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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Alzheimer's / August 2007I paid the price for caregiving
as soon as i got mom in assist living I went to the doc and found out I had bronchitis, then to top matters off my blood pressure kept raising and rising to where it was almost stroke level, I do not know what brought it up to 220 over 108 I got scared and went back to the doc ,where they added another blocker of some sort. I guess it was all good in some ways as I could not go and see mom for about 7 days now. I hope to go soon to see her but I have been calling and they said she is eating well and doing everything she is suppose to do. said she even tried to pay someone to take her home. Oh well not much she can do now. I haven't felt so guilty after gettig myself so run down for trying to keep her home with me. I really have paid the price now and I have to try and get myself well.I have faced the fact that mom cannot come home and if and when I go to see her I know she will ask when she can come home. But now I can leave and know she is safe and I can get a life again. I just want to say to all caregivers be careful as you run on pure adrenaline until you can stop and then it hits the damage of what has been done will come back on you. JJ > as soon as i got mom in assist living I went to the doc and found out I > had bronchitis, then to top matters off my blood pressure kept raising [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > pure adrenaline until you can stop and then it hits the damage of what > has been done will come back on you. It's also wise to remember that were anything to happen to the caregiver, any further assistance would have to come from elsewhere: a family member who isn't as close, the State, someone. This is something my own medics had to remind me of two or three times. Blessed be, Baird > as soon as i got mom in assist living I went to the doc and found out I > had bronchitis, then to top matters off my blood pressure kept raising [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > has been done will come back on you. > JJ and JJ, would you talk to your doc about depression too? i mean i dont know you at all, but you have been through some tough times so watch yourself friend... chris in oz <snip>and JJ, would you talk to your doc about depression too? i mean i don't know you at all, but you have been through some tough times so watch yourself friend... chris in oz Doc already had me on anti-depressants but I want to get off of them. I think by being sick and staying away from mom all this week, the guilty feelings passed. I was glad and relieved that I didn't have to worry and deal with her any more on a one to one basis, I thought if I got sick like this who would have taken care of her? I know now I did the right thing and now if she should stress me out when I visit I can walk away knowing she is safe and not all alone. I am coming to terms with my feelings and guilt. I feel so much better and wish I could have done this sooner, but I feel that God knew how full my plate was and this was the right time. thanks JJ > Doc already had me on anti-depressants but I want to get off of them. no, you need to keep taking them for a while. after a traumatic experience like you've been through, you are going through an emotional roller coaster, and the meds will help even things out. to help get back on an even keel, i suggest finding a caregiver support group. in addition, you might want to ask you doc if she/he knows about any depression support groups that you could attend. and exercise every day, whether you're motivated or not. aerobic exercise creates endorphins which improves mood and make you feel more positive. > as soon as i got mom in assist living I went to the doc and found out I > had bronchitis, then to top matters off my blood pressure kept raising [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > has been done will come back on you. > JJ Hi JJ, So sorry to hear you got so sick! While I was caring for my mother in law I got seriously sick with very bad chest colds 5 times in one year! Turned out my blood sugar was running high and that was what caused it. By the way, did you know that most cold medicines can raise your blood pressure? That may be what did it, if you were taking anything for the bronchitis. I am glad to hear your mom is doing OK in the assisted living. Not that you need me to say it, but you did the right thing. Can you imagine how it would have been if you got sick and were still taking care of her at home? I'm glad you posted, I am sure I am not the only person who had been thinking of you and wondering how things were going. My mother in law also offered people money, her jewelry, whatever, if they would "take her home" again. It is so sad, but that "home" is not an addresss, but really a time when they were well and able to take care of themselves. Take care of yourself, JJ.... I hope you are feeling better. Evelyn > I just want to say to all caregivers be careful as you run on > pure adrenaline until you can stop and then it hits the damage of what > has been done will come back on you. yep. just like we told you. i'm glad you paid attention before you ended up in the hospital. > as soon as i got mom in assist living I went to the doc and found out I > had bronchitis, then to top matters off my blood pressure kept raising [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > and if and when I go to see her I know she will ask when she can come > home. And the answer is "The doctor needs to run some tests, check your meds, after that"  SignatureTumbleweed email replies not necessary but to contact use; tumbleweednews at hotmail dot com |
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