just from reading a lot of posts , I am learning the best way to handle
 mom is to agree and sort of ignore what she keeps saying . I finally am
 learning it is best not to get myself upset by trying to argue with her.
 It has taken me long enough to learn this is the best way. maybe I
 myself can come off the anti-depressants because she has given me high
 anxieties and high blood pressure. now I am learning don't take things
 to heart she will forget what she said in a few min.
 JJ

 Exactly, JJ.  

 You cannot win an argument with her, it is only going to make you both miserable.   Her reality is not the reality you see.   Better to just agree with her or to say nothing at all.   Let it slide, you will both be lots happier.

 Furthermore, trying to get her to agree with you on something, (like you mentioned that you asked her to be nice yesterday) will not work, even if she does agree.   Why?  Because within seconds of having agreed with you, she has already forgotten the promise, what it was about, the very fact that you asked her, and she is again, a stranger in a strange place all the time.

 That is the worst part of alzheimers, the fact they can't remember that they can't remember.

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 Best Regards,

 Evelyn

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