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garagecapital - 13 Dec 2007 14:43 GMT
I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been
having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother
dismissed it as old age dementia. But I believe she is just in denial
or stigmatizes Alzheimer's. I think with the prescription we are
pretty much past that. But when I see my father do I openly discuss
Alzheimers or is this a family/communication issue that really isn't
for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three
years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt.
Evelyn Ruut - 13 Dec 2007 16:25 GMT
>I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been
> having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother
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> for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three
> years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt.

Hi my friend,

If your dad is on Aricept, it is a pretty safe bet that the doctor feels
there is a good reason for it.   I wonder if he has been tested for
everything?    There are lots of things that cause memory and cognitive
problems and not all of them are alzheimers.   Your mother may not have
mentioned whether he had testing done three years ago when he first showed
signs.    It would be good if you could talk to his doctor yourself and find
out exactly what was tested etc.

There is no strict timetable for how long your dad has left.   It could be
within a three year period, but there are those who can stay alive for many
years with the illness.    In my mother in laws case, she was showing
symptoms in 1999 and she died in 2005 of pancreatic cancer..... so she
didn't die of alzheimers.   However the last year of her life she was in a
nursing home due to her growing more and more incapacitated.   From her
diagnosis in the year 2000 till she died, she slowly became more and more
confused, and ultimately unable to walk by herself even for a few feet
without falling down.  Ultimately we couldn't cope with her incontinence and
incapacity ourselves and reluctantly we had to place her in a nearby nursing
home where she got excellent care until the end.

She started out just a bit confused and forgetful and very depressed, which
spurred us to take her for full testing and diagnosis.   It only got worse
and worse over time, not better.   The life expectancy timetable is
different for everyone it seems.   I have been posting here and reading here
for many years now, and everyones loved one seems to have a different
schedule.    The gentleman who just posted that his wife passed away, came
here around the same time I did, and his wife was pretty much suffering from
the same level of impairment as my mother in law at that time.   His wife
just passed, and she did pass from the illness itself, not from another
disease.   So in her case it took about 7 yrs.    We have heard of shorter
and longer times from others.

The most important thing you need to know now, is whether or not your father
went to an elder law specialist attorney when he first got alzheimers, and
if your mother or yourself is his health care proxy, and whether they took
any steps to preserve his estate, and if he has all the appropriate
paperwork in place, will, DNR, living will, etc.

You need to know what will happen when your mom can't handle his illness at
home anymore..... and I assure you that day WILL come.   We were two people,
not one, and we reached that point after about 4 years.   She had terrible
delusions, and grew more and more incontinent and unable to hold herself up.
It was a very difficult time and our only regret is that we didn't place her
in that nursing home a lot sooner.   We nearly killed ourselves trying to
care for her at home to the end, and we aren't the only ones who did that.
Others here have done the same.    It would have been better to let someone
else do the harder caretaking work and visited her when we were at our
well-rested best.

At any rate, this is a great newsgroup.   Feel free to ask questions.  Lots
of good people here.   Oh.... and don't listen to the wackos.   We do have a
few trollish types as do all the usenet groups.

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Evelyn

Ellen 01 - 13 Dec 2007 17:16 GMT
> >I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been
> > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother
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>
> Evelyn

Hello
I am also new in this group, My mother have alzheimers, she is very
young now 67 years, and the symptoms started before she went 60 ... In
the start we just laugh when she said something funny...but we learn..
better..
But she moved to a home for only persons with alzheimers they are only
10 people there, and she is so happy to bee there. But I can only say
it is important that the person with alzheimer not move to late.. It
is important that they now where they are.. So they feel it is there
home..
Kind regards Ellen
Evelyn Ruut - 13 Dec 2007 18:12 GMT
>> >I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been
>> > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother
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> home..
> Kind regards Ellen

Hi Ellen,

Welcome to the group nobody wants to join!   Yes, you are right.  We waited
far longer than we should have, but fortunately, my mother in law adjusted
easily.   She too was in a separate wing of the nursing home that was only
for people with alzheimers.   They treated her very well there.

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Evelyn

Alan Holbrook - 14 Dec 2007 11:05 GMT
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>>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message

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home..
>> Kind regards Ellen
>
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> home that was only for people with alzheimers.   They treated her very
> well there.

Unfortunately, there is also the other side of adjusting to a nursing home.  
My mother-in-law spent the last few years of her life in an Alzheimer's
care facility and _she_ adjusted well.  But my wife, 59 years old and
diagnosed with EOAD a couple of years ago, has made it very plain to me
that she will not go gently into that particular dark night and I'd better
not be thinking about a home for her.  Not a situation I'm looking forward
to at all when the time comes, for a number of reasons...<sigh>...
Evelyn Ruut - 14 Dec 2007 11:58 GMT
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>>>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message
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> not be thinking about a home for her.  Not a situation I'm looking forward
> to at all when the time comes, for a number of reasons...<sigh>...

Hi Alan,

Ask her what sort of alternative plans she has in mind.   After all at some
point in the illness she is going to need other peoples efforts,
committments, and personal care, which COULD become exhausting and even an
imposition at some point.    It isn't fair to involve other people for more
than they are reasonably willing to give.

Over the years we have seen a lot of people who posted here, and many of
them were completely committed to caring for their loved one at home, until
the end, no matter what it entailed or how long it took.   Some have been
able to do it alone, some have been able to do it with lots of hired help,
and the vast majority have found it just got too impossible to manage at a
certain point and realized they needed a break.

I would tell your wife that you will take care of her at home as long as you
possibly can.... assuming that is what you want to do, but that if you begin
to lose your own mental or physical health, there needs to be an alternative
plan in place.  Nursing homes would go out of business if people all could
care for their loved ones at home and it was no trouble at all.   What does
one do when their loved one becomes completely incontinent, and falls down
the instant they try to stand up?  What does one do when you get sick
yourself?   How can you care for someone when you are completely burnt out?

One of the things I really believe, is that it is important that a person
who has alzheimers be kept at peace.   I think you should tell them anything
that brings them peace, and that includes not arguing endlessly with them
about their mistaken views of reality (it's real to them) and answering the
same question a million times over every day.   If your wife is afraid of
going to a nursing home, tell her she is no problem at all and that you will
care for her as long as you are able.

Life changes, circumstances change.   If it gets too hard, you need to have
an "out," but you shouldn't tell her that, especially if it upsets her.   In
fact my mother in law was afraid of going into a nursing home, and when she
did go, we told her it was a hospital and if she got better she would come
home.   Of course she never did, but we wanted her to feel some hope and to
work with the therapists there, and to realize she wasn't dumped there or
abandoned.   By the time that situation rolled around, she was already deep
into her illness.   I don't know how much cognition she had of any of it,
but we treated her with love and respect throughout.   We visited her.   We
met with the staff about various issues.... meds, therapy, diet, medical
treatment.   We picked a place that took good care of her.

If she is fearful of nursing homes, don't tell her you plan to put her in
one.    But there are some promises that are impossible to keep, and by the
time she is truly needful of professional care, she won't be all that
concerned about who is dressing her, feeding her, or where she lays her head
at night, but it might mean a great deal to you.

Of course, this is my personal opinion, having cared for someone through the
illness.   I don't think it is unkind to tell her anything that will put her
mind at rest for a day or a month or a year or three or however long it will
be.   But I draw the line at damaging ones own mental or physical health for
anyone else.    Only you will know how long you can manage it before it
takes a toll.

Ultimately it is probably better to have professionals caring for a person
rather than a disgruntled, exhausted, burnt out relative who is at their
wits end.    Better you should get a good nights sleep and visit her
refreshed the next day, if it comes down to it.   But don't cross that
bridge till you come to it.   Keep her happy and at peace any way you need
to.

Just my take on it......

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Evelyn

A R Pickett - 14 Dec 2007 14:26 GMT
Evelyn wrote in part -

>Ultimately it is probably better to have professionals caring for a person
>rather than a disgruntled, exhausted, burnt out relative who is at their
>wits end.

Evelyn had an excellent summary.  And another little snippet of truth has
been mentioned here before as well, and that is the reference to the
airlines' instructions for oxygen masks - to place your own on your mouth
and nose before you attempt to help others.

What my siblings and I experienced with my Dad is that he was completely
unable to evaluate his own situation by the time he moved to the retirement
complex where he lived out the last five years of his life.  When we
realized how deficient his reasoning was, we packed a truck and moved him.
His reasoning was shot, we had to reason for him, and act accordingly.

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Chuck Whealton - 14 Dec 2007 21:11 GMT
> Evelyn wrote in part -
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You're VERY lucky, A.R.  My Uncle was suffing from pick's disease, and
when my cousins tried this he got himself a lawyer and made their life
a living nightmare.  He then somehow managed to fool his doctor -
don't ask me how.  We all knew there was a serious problem and in the
end, his lawyer and doctor finally caught a clue.  Not before putting
my cousins through a lot of unnecessary mental anguish.

Charles R. Whealton
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A R Pickett - 15 Dec 2007 01:52 GMT
Chuck wrote - > You're VERY lucky, A.R.  My Uncle was suffing from pick's
disease, and
> when my cousins tried this he got himself a lawyer and made their life
> a living nightmare.  He then somehow managed to fool his doctor -
> don't ask me how.  We all knew there was a serious problem and in the
> end, his lawyer and doctor finally caught a clue.  Not before putting
> my cousins through a lot of unnecessary mental anguish.

Yes, I know we were fortunate in many respects.

But my father's dementia was not all sweetness and light.

His finances became a nightmarish tangle, and we're still struggling with
the fallout from that, close to a year after his death.

He was incontinent, and the staff at his residence refused to take steps to
help him with that.

He stopped bathing.

His sense of timing was completely out of whack, and this resulted in quite
a few surreal social occasions.

I could go on and on.  I think it's dangerous to try to say "so and so's
situation is worse than what's her name's"   All conditions which result in
a degenerative dementia, of whatever type, spell difficulties, heartache,
and physical and emotional stress for those who hold the patient dear.

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Chuck Whealton - 16 Dec 2007 15:07 GMT
> Chuck wrote - > You're VERY lucky, A.R.  My Uncle was suffing from pick's
> disease, and
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A.R.

By no means did I mean to imply that your overall situation was better
or worse than what my cousins went through with my Uncle.  I'm sorry
if it came off that way.  It was NOT my intention.

All I meant was that you were lucky in that ONE instance, that he
didn't fight you in court and manage to full his lawyer and doctor,
while you were trying to help him - nothing more.

Have a great holiday!

Charles R. Whealton
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A R Pickett - 16 Dec 2007 16:22 GMT
Chuck wrote - > A.R.

> By no means did I mean to imply that your overall situation was better
> or worse than what my cousins went through with my Uncle.  I'm sorry
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> didn't fight you in court and manage to full his lawyer and doctor,
> while you were trying to help him - nothing more.

First of all Chuck, please call me Woodstock.  And I know we were quite
fortunate, because my father could be very very stubborn.  As my sister
described him, he could give lessons to granite boulders.  However in this
instance, I think a part of him (a very small part) was aware how impossible
his situation was and was relieved in a way that his children provided a way
out.  He was unable to do that for himself by that time, but also unable to
voice his dilemma.

I know you didn't intend that meaning, and I didn't read your message that
way.  But ASA regulars often caution that lurkers may be reading our
conversations, and I wanted to broaden the scope of your comments to say a
little more about my dad's overall situation.  The social contact and
regular meals he gained after he moved improved his overall health
dramatically.  After a couple of years, however, the dementia gained the
upper hand again, and things began to get grim.

He had vascular dementia, the aftermath of a series of TIA's, only one of
which sent him for emergency medical treatment.

> Have a great holiday!

Thanks, I'll do my best, and you do the same!  This is the first year with
both my parents gone, and it feels more than a little strange.

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Ellen 01 - 14 Dec 2007 14:45 GMT
> >> ..
> >>>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message
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>
> Evelyn

It is me again Ellen
Yes I thing Evelyn is right... And now, your wife is able to do some
thing..But  you dont now how fast it will go and how bad it will
bee...
I feel with you
Alan Holbrook - 15 Dec 2007 10:11 GMT
>>><snip>>

> Hi Alan,
>
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> even an imposition at some point.    It isn't fair to involve other
> people for more than they are reasonably willing to give.

> <snip, again>

> Ultimately it is probably better to have professionals caring for a
> person rather than a disgruntled, exhausted, burnt out relative who is
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>
> Just my take on it......

Oh, there's no question it will happen eventually,  Everything you've
said is not only correct but is exactly the way I'm looking at it and
the way I intend to pursue when the time comes.  I simply said I wasn't
looking forward to it!...:-)
Evelyn Ruut - 15 Dec 2007 12:26 GMT
>>>><snip>>
>
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> the way I intend to pursue when the time comes.  I simply said I wasn't
> looking forward to it!...:-)

I can surely relate to that!  :-)

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Dennis P. Harris - 16 Dec 2007 07:11 GMT
> If she is fearful of nursing homes, don't tell her you plan to put her in
> one.    But there are some promises that are impossible to keep, and by the
> time she is truly needful of professional care, she won't be all that
> concerned about who is dressing her, feeding her, or where she lays her head
> at night, but it might mean a great deal to you.

what she said!  been there, done that.

there are several things you need to do NOW to ensure that you
will be able to do that with a minimum of hassle when the time
comes.  one is to start looking for the right facility NOW, and
get her on the waiting list, so that she will be at the top of
the list when you need to place her.  this will give you a chance
to vet the facility thoroughly, and make sure it is well run and
a good choice.

second, you need to make sure that you have all your legal work
done and in place, in case 1) anything happens to you and you can
no longer care for her or make decisions for her and 2) to make
sure that you can protect as much of your assets as possible from
having to pay for her care.  for this, you need the assistance of
an attorney skilled in elder law in your jurisdiction.  if you do
not know of one, ask your local alzheimers' association chapter,
which you can locate via www.alz.org
Ellen 01 - 14 Dec 2007 14:39 GMT
> > ..
> >>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message
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> not be thinking about a home for her.  Not a situation I'm looking forward
> to at all when the time comes, for a number of reasons...<sigh>...

Thanks for the welcome,
Yes it is very hard decision to take, My mother was living alone, She
have been toghether with her new "husbond " for 20 years but they
never moved togheter, They were not married
And in the end she was so thin, because she forgot to eat.. And she
was forgetting everything all the time.... But from when she was
driving her car, and able to live by herself to only 2 years
after ....it went very fast for her.. in the bad direction.
I was also thinking to take care of here, I have always bee very
closed to my mother.. But I am not living in the same country as her,
and she is so happy for her "husbond" He is visiting her almost every
day.. But you will always ask yourself is this the right thing to
do... And there is really not an answer to that,,, My mothers biggers
concerning ( when she was able to thing that way ) was if me and My
sister would get the disease... Because My grandmother also had
Alzheimer... Now she is very bad, she is always very happy..But she
can only reconaise me and her "husbond " It is so hard to see a person
you love going into the darknes.... But when she is togheter with a
dog, she clears up...and can also talk more than totally nonsens... So
now we found a visiting dog, he is coming toghether with the owner and
go for a work... And my mother loves it..... She laugh and enjoying
herself...That is so nice to see...
Kind regards Ellen
Frederick G Young - 25 Dec 2007 07:31 GMT
Alan,
   I endorse everything that Evelyn has said. Whenever I would tell people
that my wife had alzheimers and was in a nursing home they would always say
how awful it must be. It became my standard answer to say that it's
impossible to grieve for x number of years and once the wife or husband goes
into the nursing home the unafflicted spouse has to accept that their life
will never be the same again. The hardest thing for me to do was to pass my
wife into the care of the home, turn my back on it and walk away for the
first time. I recognised later that her life was going to be in that place
and mine was outside. You do all you can to ensure that they are treated
well and are reasonably contented with life. You fulfill your
responsibilites and enter their world at intervals and then for your own
sanity you have to start creating a new life. If you don't and you dedicate
your life to being with the spouse at all times  and forego a normal life,
then the disease has in fact claimed two victims. You and your spouse.
Gradually the one in care will disappear before your eyes, not know who you
are or be aware of anything in their life including you.
There was one man whose wife had a severely damaged brain from meningitis.
he lived close to the home where his wife was. Everyday he went to the home
at mid-day and was with his wife at lunch. This went on for over ten years.
His health was being seriously affected. One day his wife died from
pneumonia caused by aspiration of food. After she died and was no longer
there he still came in for a short while then I heard he had died. he was in
his late sixties. He didn't change his life when it would have been better
for him if he had. His wife would have been affected very little, if at all.
Meningitis had claimed two lives, not one. It is quite well known for the
care giver to die before the one being cared for. Undoubtedly the stress
takes it's toll.

Frederick

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>>>> "garagecapital" <garagecapi...@gmail.com> wrote in message
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> not be thinking about a home for her.  Not a situation I'm looking forward
> to at all when the time comes, for a number of reasons...<sigh>...
august - 13 Dec 2007 23:17 GMT
>I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been
> having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother
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> for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three
> years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt.

Buy a copy of the 36 Hour Day and read it cover to cover and you will then
have the tools to ask the right questions and to get an idea of what staging
your father might be at. He may not have AD but one of the numerous other
dementias. If he is taking Aricept, chances are he is early on in the
disease but if he has been taking it for three years then who knows, since
some people progress rapidly and some do not.

http://www.amazon.com/36-Hour-Day-Alzheimer-Dementing-Illnesses/dp/0446610410Your mother's denial is typical but will just make things more difficult inthe long run.  Discuss things privately with your father since your mothermight take a group discussion of his illness as a challenge. Just hope theyboth do not have it. My parents both have (or had) dementia to varyingdegrees.Welcome to the group no one wants to join.   AWbtw- Did anyone else notice in the new movie Away From Her (where JulieChristie plays a woman with AD) that her husband is reading a copy of The 36Hour Day during the movie?  This movie is highly recommended if you have notalready seen it.
garagecapital - 14 Dec 2007 00:28 GMT
> >I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been
> > having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother
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>  http://www.amazon.com/36-Hour-Day-Alzheimer-Dementing-Illnesses/dp/04...mother's denial is typical but will just make things more difficult inthe long run.  Discuss things privately with your father since your mothermight take a group discussion of his illness as a challenge. Just hope theyboth do not have it. My parents both have (or had) dementia to varyingdegrees.Welcome to the group no one wants to join.   AWbtw- Did anyone else notice in the new movie Away From Her (where JulieChristie plays a woman with AD) that her husband is reading a copy of The 36Hour Day during the movie?  This movie is highly recommended if you have notalready seen it.

Thanks much for your postings and I invite. I'll ponder over what has
already been advised. To respond to questions; The Aricept started
about three months ago after some testing, but it has been obvious the
confusion has been there for two to three years and not getting
better. Unfortunately, my mother, 74, is a control freak and has
numerous other issues and my sister and I cannot get a lot of straight
or consistent answers, although I believe the paperwork is in order. I
am curious about Aricept and non-AD dementia. I recall reading in a
couple places that it is not given for non-AD dementias. That is not
true?
august - 15 Dec 2007 06:33 GMT
Buy a copy of the 36 Hour Day and read it cover to cover and you will then
have the tools to ask the right questions and to get an idea of what staging
your father might be at. He may not have AD but one of the numerous other
dementias. If he is taking Aricept, chances are he is early on in the
disease but if he has been taking it for three years then who knows, since
some people progress rapidly and some do not.

http://tinyurl.com/2h3bzq

Your mother's denial is typical but will just make things more difficult in
the long run.  Discuss things privately with your father since your mother
might take a group discussion of his illness as a challenge. Just hope they
both do not have it. My parents both have (or had) dementia to varying
degrees.Welcome to the group no one wants to join.   AW

btw- Did anyone else notice in the new movie Away From Her (where Julie
Christie plays a woman with AD) that her husband is reading a copy of The
36Hour Day during the movie?  This movie is highly recommended if you have
not already seen it.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0491747/
....................................................

Aricept is (generally speaking) not supposed to be used for other types of
dementia but often is for a variety of reasons, mainly because many people
are misdiagnosed by family Drs not really equipped to make a complicated
dementia diagnosis. My family Dr still refers to my MIL as having AD when in
fact she has vascular dementia. She tried several of the drugs used for AD
and they helped a little but in the end caused more problems than they
helped. Her condition remains fairly stable  (other than her very advanced
age) for 15+ years now because her dementia is due to a brain injury and not
AD.  You need to convice your mother that you are trying to help her with
your Dad's situation. If she will not let you help, then things will only be
worse for everyone involved.   AW
august - 15 Dec 2007 06:36 GMT
http://www.amazon.com/36-Hour-Day-Alzheimer-Dementing-Illnesses/dp/0446610410

geezo
garagecapital - 15 Dec 2007 14:57 GMT
> Buy a copy of the 36 Hour Day and read it cover to cover and you will then
> have the tools to ask the right questions and to get an idea of what staging
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> your Dad's situation. If she will not let you help, then things will only be
> worse for everyone involved.   AW

Thanks for the information. (Unfortunately, it is an impossible
situation with the sufferer's wife, my mother. Has been for three-
quarters of a century and no reason to expect it to change now.)
Dennis P. Harris - 16 Dec 2007 07:28 GMT
On Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:57:25 -0800 (PST) in
alt.support.alzheimers, garagecapital <garagecapital@gmail.com>
wrote:

> Thanks for the information. (Unfortunately, it is an impossible
> situation with the sufferer's wife, my mother. Has been for three-
> quarters of a century and no reason to expect it to change now.)

If you have any siblings who will help you by taking a united
position and confronting your mother, especially if you know
their doc (or their pastor, if they are churchgoers) and can get
some help from her/him, you may simply need to bite the bullet
and insist that she pay attention to you.  Sometimes this won't
work at first, but it may once she becomes too exhausted from the
effort of caring for him to resist.  Rest assured that if she is
elderly, she will eventually be unable to keep up the energy
level to care for him.

The other thing that might make her listen is when there is some
crisis, like wandering and getting lost, that will finally get
her to pay attention or will require his hospitalization.  Most
hospitals have a social worker who will interview geriatric
patients and their caregivers prior to their discharge after a
hospital stay.  They have been known to insist that the patient
be discharged to a care facility rather than be sent home.

And finally, if she is neglectful or abusive, you can always
report her to your state's Adult Protective Services office.
While that can be hard step to take, it can be an intervention
that a spouse in denial cannot ignore.
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Dec 2007 15:01 GMT
> On Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:57:25 -0800 (PST) in
> alt.support.alzheimers, garagecapital <garagecapital@gmail.com>
[quoted text clipped - 26 lines]
> While that can be hard step to take, it can be an intervention
> that a spouse in denial cannot ignore.

Usually it is the former situation Dennis has described.   They do something
like get lost, wander away and can't find their way back, do something
strangely inappropriate, get into some situation that draws attention to
their situation in such a way that it cannot be ignored any longer.

I had an uncle with alzheimers, who would continually fall down and be
unable to get up again.   My aunt was determined to keep him at home and
care for him to the end.   She would listen to no one.   They had no estate
preservation plans in place either.   It finally got so she couldn't pick
him up anymore when he would fall, so she began calling the police to have a
squad car come by the house to help get him into bed or wherever.

Finally they got sick of the calls and doing nurses aide duty, and took him
to a hospital, where the hospital refused to release him back home.   He was
placed in a nursing home, and my aunt got the bill and was horrified.    She
tried and tried to get them to release him back home to her, but somehow she
was thwarted (thankfully).

Fortunately he passed within a couple of months after he had been placed in
the nursing home, and the cost was astronomical even within that short time.
My aunt had struggled trying to get him released back home, but was
unsuccessful.   I am sure that the office for the aging or some other agency
must have gotten involved in that situation, although I don't know for sure.

This is the way it all too often goes.   If people cannot make proper plans
and organize their own situation, at a certain point authorities will step
in and make the decision for them.

Wherein the danger lies, is that alzheimer patients have gotten lost in the
woods and been found dead, or wandered for days and nearly died of exposure
or thirst, and sometimes the situation which finally calls attention to
their mental state is setting the house on fire, or hitting someone with
their car, or something equally tragic.

Everyone sees stories like this in the newspaper, but few will connect it as
a possibility to their own loved one who is suffering from "a little memory
loss".

Back when my mother in law was diagnosed, the doctor told us in no uncertain
terms that she should not be left alone for even a minute ever again.   We
took that seriously and did what we needed to take care of her.   There
already had been some near misses....such as leaving pots on the stove to
burn up, getting lost in her own neighborhood, having hundred dollar bills
falling out of her bag in front of strangers in NY city, and taking too many
of her medications out of forgetfulness.

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A R Pickett - 16 Dec 2007 16:32 GMT
Dennis wrote in part - >> The other thing that might make her listen is when
there is some
>> crisis, like wandering and getting lost, that will finally get
>> her to pay attention or will require his hospitalization.

And Evelyn added - > This is the way it all too often goes.   If people
cannot make proper plans
> and organize their own situation, at a certain point authorities will step
> in and make the decision for them.

And something to keep in mind here - if the day arrives when hospital staff,
physician, agency for the aging, whoever, moves to make a residential
placement unavoidable, the patient will go where there is room.

Too often, the reason that particular facility has room is that no one else
wants to go there, or place their family member there.  Then, in order to
get the patient moved to a more desireable location, the family deals with
applications, waiting lists, transportation headaches and on and on.

The way to avoid all this, as Evelyn points out, is to "make proper plans
and organize their own situation."  And in the original poster's set of
questions, it seems clear that his mother (MIL?) is unable to do that for
her husband, and the ones able to act are the adult children.

None of this is a game for sissies.  It was harder than I ever thought
possible, and only my love for my Dad and for my sister kept me going, and I
was a half a continent removed from the two of them.  My sister is still
coming out of the "burn out" Evelyn has described on several occasions.

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garagecapital - 16 Dec 2007 23:02 GMT
On Dec 16, 2:28 am, NO_SPAM_TO_dphar...@gci.net (Dennis P. Harris)
wrote:
> On Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:57:25 -0800 (PST) in
> alt.support.alzheimers, garagecapital <garagecapi...@gmail.com>
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> While that can be hard step to take, it can be an intervention
> that a spouse in denial cannot ignore.

Thanks for the advice; we'll ponder it all.
EddyJean - 14 Dec 2007 07:43 GMT
Beginner Questions  

Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Thu, Dec 13, 2007, 6:43am From:
garagecapital@gmail.com (garagecapital)
I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been
having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother
dismissed it as old age dementia. But I believe she is just in denial or
stigmatizes Alzheimer's. I think with the prescription we are pretty
much past that. But when I see my father do I openly discuss Alzheimers
or is this a family/communication issue that really isn't for this
topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three years what
is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt.
======================================

Old age doesn't cause dementia. Disease does. Old folks still have sharp
minds into the nineties or more.

Since there's no serious research on Alzheimers, and the late Dr. James
R. Hunt's great work on facial/cranial diseases in the early 1900s has
been covered up, the most you'll likely get from your father's doctor is
guesswork.  Searching for a physician who is knowledgeable on dementing
diseases is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

Since your father's confusion is increasing, the disease is either
progressing, or the medicine is making him worse. Some medications cause
confusion and hallucinations.  Everyone's different, what affects one
may not affect another.  Some go slow ---others fast. The will to live
is a factor.

Oh, don't mind the trollish types. Its the newsgroup's mind controllers,
and their agenda, that should be the concern.

You wrote, "Be blunt!"

EddyJean

P.S. Dr. James R. Hunt, the father of Neurooogy in the United States,
must be turning in his grave
stopalz@gmail.com - 15 Dec 2007 22:07 GMT
> I recently learned that my father is on Aricept; he is 79 and been
> having increasing problem with memory, mood and confusion. My mother
[quoted text clipped - 4 lines]
> for this topic. If he has been having these symptons for about three
> years what is the likely timetable and prognosis. Be blunt.

Hello garagecapital;
Perhaps you must see on the following studies. Do you know that more
than 50% of persons diagnosed as alzheimer they aren´t, are false
positive or false alzheimer? This is an extraordinary question indeed.
PSYCHO-SOCIAL ALTERNATIVE THEORY ON THE SO CALLS ALZHEIMER
ALZHEIMER´S  PROJECT ARGENTINA, September 2007

         Chronic Progressive Dementization, (CPD), the scientific
name that would correspond to which vulgarly calls Alzheimer, is a
quite different question from depression, the different types of
psychosis and obviously also from surprising and novel conducts that
appear sometimes with the normal aging. But in the long run much more
serious, since it leads to death, if it doesn't stop on time. He is so
extremely specific as low frequent, and has been over dimensioned in
extreme proportions by ignorance of normal aging behaviors, with which
it is confused many times, or simply to make a great business with
it.

         Although the final step of brain disintegration is quite
similar, there are two types of processes: the one that occurs in
young or greater adults and another different one that it happens in
very greater adults, so to so of around 80 years old or more. In these
the problem is "simply" the loss of the vital motivation, the desire´s
exhaustion to continue living. Abandonment of dreams, as Miguel de
Unamuno would say (1904) on the cession that Don Quixote in favor to
Sancho did at the end of the history, for soon, obviously, dying.
It's hardly ethical to catalogue these cases like patients, to
dominate them and to impoverish them with useless medicines.

Risk's people for a DCP are those that generally have a introverted
personality, had poor social relations, with tendency to isolation,
difficulties to face the challenges of the life, tendency to depend on
others, have constructed their personal identity under the shade or on
shoulders of another one (the woman of the engineer, the husband of
the owner, etc.), with cope deficit   with normal life's difficulties,
tendency to be self-absorbed on proper or another's painful events,
which is and designates in general like depression.

IN NO WAY IT TOUCHES TO ANYONE. There is nothing of chance, neither
suddenly nor magician in it. Neither familiar, nor infection, nor
contamination, nor any physical indeed. Only an alone human in a blind
alley.

With aging the probability that these people to suffer a painful loss
increases, obviously, like everyone. Risk increases in them enormously
without having capacity of facing of their painful and innermost
losses, that can be of the husband who gave or lent their identity, of
a children who gave their life's meaning, of their activities that
justified their existence, of their corporal or mental capacity to
which he had bet or concentrated. And when not counting on a familiar
network or a social network to stop their fall after a non elaborate
duel or to find an exit for it, the person collapses. It is the
beginning of the aim. The duel impossible to solve drags to its own
identity. It can have 40 years o. (the case younger than we have had
was a girl of 38 years o.), or 80.

It doesn't any relation with aging (except in sanitary data), but only
that when they advance the years is more probable that we suffer
painful losses. Until this moment and much later its brain is like a
quite normal ones, it does not show absolutely anything abnormal and
it's totally useless to want to see something in images, including
with the more sophisticated  technology, and less even in
electroencephalograms, that is something so coarse and inadequate as
to try to observe a virus with our old  magnifying glass of the
school. The culture of the image, the sickly fascination by the image
that comes from the TV consumption, has displaced to the logic, the
common sense and the semeiology. But perhaps it is only part of
another great business, since if possibly there were something in the
brain, simply we would not know what to face with this information.
And when indeed there is it, well at the end of the process, it has
left everything exposed so the simple observation that returns to be
useless.

The landslide of the person, its "delivery" as much in the dictionary
of the Real Spanish Academy (already in the first edition, 1713) like
in the original dictionaries of all the languages, is expressed in the
idea to wish to die, in the fixation of the attention in its own one
and wished death. There the abnormal, unnatural and destructive thing
begins because in fact we are programmed biologically, ancestrally,
for all the opposite, as it is to explore, to fight, to defend to us,
to hunt (in symbolic and generic sense), to attack, to ask to us, to
inquire to us, and our attention concentrated in each objective part
of a basic alert status that we never lose, except for when we slept
well, to recover of the permanent state of alert. We are not
programmed to give to us tamely, as it is not it no animal. And rather
that we are animals, no matter how hard the present cultures have
blurred it.

In addition in the beginning, that can be weeks or months, the person
enters and leaves the process. One resists to give itself and she even
can attack, and she does not do it against the people although it
seems, but against their reality, in which they does not find any
place.

How takes place then the cerebral damage that leads to the death?

         So that it is understood we must refresh some very basic
things, although surprising little well-known and spread. In the first
place that we have nine senses: vision, hearing, balance, tact,
spatial perception, taste, smell, sense of strange it (or familiarity)
and of the body perception. All these senses, and perhaps others more,
are active from the basic alert status and have two components: an
automatic one of immediate reaction (a light falls in love and
blinking, I smell of ammoniac, that it is used in home cleaners and I
am myself forced to separate away), and another one of recognition or
identification, in which the stimuli are sent to the brain and there
it is collated if that information has been loaded. They are the
sensorial recognitions.

Then, EVERYTHING WHAT WE DO, EVERYTHING WHAT WE THOUGHT, BY MORE BANAL
OR INSIGNIFICANT THAN IS, IS RECORDED IN THE BRAIN IN FORM OF A
NEURONAL NETWORK IN WHICH INEXORABLY PARTICIPATE NEURONS OF THE
SENSORIAL RECOGNITION SYSTEMS OF THE NINE SENSE CHANNELS: they are
those that incorporate the key information that avoid us to act. And
those networks that are armed in our brain also reinforce when we
return to make the same act or generated the same thought, but in
addition... because IN FACT ALL IS YET CONCECTED IN THE BRAIN WITH
ALL; WHICH WE ARE GOING TO DO WILL BE CONNECTED  WITH WHICH ALREADY WE
HAVE DONE AND LOADED LIKE NEURONAL NETWORKS IN OUR BRAIN.

         Some of those connections have a great importance in
activities of dairy life, and others very remotely: although the door
seems to us very heavy, already we know that the force is not to much
that we must make to open it. That attraction by rates which they are
multiple or submultiple of the heart rate (that that we listened for
the first time from the uterus of our mother), would be related indeed
with those. That is to say, to live means to be stimulating everything
somehow what we have done, lived and thought. For that reason it is
that when after a great activity of many years we happened to a
sedentary situation, under lower stimuli, then letting connect to many
areas of our neural brain networks, we began with the forgetfulnesses
that as much fear they give us now, that has invented the Alzheimer
like sword of Damocles to force to us to run to the pharmacies. Which
will understand that it is useless, at least for the consumer.

         However, when to fix attention to death, that is something
abstract that does not generate necessity to us of motor or cognitive
answer, and RESORTING TO THE NATURAL MECHANISM and AVAILABLE IN ALL to
block the reception of other stimuli like when we concentrated the
attention in something, these people happen to block, in the beginning
in oscillating form, with variations throughout a day or of days,
weeks or months, the sensorial stimuli of the different channels. It
is basic a biological mechanism since we must be concentrated in the
tiger that attacks to us and we cannot disperse with the colored birds
that more back jig about: it is a survival principle. Who know more of
the utility of this principle are the pickpockets of the
agglomerations: one of them produces a smaller but clear aggression on
the victim; this one is put in guard and concentrates its attention on
the aggressor, while his companion removes the wallet or cuts the
portfolio's strap, because we have blocked the tact and the body
perception when putting to us in guard in front of the aggressor and
concentrating the attention in him.

         The displacement of the attention towards different
objectives is normal and routine, but in the people who enter process
DCP blocking persistently the reception of stimuli by the different
sensorial channels and their consequent shipment the brain, it does
that the neurons of the systems of sensorial recognition that comprise
of the sensorial networks let  to receive stimuli, with which in the
long run lose the sinapsis connections, the connections between
neuronal networks do not travel stimuli by the dendrites and the
networks are disarmed. Something equivalent to the atrophy of a muscle
that we did not use.

         One frequent and a more common form of this process of a
very hard fix attention fixing on  something, but that is not to wish
to die, it's happens in the normal aging, when the concentration in a
painful fact (the death of a sister or brother, the divorce of a
daughter, the disease of a grandson, etc.) it disperses to us, but we
continued doing mechanical activities very known, like driving, to
prick onions or to drive the key of the gas. And here it is another
habitual source of that forgetfulness that confuse to all those
related with the Alzheimer, that happens through the same.

As now we know that in fact we have at least nine sensorial channels,
we can     understand why the people with dementia don't recognize
relatives, lose the sense of smell, the taste, the spatial
orientation, reel or they fall, etc. They are that part of the
cerebral functions that are losing when blocking the stimuli to have
fixed obstinately the attention to the death desire. No longer they
recognize, no longer have capacity of recovery of recent smaller
events (weak neuronal networks, with low sensorial stimulation, easy
to inactivate when they do not receive stimuli), and however still can
recover events of the past. But anyone, but... only THOSE IN WHICH THE
LIVED EVENTS (SENSORIAL NETWORKS ARMED IN THE PAST) WERE POSSIBLE WITH
A GREAT STIMULATION (EMOTIONAL), PROTROCTADELY REINFORCED and
CONNECTED WITH MULTIPLE OTHER SENSORIAL NETWORKS, LIKE THE DOOR OF
STREET OF OUR CHILDHOOD´S HOME, by where we did not shelter, by where
we shook to get dirty, by where we entered to eat, to find with the
arms of our mothers or the severe but protective glance of our
parents, etc. Then obviously the process of dissolution of the
neuronal networks becomes difficult when it arrives at those emotional
networks of the past, our true mental jewels. Thus he is then which
the biological indicators more solids to detect the one that a person
is in a dementia of this type are the faults of the systems of
sensorial recognition. The PROGRESSIVE DISINTEGRATION OF The NEURONAL
NETWORKS IN OUR BRAIN BY DEFICIT OF STIMULATION OF The SENSORIAL
SYSTEMS OF RECOGNITION IS THE ESSENCE OF THE PROCESS OF THIS DEMENTIA,
AND LEADS TO  DEATH BECAUSE AN ESSENTIAL AUTOMATIC SYSTEM HAS
CONNECTIONS WITH SENSORIAL NETWORKS YOU SPECIFY, THAT WHEN ALSO THEY
GET TO BE AFFECTED, CAUSES OBVIOUSLY THE DEATH. Why is not wanted it
to recognize, if it is so obvious? Perhaps because it would leave
perhaps the majority of the supposed cases outside.

         But the person is not conscious of the great damage there
are caused to their self. Also their relatives and the majority of
their doctors doesn't  know the basic mechanism that produce the
phenomena. The person is in a psychological paralysis forehead to the
reality, she does not find the way to return to it, and they only
wishes to die. Then, an order word, with the firmness and the
affection of a father, could avoid the continuation of the process.
And this explains why we have been able to even recover people with
several years of medical diagnosis with this type of dementia.

         Then it isn't properly a disease ("joint of signs and
symptoms that responds to a well-known cause that is function of the
doctor to neutralize"), is not genetic, it does not have to do with
the aging (confusion comes from which to greater age, greater it's the
probability of suffering personal painful losses, that are a very
frequent trigger one, since we have already said), does not begin with
any damage in the brain but that concludes in the long run in it, it
isn't a problem of the memory but of the attention, and before this
one of the motivation, and before this one of the search of
satisfaction according to priorities, and before this one of the
biological and psychological pulsions controlled or not by the will,
and even before the basal state of alert that it perceives immediately
what it is necessary to him, which him lack.

        In short, that the memory is so depend on scenaries,
circumstances and factors in that the central protagonist we are, who
can think that in fact the memory are ourself. And although many along
the man history tried it for perverse intentions, we are not reduced
to a taxonomy simplification.
         To have centered and to have related this dementia to the
memory, and to have located in the thought of which this one is an
organization in himself, that have a physical or biologically
localization, we think that it has been the origin of the great
confusion that it has prevented until now understanding the
phenomenon. Confusion and error that is reflected in a near percentage
al 50 % of cases diagnosed and pharmacologically treated like
"Alzheimer" and that is merely normal aging, so as we have been able
to verify in Argentina, Spain, the Great Britain and United States.
Merely aging with disattention to be fixing the attention to painful
facts. Aging of women who are been in submission forced or allowed all
their life and who have decided to break the scheme ("seventy-agers",
or the rebellion of the 70), aging with forgetfulness to have passed
to a life not only sedentary but also with many less stimuli, aging
with affective, economic, social marginalization. Aging catalogued
like patient because no longer they want, is not interested (they
forget) to do what they always did: to mop plates, to clean the
floors, to take care of the eighth grandson, to fix the car. Aging
with ironies, sarcasms, fantasies and also aggressions as novel forms
in which it express the difficulty of the communication, of the
participation in the familiar or social life. A true alzheimerization
of the greater adults, and the society everything, to which it is
necessary to put a final point.

It remotely have the phenomenon nor the dimension that is said to have
and in addition, the changes that come promptly producing, in special
the freedom, independence and own construction of his own identity in
the women and also in men, it is raising a dock to him of important
containment, and who or we would do in betting to that change.

And finally, it isn't either irreversible, since it is possible and it
gives clear and forceful result, to elevate to those people the self-
esteem and the attention to him, and to permute the abstract idea of
death wished by the one of a real life that surrounds it, with a
alluvium of satisfactory stimuli that the person identifies like own,
the shade by the light that surrounds us to all to little that we lend
a little attention, taken care of and love, and inserting it soon in a
new extolled dairy life. It isn't easy, it is an abyss of difference
with giving a tablet, but he is tremendously positive as much for the
affected ones as for which we worked with the protocols derived from
the psycho social theory neuro sensorio desintegrative of progressive
the chronic dementia, that are under free  disposition to all.

         It is an open theory that we hoped to finish constructing
between all, between the relatives, the own ones affected, cargivers,
and the free, independent, critical, studious,  professionals and
scientists,
Prof.Lic.Luis María Sánchez,
Neurobiologist, University of Entre Rios, Full Professor,
Director,
Alzheimer Project Argentina
TE 0054 3442 431442   stopalz@gmail.com    www.stopalz.org

Sanchez LM. Effect of social isolation, coping deficit after personal
losses, apathy and perception blockade in patients with alzheimer´s
disease. Rev Esp Geriatr Gerontol 2004;39(6):371-80.
Sanchez LM. Progressive to acute social and psychosocial introversion
features and behaviors toward alzheimer´s process. The I J World
Health and Societal Politics 2005; 2(1).
Sanchez LM. Teoría de la articulación de factores psicosociales y
sensoriales deficientes en la desintegración cerebral en casos de
Alzheimer. Geriatrianet.com 2006;8(2).
Sanchez LM, Rubano MdelC, García JD, Cantero CR, Gárate LMT, Florentin
BR. Behavioral factors and sensorial identification deficits as
predictors for dementia of the alzheimer´s type. Rev Neurol.
2007;44(4):198-202.
Dennis P. Harris - 16 Dec 2007 07:17 GMT
On Sat, 15 Dec 2007 14:07:31 -0800 (PST) in
alt.support.alzheimers, "stopalz@gmail.com" <stopalz@gmail.com>
wrote:

> Perhaps you must see on the following studies. Do you know that more
> than 50% of persons diagnosed as alzheimer they aren´t, are false
> positive or false alzheimer? This is an extraordinary question indeed.
> PSYCHO-SOCIAL ALTERNATIVE THEORY ON THE SO CALLS ALZHEIMER
> ALZHEIMER´S  PROJECT ARGENTINA, September 2007

gc, this person is a well known troll in this group, on of our
resident cranks, who belongs in the same killfile with the loonie
that thinks viruses cause AD and can be treated with antibiotics,
and the one who thinks that too much iron is the cause.

the best thing to do with these bozons is to hit the "block
sender" button.
EddyJean - 16 Dec 2007 09:39 GMT
Oh come on, "Know it all."  You still haven't produced a single shred of
scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus.
I will explain it again, Dennis. Because viruses have been ignored for
the past century, they've become stronger and deadlier.  Read about the
Superbugs lately?  Viruses change. They're complex and mutate.
Antibiotics are NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO FIGHT BACK A VIRUS; however,
doctors' prescribe antibiotics all the time for repeated secondary
infections caused by this virus.  Thank God for antibiotics! Basically,
that's the only thing we've got.  When a facial/cranial disease has
progressed too far (the point of no return), nothing helps. We have NO
medicine (discovered in the early 1900s) that specifically fights back
this virus except fend for yourself.

Since you seem to hold strong opposition to discussing the cause of
Alzheimer's disease, who do you represent --a pharmaceutical company?

EddyJean
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Dec 2007 14:44 GMT
Prove it EddyJean.

I notice you go back under your rock when someone asks you that.
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> Oh come on, "Know it all."  You still haven't produced a single shred of
> scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus.
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>
> EddyJean
EddyJean - 16 Dec 2007 18:36 GMT
Re: Beginner Questions  

Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sun, Dec 16, 2007, 9:44am (PST+3)
From: evelyn.ruut@gmail.com (Evelyn Ruut)
Prove it EddyJean.
I notice you go back under your rock when someone asks you that.
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"EddyJean" <eddyjean@webtv.net> wrote in message
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Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of
scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus.
I will explain it again, Dennis. Because viruses have been ignored for
the past century, they've become stronger and deadlier. Read about the
Superbugs lately? Viruses change. They're complex and mutate.
Antibiotics are NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO FIGHT BACK A VIRUS; however,
doctors' prescribe antibiotics all the time for repeated secondary
infections caused by this virus. Thank God for antibiotics! Basically,
that's the only thing we've got. When a facial/cranial disease has
progressed too far (the point of no return), nothing helps. We have NO
medicine (discovered in the early 1900s) that specifically fights back
this virus except fend for yourself.
Since you seem to hold strong opposition to discussing the cause of
Alzheimer's disease, who do you represent --a pharmaceutical company?
EddyJean
=====================================
Evelyn:
Can Dennis not speak for himself?  It's you and Dennis who oppose views
that Alzheimers is caused by a virus. Neither one of you has produced a
shred of scientific evidence that proves otherwise but kept yourselves
hidden behind filters for weeks to avoid answering any questions. Dennis
wrote he relies only on scientific facts.  Since your so adamant that AD
is not caused from a virus, tell me, and the viewers, why you think
otherwise. Afterall, this name calling (troll, mentally ill, crazy,
bozso, etc.) happened not only in Yr-2003 but again now. What is it you
fear? You afraid someone may eventually find a cure to AD? Who do you,
and your little group represent, the pharmaceuticals?

As I wrote several times before, a cure to AD was discovered in the
early 1900s by the late great Dr. James R. Hunt. He treated patients for
nearly 30 years, up to the time of his death.  He was an "ICON", the
father of neurology in the United States, a consultant to hospitals and
mental institutions, yet few doctors heard of him or his discoveries.  A
coverup!

If your thinking how could anyone do this to suffering humanity by
covering up research that finds an AD cure, remember the Tuskegee
experiments on African American sharecroppers in Alabama? The
experiments on the illiterate and poor men and women lasted four decades
ending in the 1970s. Although penicillin was available to treat
syphilis, many were given placebos when penicillin could have saved
their lives. There were approximately 600 people at the start of the
so-called "study" and only five survived.  This resulted in many
lawsuits against the U.S. Health Department.

EddyJean

Evelyn Ruut - 16 Dec 2007 19:45 GMT
EddyJean,

It may very well be caused by a virus or a prion (like mad cow disease) or
anything else, but

IT HASN'T YET BEEN PROVEN  nor can it be disproved at this point.

Therefore you are batting your gums for nothing.

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Re: Beginner Questions

Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sun, Dec 16, 2007, 9:44am (PST+3)
From: evelyn.ruut@gmail.com (Evelyn Ruut)
Prove it EddyJean.
I notice you go back under your rock when someone asks you that.
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"EddyJean" <eddyjean@webtv.net> wrote in message
news:15736-4764F244-375@storefull-3175.bay.webtv.net...
Oh come on, "Know it all." You still haven't produced a single shred of
scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus.
I will explain it again, Dennis. Because viruses have been ignored for
the past century, they've become stronger and deadlier. Read about the
Superbugs lately? Viruses change. They're complex and mutate.
Antibiotics are NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO FIGHT BACK A VIRUS; however,
doctors' prescribe antibiotics all the time for repeated secondary
infections caused by this virus. Thank God for antibiotics! Basically,
that's the only thing we've got. When a facial/cranial disease has
progressed too far (the point of no return), nothing helps. We have NO
medicine (discovered in the early 1900s) that specifically fights back
this virus except fend for yourself.
Since you seem to hold strong opposition to discussing the cause of
Alzheimer's disease, who do you represent --a pharmaceutical company?
EddyJean
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Evelyn:
Can Dennis not speak for himself?  It's you and Dennis who oppose views
that Alzheimers is caused by a virus. Neither one of you has produced a
shred of scientific evidence that proves otherwise but kept yourselves
hidden behind filters for weeks to avoid answering any questions. Dennis
wrote he relies only on scientific facts.  Since your so adamant that AD
is not caused from a virus, tell me, and the viewers, why you think
otherwise. Afterall, this name calling (troll, mentally ill, crazy,
bozso, etc.) happened not only in Yr-2003 but again now. What is it you
fear? You afraid someone may eventually find a cure to AD? Who do you,
and your little group represent, the pharmaceuticals?

As I wrote several times before, a cure to AD was discovered in the
early 1900s by the late great Dr. James R. Hunt. He treated patients for
nearly 30 years, up to the time of his death.  He was an "ICON", the
father of neurology in the United States, a consultant to hospitals and
mental institutions, yet few doctors heard of him or his discoveries.  A
coverup!

If your thinking how could anyone do this to suffering humanity by
covering up research that finds an AD cure, remember the Tuskegee
experiments on African American sharecroppers in Alabama? The
experiments on the illiterate and poor men and women lasted four decades
ending in the 1970s. Although penicillin was available to treat
syphilis, many were given placebos when penicillin could have saved
their lives. There were approximately 600 people at the start of the
so-called "study" and only five survived.  This resulted in many
lawsuits against the U.S. Health Department.

EddyJean

EddyJean - 17 Dec 2007 07:05 GMT
EddyJean,
It may very well be caused by a virus or a prion (like mad cow disease)
or anything else, but
IT HASN'T YET BEEN PROVEN nor can it be disproved at this point.
Therefore you are batting your gums for nothing.
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Evelyn:  The late Dr. James R. Hunt DID PROVE Alzheimers is caused by a
virus and treated patients for 30 years before his death in 1937. Most
of Dr. Hunt's "masterful" work and books have mysteriously disappeared.
Only a few journal articles remain. There's a of money made treating
sick people so why would the "greedy" want research to help the sick get
well?  There is no serious research on Facial/Cranial diseases, only a
front to make us think researchers are hard at work. Ho, Ho, Ho!

I don't mind batting my gums. There's always a few that see the light.

EddyJean

deerwoodflower@hotmail.com - 20 Dec 2007 02:51 GMT
> Re: Beginner Questions
>
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>
> EddyJean

As I wrote several times before, a cure to AD was discovered in the
early 1900s by the late great Dr. James R. Hunt. He treated patients
for
nearly 30 years, up to the time of his death.  He was an "ICON", the
father of neurology in the United States, a consultant to hospitals
and
mental institutions, yet few doctors heard of him or his discoveries.
A
coverup.

Eddy Jean,Then share this cure with us and get it over with and make
for a very nice holiday for us all.,Barb
Jules - 17 Dec 2007 02:49 GMT
> Oh come on, "Know it all."  You still haven't produced a single shred of
> scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus.
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>
> EddyJean

I am fed up with f.cking arsehole c.nts ,you like you, me and other people
like you, have to see people now, or in the past with this hatred suffering,
not maybe only for the people who have it, but for the familes...i see each
time i see my old man, nothing like the person i knew for many years, it
f.cking kills me in inside, the only shred of f.cking piece i can feel
inside, is that he doesnt know what he has, yet my late nan saw it in him
before she died.....

The only happiness i give him, is to visit with my dog, and then he smiles,
he knows me, he knows my dog...yet in a 1 hour visit he can ask the same
question over and over, it took my years before i learnt to controlmy
temper, it used to make me mad, he would ask over and over, he does now,
'how old is the dog now?'  he f.cking knows, but cant remeber, and cant
remember he just f.cking asked me...2 minutes before, 5 minutes before, the
last f.cking visit over and over, he is a man, who raised me, was the most
wodnerful man to me, and to anyone who knew him, yet now cant remember how
old the f.cking dog is, cant remeber to take a f.cking bath, doesnt know
what he just ate or what f.cking day it is, never mind what f.cking planet
hes on.....

I dont give a f.ck about anything apart from him, it kills me inside each
time i see him, i remember him being put in some f.cking home, against his
will, when he was still able to live in his home, perfectly safe, and
happy....he went downhill so fast, that tore me to pieces, yes after 10 min
he was ok, i ask him each time i see him, how he is and he always replies
'living a life of Riley' yet he aint the f.cking person i remember, the man
who taught me to work in cars at the age of 10, taught me to count, taught
me how to respect and treat other other people, the only thing he never
taught me (i should have known better) was how to date women...

I havent seen him for a month, he wont know that...he knows nothing now, but
i know, when he smiles, it makes me happy, even if it lasts until i leave,
he says to me 'thanks for coming, you didnt have too' but its least he
f.cking deserves....i made his life, and my late nans life a misery when i
was a teenager, but f.cking luckiyl he cant remember the sh.t i caused, some
things normal teenagers do, some not, things i aint proud of...

no matter what he remembers, or how he is, each time i see him, hes the same
f.cking grandfather who made me what i am now, who i remember crying becuase
of me, saying he loved me and always will....

I always told myself this saying.  if money can be measured, and if i am a
10th of the man my granddad was, then im a very rich man...
Evelyn Ruut - 17 Dec 2007 12:31 GMT
EddyJean you idiot, do you see the suffering you create here?   Jules is my
friend and the agony sorrow and sense of loss he feels about his grandfather
is NOT HELPED at all by your wild ranting theories.    Do you see the name
of this newsgroup?  It is alt.SUPPORT.alzheimers, not alt.EddyJean.rants.

Offer Jules some support instead of your trolling.   No matter what
alzheimers is caused by, the results are a lot of awful human suffering.
Those of us here who care for loved ones need kindness and comfort, not your
theories, and even if they were true, there is no peace in it for us.    Go
and find this guys books and reprint them, or bring them to the alzheimer
society, or bring them to the medical journals.

This is the wrong place to dump your trash.   And if you insist on coming
here, give a decent answer to Jules, who is hurting in his deepest heart
over the only loving relative he ever had in his life's suffering from
alzheimers.

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>> Oh come on, "Know it all."  You still haven't produced a single shred of
>> scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus.
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> I always told myself this saying.  if money can be measured, and if i am a
> 10th of the man my granddad was, then im a very rich man...
Evelyn Ruut - 17 Dec 2007 13:06 GMT
>> Oh come on, "Know it all."  You still haven't produced a single shred of
>> scientific evidence that disproves Alzheimer's is not caused by a virus.
[quoted text clipped - 67 lines]
> I always told myself this saying.  if money can be measured, and if i am a
> 10th of the man my granddad was, then im a very rich man...

Jules, you ARE a lot like your grandad, because he gave you the best he had
to offer when he raised you, he taught you every day of your life.   You
probably don't know how much you are like him.   We absorb a great deal from
those who raised us and who loved us all our lives.

Right now you can't much have a meaningful conversation with him, but he
still recognizes your love, just as you still recognize his.   There is no
doubt this is a rotten disgusting illness that robs people of their very
selves.

Nobody knows what causes this ....except our various trolls with their
cockeyed theories, and their theories about its cause are of no real help to
those of us wrestling with the ethical questions as well as the daily nuts
and bolts of dealing with it in our loved ones.

Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules.    Better to killfile the
trolls.  They really are no help to us.

I know it seems pointless to visit when they don't remember, can't properly
communicate, and don't even know if you were there five minutes ago or a
month ago.   I also know that the homes have a depressing atmosphere, and it
is sad to see all the sick elderly people there.   I know they ask the same
questions over and over again till you could go crazy from it.   But you
don't go there for you, you go there for him.

But if you go on some sort of a regular basis, you keep the flame of loving
connection with your grandfather going, even as he is slipping away from
this world an inch at a time.   He took care of you when you were young and
soft in the head, now you are taking care of him when he is old and soft in
the head.

Bring him a favorite snack.   Bring the dog and answer the questions for the
umpteenth time.   You don't go for you, you go for him.

You have been reading on this group for a long time.   You know that one day
he might not even know who you are.   You know that there is only one place
this illness will take him.    Be strong.   Think about how your grandfather
would have handled this if the roles were reversed.   Then you do what he
would've done, and you will have given him the greatest honor you can give
him, and you WILL be like him.

Love,
Ev

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Dennis P. Harris - 17 Dec 2007 20:44 GMT
> Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules.    Better to killfile the
> trolls.  They really are no help to us.

absolutely.  eddyjean, ironjustice, and all the other loonies
should be completely IGNORED.  response only makes them want to
post more.  NO ONE SHOULD BE FEEDING THESE TROLLS.

jules, just add eddyjean and those other loonies to your "block
sender" list or killfile.  they are not worth wasting your anger.
Jules - 18 Dec 2007 06:43 GMT
> > Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules.    Better to killfile the
> > trolls.  They really are no help to us.
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> jules, just add eddyjean and those other loonies to your "block
> sender" list or killfile.  they are not worth wasting your anger.

i had seen her posts for some time, but i kept quiet...then i just
snapped...which isnt me, so i apologise here for the use of the foul and
nasty language, i dont swear normally infront of woman and childen, its not
appropriate.
sweetpickleNO@SPAMknology.net - 18 Dec 2007 14:51 GMT
Jules, thank you for the apology for the language you used.  I really
appreciate it.
Gwen

>> > Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules.    Better to killfile the
>> > trolls.  They really are no help to us.
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> not
> appropriate.
Jules - 19 Dec 2007 04:15 GMT
thanks, not me at all, my nan hated bad language, and my old man always told
me never infront of people....'there is no need for language like that, it
doesnt make you big' is what he would say...then clout me around the ear and
give me a smile...

you know, i had a totally differant name a kid...everyone called me 'Sutch'
(ok people in Britain might know a famous person who had the same name)

actually it was some times, i was sutch a good boy, then the next day i was
sutch a bad boy

> Jules, thank you for the apology for the language you used.  I really
> appreciate it.
[quoted text clipped - 15 lines]
> > not
> > appropriate.
Chuck Whealton - 23 Dec 2007 15:04 GMT
> thanks, not me at all, my nan hated bad language, and my old man always told
> me never infront of people....'there is no need for language like that, it
[quoted text clipped - 31 lines]
> > > not
> > > appropriate.

Jules:

Your Grand Father and Grand Mother were absolutely correct.  However,
sometimes when we feel very strongly about something we make
mistakes.  There's probably not many who subscribe to this group that
haven't made the same mistakes.

Cut yourself a break and simply try to live more by what your Grand
Parents taught you.  Nowadays, I try to live more by what my parents
taught me than I did in my younger years.  There will always be people
who tick you off, whether they're trying to or not.  Just let it go.
Getting mad will only increase our own blood pressure and that's never
good.

Charles R. Whealton
Charles Whealton @ pleasedontspam.com
Jules - 24 Dec 2007 07:06 GMT
"Chuck Whealton" <

Jules:

Your Grand Father and Grand Mother were absolutely correct.  However,
sometimes when we feel very strongly about something we make
mistakes.  There's probably not many who subscribe to this group that
haven't made the same mistakes.

Cut yourself a break and simply try to live more by what your Grand
Parents taught you.  Nowadays, I try to live more by what my parents
taught me than I did in my younger years.  There will always be people
who tick you off, whether they're trying to or not.  Just let it go.
Getting mad will only increase our own blood pressure and that's never
good.

Charles R. Whealton
Charles Whealton @ pleasedontspam.com

Well at my age, you think i would know better....but no.   i still make
mistakes.

Hopefully things are back to normal now....
EddyJean - 19 Dec 2007 03:54 GMT
Re: Beginner Questions  

Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Mon, Dec 17, 2007, 11:44am (PST-1)
From: NO_SPAM_TO_dpharris@gci.net (Dennis P. Harris)
On Mon, 17 Dec 2007 08:06:40 -0500 in alt.support.alzheimers, "Evelyn
Ruut" <evelyn.ruut@gmail.com> wrote:
Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules.   Better to killfile the
trolls. They really are no help to us.
absolutely. eddyjean, ironjustice, and all the other loonies should be
completely IGNORED. response only makes them want to post more. NO ONE
SHOULD BE FEEDING THESE TROLLS.
jules, just add eddyjean and those other loonies to your "block sender"
list or killfile. they are not worth wasting your anger.
======================================
Well, folks, here comes Dennis, the mind- controller.  Remember his
previous posts? He relies only on scientific evidence but has produced
no evidence to support his view that Alzheimers is not caused by a
virus. Not only that, Dennis doesn't think the viewers have the
intelligence to make up their own minds.  This "brainwashing phony"
thinks he has to do it for you.

EddyJean
Jules - 18 Dec 2007 06:58 GMT
"Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.ruut@gmail.com> wrote in message news:47667467$0$2473$

> Jules, you ARE a lot like your grandad, because he gave you the best he had
> to offer when he raised you, he taught you every day of your life.   You
> probably don't know how much you are like him.   We absorb a great deal from
> those who raised us and who loved us all our lives.

i hope i am like him, a girl visited me from Berlin the other week, she saw
fotos of him going back years, and she said i looked like him, which wasnt
good, i dont have grey hair and gettign wrinkly...but she said i look
nothing like my real father....which was good.

seriously, i hope i am like him, kind and compashionate...hell do i spell
that word??

> Right now you can't much have a meaningful conversation with him, but he
> still recognizes your love, just as you still recognize his.   There is no
> doubt this is a rotten disgusting illness that robs people of their very
> selves.

he smiles so much when i wake in, you know, i can even see the dog smile too
when we go....money cant buy something like that, i smile too.

> Nobody knows what causes this ....except our various trolls with their
> cockeyed theories, and their theories about its cause are of no real help to
> those of us wrestling with the ethical questions as well as the daily nuts
> and bolts of dealing with it in our loved ones.

i just lost it...im ashamed i did that

> Be strong and don't let yourself down, Jules.    Better to killfile the
> trolls.  They really are no help to us.
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> questions over and over again till you could go crazy from it.   But you
> don't go there for you, you go there for him.

its not pointless for me to go, i havent been for a month now, cos i filled
my fuel tank when a friend visited, and then leaked about 140 dollars worth
of fuel all over...and at the mo i cant afford to get a couple of new tyres.
I will go some time this week, after pay day...but no smoking in the car!

> But if you go on some sort of a regular basis, you keep the flame of loving
> connection with your grandfather going, even as he is slipping away from
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> Bring him a favorite snack.   Bring the dog and answer the questions for the
> umpteenth time.   You don't go for you, you go for him.

I keep forgetting to take a kit kat, not for granddad but for Arthur, cos
granddad each time he went to the fridge when he lived at home, the dog
would follow or as soon as granddad shouted kit kat, actually its been a
couple of years since granddad last gave him one, but i shouted to the dog
the other day, kit kat and his ears pricked and he went crazy and exited,
was just a pity i didnt have one!

He would only let granddad open it for him and would sit there happily
waiting for it.

> You have been reading on this group for a long time.   You know that one day
> he might not even know who you are.   You know that there is only one place
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> Love,
> Ev
Evelyn Ruut - 18 Dec 2007 13:04 GMT
Jules, do NOT be ashamed of giving EddyJean the business, not for a minute!
I think all of us were cheering you on.   Trolls suck.   Dennis hates it
when I argue with them, but he doesn't realize I kind of enjoy making
monkeys out of them.  LOL!
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> "Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.ruut@gmail.com> wrote in message
> news:47667467$0$2473$
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>> Love,
>> Ev
Jules - 19 Dec 2007 04:19 GMT
I usually just ignore them, but that night it hit a nerve with me and i just
flipped, last time i did that, was when i was 15 and i thumped my father on
the chops, and my granddad rather then hit me, just wrestled me to the
floor...and sat on me, even with the rage i had, no way in the world could i
get him off...he hated bullies...

He used to tell me, when he was at school, he would get revenge on the
bullies who hurt otehrs, he would just give them a bear hug and lift off the
ground, he never had to hit them....

We used to play a game, i did even the last time i saw him, we would hold
hands and try to crush the others until one would submit, even in his 80's
now hes still strong...and would grin knowing i was trying my hardest and
couldnt do owt.

> Jules, do NOT be ashamed of giving EddyJean the business, not for a minute!
> I think all of us were cheering you on.   Trolls suck.   Dennis hates it
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> >> Love,
> >> Ev
Dennis P. Harris - 20 Dec 2007 11:39 GMT
> I keep forgetting to take a kit kat, not for granddad but for Arthur, cos
> granddad each time he went to the fridge when he lived at home, the dog
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> He would only let granddad open it for him and would sit there happily
> waiting for it.

uh... jules?  chocolate is TOXIC for dogs.  in other words,
poison.  it can make them very, very sick.
Evelyn Ruut - 20 Dec 2007 12:35 GMT
>> I keep forgetting to take a kit kat, not for granddad but for Arthur, cos
>> granddad each time he went to the fridge when he lived at home, the dog
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> uh... jules?  chocolate is TOXIC for dogs.  in other words,
> poison.  it can make them very, very sick.

Yes, it is toxic.
My mother in law nearly killed her dog by letting it eat chocolate.

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Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 20 Dec 2007 15:43 GMT
Here is a link about the subject
http://www.dogownersdigest.com/news/library/chocolate-dog-poisoning.shtml

Mary G.
Jules - 20 Dec 2007 18:47 GMT
known about that for years, and that choc is toxic to humans too.

only give him 1 stick, just a little

> > I keep forgetting to take a kit kat, not for granddad but for Arthur, cos
> > granddad each time he went to the fridge when he lived at home, the dog
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> uh... jules?  chocolate is TOXIC for dogs.  in other words,
> poison.  it can make them very, very sick.
Evelyn Ruut - 20 Dec 2007 22:13 GMT