care for their loved ones at home and it was no trouble at all. What does one do when their loved one becomes completely incontinent, and falls down the instant they try to stand up? What does one do when you get sick yourself? How can you care for someone when you are completely burnt out?
One of the things I really believe, is that it is important that a person who has alzheimers be kept at peace. I think you should tell them anything that brings them peace, and that includes not arguing endlessly with them about their mistaken views of reality (it's real to them) and answering the same question a million times over every day. If your wife is afraid of going to a nursing home, tell her she is no problem at all and that you will care for her as long as you are able.
Life changes, circumstances change. If it gets too hard, you need to have an "out," but you shouldn't tell her that, especially if it upsets her. In fact my mother in law was afraid of going into a nursing home, and when she did go, we told her it was a hospital and if she got better she would come home. Of course she never did, but we wanted her to feel some hope and to work with the therapists there, and to realize she wasn't dumped there or abandoned. By the time that situation rolled around, she was already deep into her illness. I don't know how much cognition she had of any of it, but we treated her with love and respect throughout. We visited her. We met with the staff about various issues.... meds, therapy, diet, medical treatment. We picked a place that took good care of her.
If she is fearful of nursing homes, don't tell her you plan to put her in one. But there are some promises that are impossible to keep, and by the time she is truly needful of professional care, she won't be all that concerned about who is dressing her, feeding her, or where she lays her head at night, but it might mean a great deal to you.
Of course, this is my personal opinion, having cared for someone through the illness. I don't think it is unkind to tell her anything that will put her mind at rest for a day or a month or a year or three or however long it will be. But I draw the line at damaging ones own mental or physical health for anyone else. Only you will know how long you can manage it before it takes a toll.
Ultimately it is probably better to have professionals caring for a person rather than a disgruntled, exhausted, burnt out relative who is at their wits end. Better you should get a good nights sleep and visit her refreshed the next day, if it comes down to it. But don't cross that bridge till you come to it. Keep her happy and at peace any way you need to.
Just my take on it......
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A R Pickett - 14 Dec 2007 14:26 GMT Evelyn wrote in part -
>Ultimately it is probably better to have professionals caring for a person >rather than a disgruntled, exhausted, burnt out relative who is at their >wits end. Evelyn had an excellent summary. And another little snippet of truth has been mentioned here before as well, and that is the reference to the airlines' instructions for oxygen masks - to place your own on your mouth and nose before you attempt to help others.
What my siblings and I experienced with my Dad is that he was completely unable to evaluate his own situation by the time he moved to the retirement complex where he lived out the last five years of his life. When we realized how deficient his reasoning was, we packed a truck and moved him. His reasoning was shot, we had to reason for him, and act accordingly.
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Chuck Whealton - 14 Dec 2007 21:11 GMT > Evelyn wrote in part - > [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > > Remove lower case "e" to respond You're VERY lucky, A.R. My Uncle was suffing from pick's disease, and when my cousins tried this he got himself a lawyer and made their life a living nightmare. He then somehow managed to fool his doctor - don't ask me how. We all knew there was a serious problem and in the end, his lawyer and doctor finally caught a clue. Not before putting my cousins through a lot of unnecessary mental anguish.
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A R Pickett - 15 Dec 2007 01:52 GMT Chuck wrote - > You're VERY lucky, A.R. My Uncle was suffing from pick's disease, and
> when my cousins tried this he got himself a lawyer and made their life > a living nightmare. He then somehow managed to fool his doctor - > don't ask me how. We all knew there was a serious problem and in the > end, his lawyer and doctor finally caught a clue. Not before putting > my cousins through a lot of unnecessary mental anguish. Yes, I know we were fortunate in many respects.
But my father's dementia was not all sweetness and light.
His finances became a nightmarish tangle, and we're still struggling with the fallout from that, close to a year after his death.
He was incontinent, and the staff at his residence refused to take steps to help him with that.
He stopped bathing.
His sense of timing was completely out of whack, and this resulted in quite a few surreal social occasions.
I could go on and on. I think it's dangerous to try to say "so and so's situation is worse than what's her name's" All conditions which result in a degenerative dementia, of whatever type, spell difficulties, heartache, and physical and emotional stress for those who hold the patient dear.
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Chuck Whealton - 16 Dec 2007 15:07 GMT > Chuck wrote - > You're VERY lucky, A.R. My Uncle was suffing from pick's > disease, and [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] > > Remove lower case "e" to respond A.R.
By no means did I mean to imply that your overall situation was better or worse than what my cousins went through with my Uncle. I'm sorry if it came off that way. It was NOT my intention.
All I meant was that you were lucky in that ONE instance, that he didn't fight you in court and manage to full his lawyer and doctor, while you were trying to help him - nothing more.
Have a great holiday!
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A R Pickett - 16 Dec 2007 16:22 GMT Chuck wrote - > A.R.
> By no means did I mean to imply that your overall situation was better > or worse than what my cousins went through with my Uncle. I'm sorry [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > didn't fight you in court and manage to full his lawyer and doctor, > while you were trying to help him - nothing more. First of all Chuck, please call me Woodstock. And I know we were quite fortunate, because my father could be very very stubborn. As my sister described him, he could give lessons to granite boulders. However in this instance, I think a part of him (a very small part) was aware how impossible his situation was and was relieved in a way that his children provided a way out. He was unable to do that for himself by that time, but also unable to voice his dilemma.
I know you didn't intend that meaning, and I didn't read your message that way. But ASA regulars often caution that lurkers may be reading our conversations, and I wanted to broaden the scope of your comments to say a little more about my dad's overall situation. The social contact and regular meals he gained after he moved improved his overall health dramatically. After a couple of years, however, the dementia gained the upper hand again, and things began to get grim.
He had vascular dementia, the aftermath of a series of TIA's, only one of which sent him for emergency medical treatment.
> Have a great holiday! Thanks, I'll do my best, and you do the same! This is the first year with both my parents gone, and it feels more than a little strange.
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Ellen 01 - 14 Dec 2007 14:45 GMT > >> .. > >>>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message [quoted text clipped - 91 lines] > > Evelyn It is me again Ellen Yes I thing Evelyn is right... And now, your wife is able to do some thing..But you dont now how fast it will go and how bad it will bee... I feel with you
Alan Holbrook - 15 Dec 2007 10:11 GMT >>><snip>>
> Hi Alan, > [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > even an imposition at some point. It isn't fair to involve other > people for more than they are reasonably willing to give.
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> Ultimately it is probably better to have professionals caring for a > person rather than a disgruntled, exhausted, burnt out relative who is [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Just my take on it...... Oh, there's no question it will happen eventually, Everything you've said is not only correct but is exactly the way I'm looking at it and the way I intend to pursue when the time comes. I simply said I wasn't looking forward to it!...:-)
Evelyn Ruut - 15 Dec 2007 12:26 GMT >>>><snip>> > [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > the way I intend to pursue when the time comes. I simply said I wasn't > looking forward to it!...:-) I can surely relate to that! :-)
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Dennis P. Harris - 16 Dec 2007 07:11 GMT > If she is fearful of nursing homes, don't tell her you plan to put her in > one. But there are some promises that are impossible to keep, and by the > time she is truly needful of professional care, she won't be all that > concerned about who is dressing her, feeding her, or where she lays her head > at night, but it might mean a great deal to you. what she said! been there, done that.
there are several things you need to do NOW to ensure that you will be able to do that with a minimum of hassle when the time comes. one is to start looking for the right facility NOW, and get her on the waiting list, so that she will be at the top of the list when you need to place her. this will give you a chance to vet the facility thoroughly, and make sure it is well run and a good choice.
second, you need to make sure that you have all your legal work done and in place, in case 1) anything happens to you and you can no longer care for her or make decisions for her and 2) to make sure that you can protect as much of your assets as possible from having to pay for her care. for this, you need the assistance of an attorney skilled in elder law in your jurisdiction. if you do not know of one, ask your local alzheimers' association chapter, which you can locate via www.alz.org
Ellen 01 - 14 Dec 2007 14:39 GMT > > .. > >>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > not be thinking about a home for her. Not a situation I'm looking forward > to at all when the time comes, for a number of reasons...<sigh>... Thanks for the welcome, Yes it is very hard decision to take, My mother was living alone, She have been toghether with her new "husbond " for 20 years but they never moved togheter, They were not married And in the end she was so thin, because she forgot to eat.. And she was forgetting everything all the time.... But from when she was driving her car, and able to live by herself to only 2 years after ....it went very fast for her.. in the bad direction. I was also thinking to take care of here, I have always bee very closed to my mother.. But I am not living in the same country as her, and she is so happy for her "husbond" He is visiting her almost every day.. But you will always ask yourself is this the right thing to do... And there is really not an answer to that,,, My mothers biggers concerning ( when she was able to thing that way ) was if me and My sister would get the disease... Because My grandmother also had Alzheimer... Now she is very bad, she is always very happy..But she can only reconaise me and her "husbond " It is so hard to see a person you love going into the darknes.... But when she is togheter with a dog, she clears up...and can also talk more than totally nonsens... So now we found a visiting dog, he is coming toghether with the owner and go for a work... And my mother loves it..... She laugh and enjoying herself...That is so nice to see... Kind regards Ellen
Frederick G Young - 25 Dec 2007 07:31 GMT Alan, I endorse everything that Evelyn has said. Whenever I would tell people that my wife had alzheimers and was in a nursing home they would always say how awful it must be. It became my standard answer to say that it's impossible to grieve for x number of years and once the wife or husband goes into the nursing home the unafflicted spouse has to accept that their life will never be the same again. The hardest thing for me to do was to pass my wife into the care of the home, turn my back on it and walk away for the first time. I recognised later that her life was going to be in that place and mine was outside. You do all you can to ensure that they are treated well and are reasonably contented with life. You fulfill your responsibilites and enter their world at intervals and then for your own sanity you have to start creating a new life. If you don't and you dedicate your life to being with the spouse at all times and forego a normal life, then the disease has in fact claimed two victims. You and your spouse. Gradually the one in care will disappear before your eyes, not know who you are or be aware of anything in their life including you. There was one man whose wife had a severely damaged brain from meningitis. he lived close to the home where his wife was. Everyday he went to the home at mid-day and was with his wife at lunch. This went on for over ten years. His health was being seriously affected. One day his wife died from pneumonia caused by aspiration of food. After she died and was no longer there he still came in for a short while then I heard he had died. he was in his late sixties. He didn't change his life when it would have been better for him if he had. His wife would have been affected very little, if at all. Meningitis had claimed two lives, not one. It is quite well known for the care giver to die before the one being cared for. Undoubtedly the stress takes it's toll.
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>> .. >>>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > not be thinking about a home for her. Not a situation I'm looking forward > to at all when the time comes, for a number of reasons...<sigh>... august - 13 Dec 2007 23:17 GMT >I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three > years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt. Buy a copy of the 36 Hour Day and read it cover to cover and you will then have the tools to ask the right questions and to get an idea of what staging your father might be at. He may not have AD but one of the numerous other dementias. If he is taking Aricept, chances are he is early on in the disease but if he has been taking it for three years then who knows, since some people progress rapidly and some do not.
http://www.amazon.com/36-Hour-Day-Alzheimer-Dementing-Illnesses/dp/0446610410Your mother's denial is typical but will just make things more difficult inthe long run. Discuss things privately with your father since your mothermight take a group discussion of his illness as a challenge. Just hope theyboth do not have it. My parents both have (or had) dementia to varyingdegrees.Welcome to the group no one wants to join. AWbtw- Did anyone else notice in the new movie Away From Her (where JulieChristie plays a woman with AD) that her husband is reading a copy of The 36Hour Day during the movie? This movie is highly recommended if you have notalready seen it.
garagecapital - 14 Dec 2007 00:28 GMT > >I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been > > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > http://www.amazon.com/36-Hour-Day-Alzheimer-Dementing-Illnesses/dp/04...mother's denial is typical but will just make things more difficult inthe long run. Discuss things privately with your father since your mothermight take a group discussion of his illness as a challenge. Just hope theyboth do not have it. My parents both have (or had) dementia to varyingdegrees.Welcome to the group no one wants to join. AWbtw- Did anyone else notice in the new movie Away From Her (where JulieChristie plays a woman with AD) that her husband is reading a copy of The 36Hour Day during the movie? This movie is highly recommended if you have notalready seen it. Thanks much for your postings and I invite. I'll ponder over what has already been advised. To respond to questions; The Aricept started about three months ago after some testing, but it has been obvious the confusion has been there for two to three years and not getting better. Unfortunately, my mother, 74, is a control freak and has numerous other issues and my sister and I cannot get a lot of straight or consistent answers, although I believe the paperwork is in order. I am curious about Aricept and non-AD dementia. I recall reading in a couple places that it is not given for non-AD dementias. That is not true?
august - 15 Dec 2007 06:33 GMT Buy a copy of the 36 Hour Day and read it cover to cover and you will then have the tools to ask the right questions and to get an idea of what staging your father might be at. He may not have AD but one of the numerous other dementias. If he is taking Aricept, chances are he is early on in the disease but if he has been taking it for three years then who knows, since some people progress rapidly and some do not.
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Your mother's denial is typical but will just make things more difficult in the long run. Discuss things privately with your father since your mother might take a group discussion of his illness as a challenge. Just hope they both do not have it. My parents both have (or had) dementia to varying degrees.Welcome to the group no one wants to join. AW
btw- Did anyone else notice in the new movie Away From Her (where Julie Christie plays a woman with AD) that her husband is reading a copy of The 36Hour Day during the movie? This movie is highly recommended if you have not already seen it.
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Aricept is (generally speaking) not supposed to be used for other types of dementia but often is for a variety of reasons, mainly because many people are misdiagnosed by family Drs not really equipped to make a complicated dementia diagnosis. My family Dr still refers to my MIL as having AD when in fact she has vascular dementia. She tried several of the drugs used for AD and they helped a little but in the end caused more problems than they helped. Her condition remains fairly stable (other than her very advanced age) for 15+ years now because her dementia is due to a brain injury and not AD. You need to convice your mother that you are trying to help her with your Dad's situation. If she will not let you help, then things will only be worse for everyone involved. AW
august - 15 Dec 2007 06:36 GMT http://www.amazon.com/36-Hour-Day-Alzheimer-Dementing-Illnesses/dp/0446610410
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garagecapital - 15 Dec 2007 14:57 GMT > Buy a copy of the 36 Hour Day and read it cover to cover and you will then > have the tools to ask the right questions and to get an idea of what staging [quoted text clipped - 30 lines] > your Dad's situation. If she will not let you help, then things will only be > worse for everyone involved. AW Thanks for the information. (Unfortunately, it is an impossible situation with the sufferer's wife, my mother. Has been for three- quarters of a century and no reason to expect it to change now.)
Dennis P. Harris - 16 Dec 2007 07:28 GMT On Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:57:25 -0800 (PST) in alt.support.alzheimers, garagecapital <garagecapital@gmail.com> wrote:
> Thanks for the information. (Unfortunately, it is an impossible > situation with the sufferer's wife, my mother. Has been for three- > quarters of a century and no reason to expect it to change now.) If you have any siblings who will help you by taking a united position and confronting your mother, especially if you know their doc (or their pastor, if they are churchgoers) and can get some help from her/him, you may simply need to bite the bullet and insist that she pay attention to you. Sometimes this won't work at first, but it may once she becomes too exhausted from the effort of caring for him to resist. Rest assured that if she is elderly, she will eventually be unable to keep up the energy level to care for him.
The other thing that might make her listen is when there is some crisis, like wandering and getting lost, that will finally get her to pay attention or will require his hospitalization. Most hospitals have a social worker who will interview geriatric patients and their caregivers prior to their discharge after a hospital stay. They have been known to insist that the patient be discharged to a care facility rather than be sent home.
And finally, if she is neglectful or abusive, you can always report her to your state's Adult Protective Services office. While that can be hard step to take, it can be an intervention that a spouse in denial cannot ignore.
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Dec 2007 15:01 GMT > On Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:57:25 -0800 (PST) in > alt.support.alzheimers, garagecapital <garagecapital@gmail.com> [quoted text clipped - 26 lines] > While that can be hard step to take, it can be an intervention > that a spouse in denial cannot ignore. Usually it is the former situation Dennis has described. They do something like get lost, wander away and can't find their way back, do something strangely inappropriate, get into some situation that draws attention to their situation in such a way that it cannot be ignored any longer.
I had an uncle with alzheimers, who would continually fall down and be unable to get up again. My aunt was determined to keep him at home and care for him to the end. She would listen to no one. They had no estate preservation plans in place either. It finally got so she couldn't pick him up anymore when he would fall, so she began calling the police to have a squad car come by the house to help get him into bed or wherever.
Finally they got sick of the calls and doing nurses aide duty, and took him to a hospital, where the hospital refused to release him back home. He was placed in a nursing home, and my aunt got the bill and was horrified. She tried and tried to get them to release him back home to her, but somehow she was thwarted (thankfully).
Fortunately he passed within a couple of months after he had been placed in the nursing home, and the cost was astronomical even within that short time. My aunt had struggled trying to get him released back home, but was unsuccessful. I am sure that the office for the aging or some other agency must have gotten involved in that situation, although I don't know for sure.
This is the way it all too often goes. If people cannot make proper plans and organize their own situation, at a certain point authorities will step in and make the decision for them.
Wherein the danger lies, is that alzheimer patients have gotten lost in the woods and been found dead, or wandered for days and nearly died of exposure or thirst, and sometimes the situation which finally calls attention to their mental state is setting the house on fire, or hitting someone with their car, or something equally tragic.
Everyone sees stories like this in the newspaper, but few will connect it as a possibility to their own loved one who is suffering from "a little memory loss".
Back when my mother in law was diagnosed, the doctor told us in no uncertain terms that she should not be left alone for even a minute ever again. We took that seriously and did what we needed to take care of her. There already had been some near misses....such as leaving pots on the stove to burn up, getting lost in her own neighborhood, having hundred dollar bills falling out of her bag in front of strangers in NY city, and taking too many of her medications out of forgetfulness.
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A R Pickett - 16 Dec 2007 16:32 GMT Dennis wrote in part - >> The other thing that might make her listen is when there is some
>> crisis, like wandering and getting lost, that will finally get >> her to pay attention or will require his hospitalization. And Evelyn added - > This is the way it all too often goes. If people cannot make proper plans
> and organize their own situation, at a certain point authorities will step > in and make the decision for them. And something to keep in mind here - if the day arrives when hospital staff, physician, agency for the aging, whoever, moves to make a residential placement unavoidable, the patient will go where there is room.
Too often, the reason that particular facility has room is that no one else wants to go there, or place their family member there. Then, in order to get the patient moved to a more desireable location, the family deals with applications, waiting lists, transportation headaches and on and on.
The way to avoid all this, as Evelyn points out, is to "make proper plans and organize their own situation." And in the original poster's set of questions, it seems clear that his mother (MIL?) is unable to do that for her husband, and the ones able to act are the adult children.
None of this is a game for sissies. It was harder than I ever thought possible, and only my love for my Dad and for my sister kept me going, and I was a half a continent removed from the two of them. My sister is still coming out of the "burn out" Evelyn has described on several occasions.
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garagecapital - 16 Dec 2007 23:02 GMT On Dec 16, 2:28 am, NO_SPAM_TO_dphar...@gci.net (Dennis P. Harris) wrote:
> On Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:57:25 -0800 (PST) in > alt.support.alzheimers, garagecapital <garagecapi...@gmail.com> [quoted text clipped - 26 lines] > While that can be hard step to take, it can be an intervention > that a spouse in denial cannot ignore. Thanks for the advice; we'll ponder it all.
EddyJean - 14 Dec 2007 07:43 GMT Beginner Questions Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Thu, Dec 13, 2007, 6:43am From: garagecapital@gmail.com (garagecapital) I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother dismissed it as old age dementia. But I believe she is just in denial or stigmatizes Alzheimer's. I think with the prescription we are pretty much past that. But when I see my father do I openly discuss Alzheimers or is this a family/communication issue that really isn't for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt. ======================================
Old age doesn't cause dementia. Disease does. Old folks still have sharp minds into the nineties or more.
Since there's no serious research on Alzheimers, and the late Dr. James R. Hunt's great work on facial/cranial diseases in the early 1900s has been covered up, the most you'll likely get from your father's doctor is guesswork. Searching for a physician who is knowledgeable on dementing diseases is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Since your father's confusion is increasing, the disease is either progressing, or the medicine is making him worse. Some medications cause confusion and hallucinations. Everyone's different, what affects one may not affect another. Some go slow ---others fast. The will to live is a factor.
Oh, don't mind the trollish types. Its the newsgroup's mind controllers, and their agenda, that should be the concern.
You wrote, "Be blunt!"
EddyJean
P.S. Dr. James R. Hunt, the father of Neurooogy in the United States, must be turning in his grave
stopalz@gmail.com - 15 Dec 2007 22:07 GMT > I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three > years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt. Hello garagecapital; Perhaps you must see on the following studies. Do you know that more than 50% of persons diagnosed as alzheimer they aren´t, are false positive or false alzheimer? This is an extraordinary question indeed. PSYCHO-SOCIAL ALTERNATIVE THEORY ON THE SO CALLS ALZHEIMER ALZHEIMER´S PROJECT ARGENTINA, September 2007
Chronic Progressive Dementization, (CPD), the scientific name that would correspond to which vulgarly calls Alzheimer, is a quite different question from depression, the different types of psychosis and obviously also from surprising and novel conducts that appear sometimes with the normal aging. But in the long run much more serious, since it leads to death, if it doesn't stop on time. He is so extremely specific as low frequent, and has been over dimensioned in extreme proportions by ignorance of normal aging behaviors, with which it is confused many times, or simply to make a great business with it.
Although the final step of brain disintegration is quite similar, there are two types of processes: the one that occurs in young or greater adults and another different one that it happens in very greater adults, so to so of around 80 years old or more. In these the problem is "simply" the loss of the vital motivation, the desire´s exhaustion to continue living. Abandonment of dreams, as Miguel de Unamuno would say (1904) on the cession that Don Quixote in favor to Sancho did at the end of the history, for soon, obviously, dying. It's hardly ethical to catalogue these cases like patients, to dominate them and to impoverish them with useless medicines.
Risk's people for a DCP are those that generally have a introverted personality, had poor social relations, with tendency to isolation, difficulties to face the challenges of the life, tendency to depend on others, have constructed their personal identity under the shade or on shoulders of another one (the woman of the engineer, the husband of the owner, etc.), with cope deficit with normal life's difficulties, tendency to be self-absorbed on proper or another's painful events, which is and designates in general like depression.
IN NO WAY IT TOUCHES TO ANYONE. There is nothing of chance, neither suddenly nor magician in it. Neither familiar, nor infection, nor contamination, nor any physical indeed. Only an alone human in a blind alley.
With aging the probability that these people to suffer a painful loss increases, obviously, like everyone. Risk increases in them enormously without having capacity of facing of their painful and innermost losses, that can be of the husband who gave or lent their identity, of a children who gave their life's meaning, of their activities that justified their existence, of their corporal or mental capacity to which he had bet or concentrated. And when not counting on a familiar network or a social network to stop their fall after a non elaborate duel or to find an exit for it, the person collapses. It is the beginning of the aim. The duel impossible to solve drags to its own identity. It can have 40 years o. (the case younger than we have had was a girl of 38 years o.), or 80.
It doesn't any relation with aging (except in sanitary data), but only that when they advance the years is more probable that we suffer painful losses. Until this moment and much later its brain is like a quite normal ones, it does not show absolutely anything abnormal and it's totally useless to want to see something in images, including with the more sophisticated technology, and less even in electroencephalograms, that is something so coarse and inadequate as to try to observe a virus with our old magnifying glass of the school. The culture of the image, the sickly fascination by the image that comes from the TV consumption, has displaced to the logic, the common sense and the semeiology. But perhaps it is only part of another great business, since if possibly there were something in the brain, simply we would not know what to face with this information. And when indeed there is it, well at the end of the process, it has left everything exposed so the simple observation that returns to be useless.
The landslide of the person, its "delivery" as much in the dictionary of the Real Spanish Academy (already in the first edition, 1713) like in the original dictionaries of all the languages, is expressed in the idea to wish to die, in the fixation of the attention in its own one and wished death. There the abnormal, unnatural and destructive thing begins because in fact we are programmed biologically, ancestrally, for all the opposite, as it is to explore, to fight, to defend to us, to hunt (in symbolic and generic sense), to attack, to ask to us, to inquire to us, and our attention concentrated in each objective part of a basic alert status that we never lose, except for when we slept well, to recover of the permanent state of alert. We are not programmed to give to us tamely, as it is not it no animal. And rather that we are animals, no matter how hard the present cultures have blurred it.
In addition in the beginning, that can be weeks or months, the person enters and leaves the process. One resists to give itself and she even can attack, and she does not do it against the people although it seems, but against their reality, in which they does not find any place.
How takes place then the cerebral damage that leads to the death?
So that it is understood we must refresh some very basic things, although surprising little well-known and spread. In the first place that we have nine senses: vision, hearing, balance, tact, spatial perception, taste, smell, sense of strange it (or familiarity) and of the body perception. All these senses, and perhaps others more, are active from the basic alert status and have two components: an automatic one of immediate reaction (a light falls in love and blinking, I smell of ammoniac, that it is used in home cleaners and I am myself forced to separate away), and another one of recognition or identification, in which the stimuli are sent to the brain and there it is collated if that information has been loaded. They are the sensorial recognitions.
Then, EVERYTHING WHAT WE DO, EVERYTHING WHAT WE THOUGHT, BY MORE BANAL OR INSIGNIFICANT THAN IS, IS RECORDED IN THE BRAIN IN FORM OF A NEURONAL NETWORK IN WHICH INEXORABLY PARTICIPATE NEURONS OF THE SENSORIAL RECOGNITION SYSTEMS OF THE NINE SENSE CHANNELS: they are those that incorporate the key information that avoid us to act. And those networks that are armed in our brain also reinforce when we return to make the same act or generated the same thought, but in addition... because IN FACT ALL IS YET CONCECTED IN THE BRAIN WITH ALL; WHICH WE ARE GOING TO DO WILL BE CONNECTED WITH WHICH ALREADY WE HAVE DONE AND LOADED LIKE NEURONAL NETWORKS IN OUR BRAIN.
Some of those connections have a great importance in activities of dairy life, and others very remotely: although the door seems to us very heavy, already we know that the force is not to much that we must make to open it. That attraction by rates which they are multiple or submultiple of the heart rate (that that we listened for the first time from the uterus of our mother), would be related indeed with those. That is to say, to live means to be stimulating everything somehow what we have done, lived and thought. For that reason it is that when after a great activity of many years we happened to a sedentary situation, under lower stimuli, then letting connect to many areas of our neural brain networks, we began with the forgetfulnesses that as much fear they give us now, that has invented the Alzheimer like sword of Damocles to force to us to run to the pharmacies. Which will understand that it is useless, at least for the consumer.
However, when to fix attention to death, that is something abstract that does not generate necessity to us of motor or cognitive answer, and RESORTING TO THE NATURAL MECHANISM and AVAILABLE IN ALL to block the reception of other stimuli like when we concentrated the attention in something, these people happen to block, in the beginning in oscillating form, with variations throughout a day or of days, weeks or months, the sensorial stimuli of the different channels. It is basic a biological mechanism since we must be concentrated in the tiger that attacks to us and we cannot disperse with the colored birds that more back jig about: it is a survival principle. Who know more of the utility of this principle are the pickpockets of the agglomerations: one of them produces a smaller but clear aggression on the victim; this one is put in guard and concentrates its attention on the aggressor, while his companion removes the wallet or cuts the portfolio's strap, because we have blocked the tact and the body perception when putting to us in guard in front of the aggressor and concentrating the attention in him.
The displacement of the attention towards different objectives is normal and routine, but in the people who enter process DCP blocking persistently the reception of stimuli by the different sensorial channels and their consequent shipment the brain, it does that the neurons of the systems of sensorial recognition that comprise of the sensorial networks let to receive stimuli, with which in the long run lose the sinapsis connections, the connections between neuronal networks do not travel stimuli by the dendrites and the networks are disarmed. Something equivalent to the atrophy of a muscle that we did not use.
One frequent and a more common form of this process of a very hard fix attention fixing on something, but that is not to wish to die, it's happens in the normal aging, when the concentration in a painful fact (the death of a sister or brother, the divorce of a daughter, the disease of a grandson, etc.) it disperses to us, but we continued doing mechanical activities very known, like driving, to prick onions or to drive the key of the gas. And here it is another habitual source of that forgetfulness that confuse to all those related with the Alzheimer, that happens through the same.
As now we know that in fact we have at least nine sensorial channels, we can understand why the people with dementia don't recognize relatives, lose the sense of smell, the taste, the spatial orientation, reel or they fall, etc. They are that part of the cerebral functions that are losing when blocking the stimuli to have fixed obstinately the attention to the death desire. No longer they recognize, no longer have capacity of recovery of recent smaller events (weak neuronal networks, with low sensorial stimulation, easy to inactivate when they do not receive stimuli), and however still can recover events of the past. But anyone, but... only THOSE IN WHICH THE LIVED EVENTS (SENSORIAL NETWORKS ARMED IN THE PAST) WERE POSSIBLE WITH A GREAT STIMULATION (EMOTIONAL), PROTROCTADELY REINFORCED and CONNECTED WITH MULTIPLE OTHER SENSORIAL NETWORKS, LIKE THE DOOR OF STREET OF OUR CHILDHOOD´S HOME, by where we did not shelter, by where we shook to get dirty, by where we entered to eat, to find with the arms of our mothers or the severe but protective glance of our parents, etc. Then obviously the process of dissolution of the neuronal networks becomes difficult when it arrives at those emotional networks of the past, our true mental jewels. Thus he is then which the biological indicators more solids to detect the one that a person is in a dementia of this type are the faults of the systems of sensorial recognition. The PROGRESSIVE DISINTEGRATION OF The NEURONAL NETWORKS IN OUR BRAIN BY DEFICIT OF STIMULATION OF The SENSORIAL SYSTEMS OF RECOGNITION IS THE ESSENCE OF THE PROCESS OF THIS DEMENTIA, AND LEADS TO DEATH BECAUSE AN ESSENTIAL AUTOMATIC SYSTEM HAS CONNECTIONS WITH SENSORIAL NETWORKS YOU SPECIFY, THAT WHEN ALSO THEY GET TO BE AFFECTED, CAUSES OBVIOUSLY THE DEATH. Why is not wanted it to recognize, if it is so obvious? Perhaps because it would leave perhaps the majority of the supposed cases outside.
But the person is not conscious of the great damage there are caused to their self. Also their relatives and the majority of their doctors doesn't know the basic mechanism that produce the phenomena. The person is in a psychological paralysis forehead to the reality, she does not find the way to return to it, and they only wishes to die. Then, an order word, with the firmness and the affection of a father, could avoid the continuation of the process. And this explains why we have been able to even recover people with several years of medical diagnosis with this type of dementia.
Then it isn't properly a disease ("joint of signs and symptoms that responds to a well-known cause that is function of the doctor to neutralize"), is not genetic, it does not have to do with the aging (confusion comes from which to greater age, greater it's the probability of suffering personal painful losses, that are a very frequent trigger one, since we have already said), does not begin with any damage in the brain but that concludes in the long run in it, it isn't a problem of the memory but of the attention, and before this one of the motivation, and before this one of the search of satisfaction according to priorities, and before this one of the biological and psychological pulsions controlled or not by the will, and even before the basal state of alert that it perceives immediately what it is necessary to him, which him lack.
In short, that the memory is so depend on scenaries, circumstances and factors in that the central protagonist we are, who can think that in fact the memory are ourself. And although many along the man history tried it for perverse intentions, we are not reduced to a taxonomy simplification. To have centered and to have related this dementia to the memory, and to have located in the thought of which this one is an organization in himself, that have a physical or biologically localization, we think that it has been the origin of the great confusion that it has prevented until now understanding the phenomenon. Confusion and error that is reflected in a near percentage al 50 % of cases diagnosed and pharmacologically treated like "Alzheimer" and that is merely normal aging, so as we have been able to verify in Argentina, Spain, the Great Britain and United States. Merely aging with disattention to be fixing the attention to painful facts. Aging of women who are been in submission forced or allowed all their life and who have decided to break the scheme ("seventy-agers", or the rebellion of the 70), aging with forgetfulness to have passed to a life not only sedentary but also with many less stimuli, aging with affective, economic, social marginalization. Aging catalogued like patient because no longer they want, is not interested (they forget) to do what they always did: to mop plates, to clean the floors, to take care of the eighth grandson, to fix the car. Aging with ironies, sarcasms, fantasies and also aggressions as novel forms in which it express the difficulty of the communication, of the participation in the familiar or social life. A true alzheimerization of the greater adults, and the society everything, to which it is necessary to put a final point.
It remotely have the phenomenon nor the dimension that is said to have and in addition, the changes that come promptly producing, in special the freedom, independence and own construction of his own identity in the women and also in men, it is raising a dock to him of important containment, and who or we would do in betting to that change.
And finally, it isn't either irreversible, since it is possible and it gives clear and forceful result, to elevate to those people the self- esteem and the attention to him, and to permute the abstract idea of death wished by the one of a real life that surrounds it, with a alluvium of satisfactory stimuli that the person identifies like own, the shade by the light that surrounds us to all to little that we lend a little attention, taken care of and love, and inserting it soon in a new extolled dairy life. It isn't easy, it is an abyss of difference with giving a tablet, but he is tremendously positive as much for the affected ones as for which we worked with the protocols derived from the psycho social theory neuro sensorio desintegrative of progressive the chronic dementia, that are under free disposition to all.
It is an open theory that we hoped to finish constructing between all, between the relatives, the own ones affected, cargivers, and the free, independent, critical, studious, professionals and scientists, Prof.Lic.Luis María Sánchez, Neurobiologist, University of Entre Rios, Full Professor, Director, Alzheimer Project Argentina TE 0054 3442 431442 stopalz@gmail.com www.stopalz.org
Sanchez LM. Effect of social isolation, coping deficit after personal losses, apathy and perception blockade in patients with alzheimer´s disease. Rev Esp Geriatr Gerontol 2004;39(6):371-80. Sanchez LM. Progressive to acute social and psychosocial introversion features and behaviors toward alzheimer´s process. The I J World Health and Societal Politics 2005; 2(1). Sanchez LM. Teoría de la articulación de factores psicosociales y sensoriales deficientes en la desintegración cerebral en casos de Alzheimer. Geriatrianet.com 2006;8(2). Sanchez LM, Rubano MdelC, García JD, Cantero CR, Gárate LMT, Florentin BR. Behavioral factors and sensorial identification deficits as predictors for dementia of the alzheimer´s type. Rev Neurol. 2007;44(4):198-202.
Dennis P. Harris - 16 Dec 2007 07:17 GMT On Sat, 15 Dec 2007 14:07:31 -0800 (PST) in alt.support.alzheimers, "stopalz@gmail.com" <stopalz@gmail.com> wrote:
> Perhaps you must see on the following studies. Do you know that more > than 50% of persons diagnosed as alzheimer they aren´t, are false > positive or false alzheimer? This is an extraordinary question indeed. > PSYCHO-SOCIAL ALTERNATIVE THEORY ON THE SO CALLS ALZHEIMER > ALZHEIMER´S PROJECT ARGENTINA, September 2007 gc, this person is a well known troll in this group, on of our resident cranks, who belongs in the same killfile with the loonie that thinks viruses cause AD and can be treated with antibiotics, and the one who thinks that too much iron is the cause.
the best thing to do with these bozons is to hit the "block sender" button.
EddyJean - 16 Dec 2007 09:39 GMT Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus. I will explain it again, Dennis. Because viruses have been ignored for the past century, they've become stronger and deadlier. Read about the Superbugs lately? Viruses change. They're complex and mutate. Antibiotics are NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO FIGHT BACK A VIRUS; however, doctors' prescribe antibiotics all the time for repeated secondary infections caused by this virus. Thank God for antibiotics! Basically, that's the only thing we've got. When a facial/cranial disease has progressed too far (the point of no return), nothing helps. We have NO medicine (discovered in the early 1900s) that specifically fights back this virus except fend for yourself.
Since you seem to hold strong opposition to discussing the cause of Alzheimer's disease, who do you represent --a pharmaceutical company?
EddyJean
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Dec 2007 14:44 GMT Prove it EddyJean.
I notice you go back under your rock when someone asks you that.
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> Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of > scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus. [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > EddyJean EddyJean - 16 Dec 2007 18:36 GMT Re: Beginner Questions Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sun, Dec 16, 2007, 9:44am (PST+3) From: evelyn.ruut@gmail.com (Evelyn Ruut) Prove it EddyJean. I notice you go back under your rock when someone asks you that.
 Signature Best Regards, Evelyn "EddyJean" <eddyjean@webtv.net> wrote in message news:15736-4764F244-375@storefull-3175.bay.webtv.net... Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus. I will explain it again, Dennis. Because viruses have been ignored for the past century, they've become stronger and deadlier. Read about the Superbugs lately? Viruses change. They're complex and mutate. Antibiotics are NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO FIGHT BACK A VIRUS; however, doctors' prescribe antibiotics all the time for repeated secondary infections caused by this virus. Thank God for antibiotics! Basically, that's the only thing we've got. When a facial/cranial disease has progressed too far (the point of no return), nothing helps. We have NO medicine (discovered in the early 1900s) that specifically fights back this virus except fend for yourself. Since you seem to hold strong opposition to discussing the cause of Alzheimer's disease, who do you represent --a pharmaceutical company? EddyJean ===================================== Evelyn: Can Dennis not speak for himself? It's you and Dennis who oppose views that Alzheimers is caused by a virus. Neither one of you has produced a shred of scientific evidence that proves otherwise but kept yourselves hidden behind filters for weeks to avoid answering any questions. Dennis wrote he relies only on scientific facts. Since your so adamant that AD is not caused from a virus, tell me, and the viewers, why you think otherwise. Afterall, this name calling (troll, mentally ill, crazy, bozso, etc.) happened not only in Yr-2003 but again now. What is it you fear? You afraid someone may eventually find a cure to AD? Who do you, and your little group represent, the pharmaceuticals?
As I wrote several times before, a cure to AD was discovered in the early 1900s by the late great Dr. James R. Hunt. He treated patients for nearly 30 years, up to the time of his death. He was an "ICON", the father of neurology in the United States, a consultant to hospitals and mental institutions, yet few doctors heard of him or his discoveries. A coverup!
If your thinking how could anyone do this to suffering humanity by covering up research that finds an AD cure, remember the Tuskegee experiments on African American sharecroppers in Alabama? The experiments on the illiterate and poor men and women lasted four decades ending in the 1970s. Although penicillin was available to treat syphilis, many were given placebos when penicillin could have saved their lives. There were approximately 600 people at the start of the so-called "study" and only five survived. This resulted in many lawsuits against the U.S. Health Department.
EddyJean
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Dec 2007 19:45 GMT EddyJean,
It may very well be caused by a virus or a prion (like mad cow disease) or anything else, but
IT HASN'T YET BEEN PROVEN nor can it be disproved at this point.
Therefore you are batting your gums for nothing.
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Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sun, Dec 16, 2007, 9:44am (PST+3) From: evelyn.ruut@gmail.com (Evelyn Ruut) Prove it EddyJean. I notice you go back under your rock when someone asks you that.
 Signature Best Regards, Evelyn "EddyJean" <eddyjean@webtv.net> wrote in message news:15736-4764F244-375@storefull-3175.bay.webtv.net... Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus. I will explain it again, Dennis. Because viruses have been ignored for the past century, they've become stronger and deadlier. Read about the Superbugs lately? Viruses change. They're complex and mutate. Antibiotics are NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO FIGHT BACK A VIRUS; however, doctors' prescribe antibiotics all the time for repeated secondary infections caused by this virus. Thank God for antibiotics! Basically, that's the only thing we've got. When a facial/cranial disease has progressed too far (the point of no return), nothing helps. We have NO medicine (discovered in the early 1900s) that specifically fights back this virus except fend for yourself. Since you seem to hold strong opposition to discussing the cause of Alzheimer's disease, who do you represent --a pharmaceutical company? EddyJean ===================================== Evelyn: Can Dennis not speak for himself? It's you and Dennis who oppose views that Alzheimers is caused by a virus. Neither one of you has produced a shred of scientific evidence that proves otherwise but kept yourselves hidden behind filters for weeks to avoid answering any questions. Dennis wrote he relies only on scientific facts. Since your so adamant that AD is not caused from a virus, tell me, and the viewers, why you think otherwise. Afterall, this name calling (troll, mentally ill, crazy, bozso, etc.) happened not only in Yr-2003 but again now. What is it you fear? You afraid someone may eventually find a cure to AD? Who do you, and your little group represent, the pharmaceuticals?
As I wrote several times before, a cure to AD was discovered in the early 1900s by the late great Dr. James R. Hunt. He treated patients for nearly 30 years, up to the time of his death. He was an "ICON", the father of neurology in the United States, a consultant to hospitals and mental institutions, yet few doctors heard of him or his discoveries. A coverup!
If your thinking how could anyone do this to suffering humanity by covering up research that finds an AD cure, remember the Tuskegee experiments on African American sharecroppers in Alabama? The experiments on the illiterate and poor men and women lasted four decades ending in the 1970s. Although penicillin was available to treat syphilis, many were given placebos when penicillin could have saved their lives. There were approximately 600 people at the start of the so-called "study" and only five survived. This resulted in many lawsuits against the U.S. Health Department.
EddyJean
EddyJean - 17 Dec 2007 07:05 GMT EddyJean, It may very well be caused by a virus or a prion (like mad cow disease) or anything else, but IT HASN'T YET BEEN PROVEN nor can it be disproved at this point. Therefore you are batting your gums for nothing.
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Evelyn: The late Dr. James R. Hunt DID PROVE Alzheimers is caused by a virus and treated patients for 30 years before his death in 1937. Most of Dr. Hunt's "masterful" work and books have mysteriously disappeared. Only a few journal articles remain. There's a of money made treating sick people so why would the "greedy" want research to help the sick get well? There is no serious research on Facial/Cranial diseases, only a front to make us think researchers are hard at work. Ho, Ho, Ho!
I don't mind batting my gums. There's always a few that see the light.
EddyJean
deerwoodflower@hotmail.com - 20 Dec 2007 02:51 GMT > Re: Beginner Questions > [quoted text clipped - 53 lines] > > EddyJean As I wrote several times before, a cure to AD was discovered in the early 1900s by the late great Dr. James R. Hunt. He treated patients for nearly 30 years, up to the time of his death. He was an "ICON", the father of neurology in the United States, a consultant to hospitals and mental institutions, yet few doctors heard of him or his discoveries. A coverup.
Eddy Jean,Then share this cure with us and get it over with and make for a very nice holiday for us all.,Barb
Jules - 17 Dec 2007 02:49 GMT > Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of > scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus. [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > EddyJean I am fed up with f.cking arsehole c.nts ,you like you, me and other people like you, have to see people now, or in the past with this hatred suffering, not maybe only for the people who have it, but for the familes...i see each time i see my old man, nothing like the person i knew for many years, it f.cking kills me in inside, the only shred of f.cking piece i can feel inside, is that he doesnt know what he has, yet my late nan saw it in him before she died.....
The only happiness i give him, is to visit with my dog, and then he smiles, he knows me, he knows my dog...yet in a 1 hour visit he can ask the same question over and over, it took my years before i learnt to controlmy temper, it used to make me mad, he would ask over and over, he does now, 'how old is the dog now?' he f.cking knows, but cant remeber, and cant remember he just f.cking asked me...2 minutes before, 5 minutes before, the last f.cking visit over and over, he is a man, who raised me, was the most wodnerful man to me, and to anyone who knew him, yet now cant remember how old the f.cking dog is, cant remeber to take a f.cking bath, doesnt know what he just ate or what f.cking day it is, never mind what f.cking planet hes on.....
I dont give a f.ck about anything apart from him, it kills me inside each time i see him, i remember him being put in some f.cking home, against his will, when he was still able to live in his home, perfectly safe, and happy....he went downhill so fast, that tore me to pieces, yes after 10 min he was ok, i ask him each time i see him, how he is and he always replies 'living a life of Riley' yet he aint the f.cking person i remember, the man who taught me to work in cars at the age of 10, taught me to count, taught me how to respect and treat other other people, the only thing he never taught me (i should have known better) was how to date women...
I havent seen him for a month, he wont know that...he knows nothing now, but i know, when he smiles, it makes me happy, even if it lasts until i leave, he says to me 'thanks for coming, you didnt have too' but its least he f.cking deserves....i made his life, and my late nans life a misery when i was a teenager, but f.cking luckiyl he cant remember the sh.t i caused, some things normal teenagers do, some not, things i aint proud of...
no matter what he remembers, or how he is, each time i see him, hes the same f.cking grandfather who made me what i am now, who i remember crying becuase of me, saying he loved me and always will....
I always told myself this saying. if money can be measured, and if i am a 10th of the man my granddad was, then im a very rich man...
Evelyn Ruut - 17 Dec 2007 12:31 GMT EddyJean you idiot, do you see the suffering you create here? Jules is my friend and the agony sorrow and sense of loss he feels about his grandfather is NOT HELPED at all by your wild ranting theories. Do you see the name of this newsgroup? It is alt.SUPPORT.alzheimers, not alt.EddyJean.rants.
Offer Jules some support instead of your trolling. No matter what alzheimers is caused by, the results are a lot of awful human suffering. Those of us here who care for loved ones need kindness and comfort, not your theories, and even if they were true, there is no peace in it for us. Go and find this guys books and reprint them, or bring them to the alzheimer society, or bring them to the medical journals.
This is the wrong place to dump your trash. And if you insist on coming here, give a decent answer to Jules, who is hurting in his deepest heart over the only loving relative he ever had in his life's suffering from alzheimers.
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>> Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of >> scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus. [quoted text clipped - 67 lines] > I always told myself this saying. if money can be measured, and if i am a > 10th of the man my granddad was, then im a very rich man... Evelyn Ruut - 17 Dec 2007 13:06 GMT >> Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of >> scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus. [quoted text clipped - 67 lines] > I always told myself this saying. if money can be measured, and if i am a > 10th of the man my granddad was, then im a very rich man... Jules, you ARE a lot like your grandad, because he gave you the best he had to offer when he raised you, he taught you every day of your life. You probably don't know how much you are like him. We absorb a great deal from those who raised us and who loved us all our lives.
Right now you can't much have a meaningful conversation with him, but he still recognizes your love, just as you still recognize his. There is no doubt this is a rotten disgusting illness that robs people of their very selves.
Nobody knows what causes this ....except our various trolls with their cockeyed theories, and their theories about its cause are of no real help to those of us wrestling with the ethical questions as well as the daily nuts and bolts of dealing with it in our loved ones.
Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules. Better to killfile the trolls. They really are no help to us.
I know it seems pointless to visit when they don't remember, can't properly communicate, and don't even know if you were there five minutes ago or a month ago. I also know that the homes have a depressing atmosphere, and it is sad to see all the sick elderly people there. I know they ask the same questions over and over again till you could go crazy from it. But you don't go there for you, you go there for him.
But if you go on some sort of a regular basis, you keep the flame of loving connection with your grandfather going, even as he is slipping away from this world an inch at a time. He took care of you when you were young and soft in the head, now you are taking care of him when he is old and soft in the head.
Bring him a favorite snack. Bring the dog and answer the questions for the umpteenth time. You don't go for you, you go for him.
You have been reading on this group for a long time. You know that one day he might not even know who you are. You know that there is only one place this illness will take him. Be strong. Think about how your grandfather would have handled this if the roles were reversed. Then you do what he would've done, and you will have given him the greatest honor you can give him, and you WILL be like him.
Love, Ev
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Dennis P. Harris - 17 Dec 2007 20:44 GMT > Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules. Better to killfile the > trolls. They really are no help to us. absolutely. eddyjean, ironjustice, and all the other loonies should be completely IGNORED. response only makes them want to post more. NO ONE SHOULD BE FEEDING THESE TROLLS.
jules, just add eddyjean and those other loonies to your "block sender" list or killfile. they are not worth wasting your anger.
Jules - 18 Dec 2007 06:43 GMT > > Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules. Better to killfile the > > trolls. They really are no help to us. [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > jules, just add eddyjean and those other loonies to your "block > sender" list or killfile. they are not worth wasting your anger. i had seen her posts for some time, but i kept quiet...then i just snapped...which isnt me, so i apologise here for the use of the foul and nasty language, i dont swear normally infront of woman and childen, its not appropriate.
sweetpickleNO@SPAMknology.net - 18 Dec 2007 14:51 GMT Jules, thank you for the apology for the language you used. I really appreciate it. Gwen
>> > Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules. Better to killfile the >> > trolls. They really are no help to us. [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > not > appropriate. Jules - 19 Dec 2007 04:15 GMT thanks, not me at all, my nan hated bad language, and my old man always told me never infront of people....'there is no need for language like that, it doesnt make you big' is what he would say...then clout me around the ear and give me a smile...
you know, i had a totally differant name a kid...everyone called me 'Sutch' (ok people in Britain might know a famous person who had the same name)
actually it was some times, i was sutch a good boy, then the next day i was sutch a bad boy
> Jules, thank you for the apology for the language you used. I really > appreciate it. [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > not > > appropriate. Chuck Whealton - 23 Dec 2007 15:04 GMT > thanks, not me at all, my nan hated bad language, and my old man always told > me never infront of people....'there is no need for language like that, it [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > > > not > > > appropriate. Jules:
Your Grand Father and Grand Mother were absolutely correct. However, sometimes when we feel very strongly about something we make mistakes. There's probably not many who subscribe to this group that haven't made the same mistakes.
Cut yourself a break and simply try to live more by what your Grand Parents taught you. Nowadays, I try to live more by what my parents taught me than I did in my younger years. There will always be people who tick you off, whether they're trying to or not. Just let it go. Getting mad will only increase our own blood pressure and that's never good.
Charles R. Whealton Charles Whealton @ pleasedontspam.com
Jules - 24 Dec 2007 07:06 GMT "Chuck Whealton" <
Jules:
Your Grand Father and Grand Mother were absolutely correct. However, sometimes when we feel very strongly about something we make mistakes. There's probably not many who subscribe to this group that haven't made the same mistakes.
Cut yourself a break and simply try to live more by what your Grand Parents taught you. Nowadays, I try to live more by what my parents taught me than I did in my younger years. There will always be people who tick you off, whether they're trying to or not. Just let it go. Getting mad will only increase our own blood pressure and that's never good.
Charles R. Whealton Charles Whealton @ pleasedontspam.com
Well at my age, you think i would know better....but no. i still make mistakes.
Hopefully things are back to normal now....
EddyJean - 19 Dec 2007 03:54 GMT Re: Beginner Questions Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Mon, Dec 17, 2007, 11:44am (PST-1) From: NO_SPAM_TO_dpharris@gci.net (Dennis P. Harris) On Mon, 17 Dec 2007 08:06:40 -0500 in alt.support.alzheimers, "Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.ruut@gmail.com> wrote: Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules. Better to killfile the trolls. They really are no help to us. absolutely. eddyjean, ironjustice, and all the other loonies should be completely IGNORED. response only makes them want to post more. NO ONE SHOULD BE FEEDING THESE TROLLS. jules, just add eddyjean and those other loonies to your "block sender" list or killfile. they are not worth wasting your anger. ====================================== Well, folks, here comes Dennis, the mind- controller. Remember his previous posts? He relies only on scientific evidence but has produced no evidence to support his view that Alzheimers is not caused by a virus. Not only that, Dennis doesn't think the viewers have the intelligence to make up their own minds. This "brainwashing phony" thinks he has to do it for you.
EddyJean
Jules - 18 Dec 2007 06:58 GMT "Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.ruut@gmail.com> wrote in message news:47667467$0$2473$
> Jules, you ARE a lot like your grandad, because he gave you the best he had > to offer when he raised you, he taught you every day of your life. You > probably don't know how much you are like him. We absorb a great deal from > those who raised us and who loved us all our lives. i hope i am like him, a girl visited me from Berlin the other week, she saw fotos of him going back years, and she said i looked like him, which wasnt good, i dont have grey hair and gettign wrinkly...but she said i look nothing like my real father....which was good.
seriously, i hope i am like him, kind and compashionate...hell do i spell that word??
> Right now you can't much have a meaningful conversation with him, but he > still recognizes your love, just as you still recognize his. There is no > doubt this is a rotten disgusting illness that robs people of their very > selves. he smiles so much when i wake in, you know, i can even see the dog smile too when we go....money cant buy something like that, i smile too.
> Nobody knows what causes this ....except our various trolls with their > cockeyed theories, and their theories about its cause are of no real help to > those of us wrestling with the ethical questions as well as the daily nuts > and bolts of dealing with it in our loved ones. i just lost it...im ashamed i did that
> Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules. Better to killfile the > trolls. They really are no help to us. [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > questions over and over again till you could go crazy from it. But you > don't go there for you, you go there for him. its not pointless for me to go, i havent been for a month now, cos i filled my fuel tank when a friend visited, and then leaked about 140 dollars worth of fuel all over...and at the mo i cant afford to get a couple of new tyres. I will go some time this week, after pay day...but no smoking in the car!
> But if you go on some sort of a regular basis, you keep the flame of loving > connection with your grandfather going, even as he is slipping away from [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > Bring him a favorite snack. Bring the dog and answer the questions for the > umpteenth time. You don't go for you, you go for him. I keep forgetting to take a kit kat, not for granddad but for Arthur, cos granddad each time he went to the fridge when he lived at home, the dog would follow or as soon as granddad shouted kit kat, actually its been a couple of years since granddad last gave him one, but i shouted to the dog the other day, kit kat and his ears pricked and he went crazy and exited, was just a pity i didnt have one!
He would only let granddad open it for him and would sit there happily waiting for it.
> You have been reading on this group for a long time. You know that one day > he might not even know who you are. You know that there is only one place [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > Love, > Ev Evelyn Ruut - 18 Dec 2007 13:04 GMT Jules, do NOT be ashamed of giving EddyJean the business, not for a minute! I think all of us were cheering you on. Trolls suck. Dennis hates it when I argue with them, but he doesn't realize I kind of enjoy making monkeys out of them. LOL!
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> "Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.ruut@gmail.com> wrote in message > news:47667467$0$2473$ [quoted text clipped - 91 lines] >> Love, >> Ev Jules - 19 Dec 2007 04:19 GMT I usually just ignore them, but that night it hit a nerve with me and i just flipped, last time i did that, was when i was 15 and i thumped my father on the chops, and my granddad rather then hit me, just wrestled me to the floor...and sat on me, even with the rage i had, no way in the world could i get him off...he hated bullies...
He used to tell me, when he was at school, he would get revenge on the bullies who hurt otehrs, he would just give them a bear hug and lift off the ground, he never had to hit them....
We used to play a game, i did even the last time i saw him, we would hold hands and try to crush the others until one would submit, even in his 80's now hes still strong...and would grin knowing i was trying my hardest and couldnt do owt.
> Jules, do NOT be ashamed of giving EddyJean the business, not for a minute! > I think all of us were cheering you on. Trolls suck. Dennis hates it [quoted text clipped - 96 lines] > >> Love, > >> Ev Dennis P. Harris - 20 Dec 2007 11:39 GMT > I keep forgetting to take a kit kat, not for granddad but for Arthur, cos > granddad each time he went to the fridge when he lived at home, the dog [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > He would only let granddad open it for him and would sit there happily > waiting for it. uh... jules? chocolate is TOXIC for dogs. in other words, poison. it can make them very, very sick.
Evelyn Ruut - 20 Dec 2007 12:35 GMT >> I keep forgetting to take a kit kat, not for granddad but for Arthur, cos >> granddad each time he went to the fridge when he lived at home, the dog [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > uh... jules? chocolate is TOXIC for dogs. in other words, > poison. it can make them very, very sick. Yes, it is toxic. My mother in law nearly killed her dog by letting it eat chocolate.
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Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 20 Dec 2007 15:43 GMT Here is a link about the subject http://www.dogownersdigest.com/news/library/chocolate-dog-poisoning.shtml
Mary G.
Jules - 20 Dec 2007 18:47 GMT known about that for years, and that choc is toxic to humans too.
only give him 1 stick, just a little
> > I keep forgetting to take a kit kat, not for granddad but for Arthur, cos > > granddad each time he went to the fridge when he lived at home, the dog [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > uh... jules? chocolate is TOXIC for dogs. in other words, > poison. it can make them very, very sick. Evelyn Ruut - 20 Dec 2007 22:13 GMT |
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