I go to visit mom as much as I can --she is stable and sits up in the
 wheel chair and she doesn't say much, but she knows I am there and who I
 am. This is very hard as it is a matter of time when her heart will stop
 could be any time or maybe months ---the waiting is the hardest part
 knowing it will happen but I still will not be ready for it. I know she
 is going down hill ever since I had to put her in assist living but at
 least she is not alone, safe and being watched that is a peace of mind
 knowing that.
 Just hope this will not go on forever and that God will give her peace
 soon in his time.
 JJ

 JJ, how are YOU doing?   I hope you are well and getting your own life back on track....

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 Best Regards,

 Evelyn

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Hi Bill I am coming in a little late here but I did read all your
posts...I dont have much advice to give as far as the ALZ and those who
do have already given you great advice

I just lost my mom in Dec and I can so relate to what you are going
through...isnt it funny (funny odd not funny haha) how no matter how old
they get or the realization that we might lose them one day losing a
parent is sooo hard...my mom suffered from alcohol dementia and it was a
horrible thing to watch but I never expected her to die so soon (she was
77) cause she was never physically ill...same with my dad (who is in
nursing home also with alcohol dementia)

They were from the  "old school" where you didnt burden others and its
so hard for those of their generation to become reliant on adult
children and I know my mom fought for her independence til the last

My heart prayers and thoughts goes out to you and yours in this
difficult of all times...please keep us updated and we will be here for
you when the inevitable happens...just to give you a glimmer of hope
though (and I hope this is not inappropriate for me to say and it is not
written in stone) but they wrote my dad off so many times and hes still
kicking...they (the medical profession) also misdiagnosed him with
leukemia which now 3 years later they say he doesnt have...anyway I
guess what I am trying to say is its not over til its over...hope I am
saying this right..I am not trying to be flip or give you "false"
hope...Just sharing my experience

I hope you will take the advice you have been given from other
caregivers here and spend as much time as you are able cause it will be
all those final moments that you will remember foremost.....I knew my
mom was dying the night I left the hospital and I was feeling so bad I
wasnt there at the end but the few precious moments I had with her eases
my pain

All I can really say is we here KNOW so well what you are going through
and I hope you will continue to use the group for support when needed
for whatever does happen

Peace
Boydette

OH and one more thing I see you are in Pomona...I grew up in that area
and my brothers and sister were all born in the areas surrounding....my
daughter and I went to CA in March to see the Ellen show and I so wanted
to see all my old stomping grounds but we ran out of time....I see your
temp is 64 that sounds like heaven we are still in the low 90s here in
the midwest and the humidity is so high its like a steam bath....times
like now makes me ache for that cool ocean breeze coming over the
mountains...anyway just wanted to share
Peace
B