> I am NOT saying that is what you are doing I am just saying
> unless a poster is being nasty and hateful and trying to argue I see no
> reason to ignore someone just because YOU dont like them and then tell
> others to ignore them.
it has nothing to do with liking them. it has everything to do
with the fact that trolls like mr. ironjustice and this argentine
idiot 1) insist on repeatedly posting MISinformation. they
believe that if they repeat a lie often enough, it will be
believed, 2) it's useless to try convince them otherwise and 3)
they love to disrupt the blogs or groups where they post.
they only do this WHEN PEOPLE PAY ATTENTION TO THEM. if everyone
completely ignores them and acts as if they never posted, they
will try posting their nonsense several more times to see if they
can get a rise out of someone. once no one pays them any
attention, they will go away to a newsgroup where people like you
will continue to argue with them.
when someone's sole purpose in life is to preach constantly about
something that's either not true or doesn't matter to anyone,
ignoring them is NOT being nasty or hateful.
in your particular case, i killfiled you because you were stuck
in a loop. in every post over several months, you complained
about problems dealing with your parents and how stressful it
was, but would not listen to repeated advice that you needed to
take a break, disconnect from your parents, and do other things
to reduce your stress and gain control of your life.
i was blunt, not "hateful" in telling you that you needed to take
some action instead of just complaining over and over and over
and over. it's called "tough love".
i never called you a troll. and i am happy that you seem to be
getting back in control of your life and staying on an even keel
emotionally. believe me, after being the caregiver of a bipolar
mother, i know that it's not easy for you.
Boydette - 31 Aug 2007 03:20 GMT
Dennis....just to clarify...if I repeated myself it was because the
events in my life were repeating themself...AND it wasnt that I was
ignoring advice...I was new at this and getting it with BOTH parents at
the same time...and as you know have my own mental health issues
I tried the advice given and it didnt work in MY case...its like I just
told my daughter who is trying to give me advice on how to handle my
aggresive sister...the dynamic of our relationship was set a LONG LONG
time ago...being 55 years old its kind of hard to start treating a
family member differently even if it is NOT the best way to handle
it...I did not have it in me to be demanding or try to tell my parents
what to do...and I am sorry if my INSISTENT cares caused you to think I
wasnt listening..
really what it all boils down it is THIS...these are just words on a
screen if you could hear my voice or if you KNEW my personality or my
history of abuse which made me non assertive (unless under the
influence) you would not be so quick to judge my responses as
repetitive...MY daily life with two demented parents was
repetitive...DUH
I can only tell you what I have told people in my REAL life...if you are
sick of hearing it think how sick I am of LIVING it...and sorry Dennis
but I dont see how you can come to a group like this and NOT understand
that...killfiling someone just because they are not taking YOUR advice
is your perogative..thank GOD not everyone in this group felt that
way...