Hello Mary,

I must tell you about an incident that happened yesterday.  It was my
sister's birthday.  He cursed her royally that day.  She asked him if he knew
what day it was, he said no.  She said it is "my birthday"  He said "Happy
Birthday, even if you don't deserve it!"

I ask myself why does this happen and why to her.  She is a kind and loving
person with so much compassion for him and everyone else!  I am always asking
for prayers for her from the rest of our family and I know that God will take
care of things in time. Please pray for us.
Thank you,
Bri

Dear Brianna,

They don't lose ALL their proverbial "marbles" at once.   My mother in law
retained the ability to be sarcastic and snippy for years.   It was one of
the last faculties to go.   She still maintained a very good social
personality and she knew exactly when to act very sedate and when to
aggravate the heck out of me.   People thought she was such an angel (which
she was in public), but she could be very difficult when the mood moved her.

The paranoia about thinking people stole their money is EXTREMELY common,
and many of us have been through that one.

Think about it;  Imagine how it is for them when things seemingly get moved
around without their knowing it, and things happen that they don't remember,
they never would imagine it is their own memory gone bad, they think that
logically, it can only be that somebody else came in their room and took or
moved their stuff.

They don't remember spending their money or giving it to someone, or even
putting it into the bank, so they think YOU took it, since you are the one
sharing the house with them.   If you thought someone came into your house
and stole your money, you'd speak up too!

Here's a not so funny tale..... My mother in law took her bankbooks to the
bank, religiously every month, because she didn't believe she would get the
interest on her money unless they stamped it in the book.   Now eventually
that bankbook would get filled up with stamp marks, so they would start up a
new one.   She saved this whole stack of old bankbooks, not realizing they
were punched through as dead bankbooks, since there was of course, only one
current one.    Somehow she imagined that the bank stole her money because
they only honored ONE of the bankbooks, the current one.

One separate bankbook in particular had a certain amount of money in it,
which she had transferred into the main account some time before.   No
matter how they showed her over and over again that it went into the main
account, she SWORE the bank stole her money.    It was a real problem and
she would show up from time to time at that bank, carrying on about how they
stole her money.   We took her to live with us somewhere around that time,
because she was losing it in a lot of ways, not just that one.

Don't take it personally.   It may be a good idea to REALLY take over
keeping the bankbooks and the money, because if the person is are forgetting
it, they might hide it somewhere and forget where they hid it.   My mother
in law did that too.   One day she was tearing the house apart nearly
hysterically unable to find her bankbook collection.   I remembered when we
first arrived, she'd opened one cupboard in the kitchen.  Would you believe
she had put the bankbooks in a stack of kitchen bowls in that cupboard?
That's where they were.

snip random bits out of someone's brain, anything coukld happen, and
frequently does.

If you had a randomly damaged brain, would you think it fair if someone
criticised 'you' for doing it, when 'you' is the person you *were*, with
various capabilities removed ...why dont you swear in pubic?  thats learned
behaviour, why dont you accuse someone of stealing from you in public?  more
learned behaviour. Now unlearn the latter by having that memory (which is
what learning is) removed.

Thats why the little kid says "MUM WHY IS THAT LADY BALD' out loud,  they
havent learned not to yet, so the adult doesn't, but that memory can be lost
by an Az sufferer, plus each and every other learned memory, all that social
cnditioning etc. Its not at all uncommon to read here of little old church
going ladies who suddenly start swearing like troopers and making sexual
remarks or similar.