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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Alzheimer's / April 2007any suggestions on how to get mom to go to day care?
I have to try and trick her into going like on mondays she can get her hair done there and I tell she has to go to the hairdressers and then I leave her there telling her I have to go to work and will pick her up later. but to get her to budge out of the house the rest of the week she just doesn't buy it and I cannot get her out of the house. JJ > I have to try and trick her into going like on mondays she can get her > hair done there and I tell she has to go to the hairdressers and then > I leave her there telling her I have to go to work and will pick her up > later. I wouldn't even try that with my mother. It's hard enough getting her to the regular hair salon or the doctor. I'm looking for a sitter that will stay with her at home for a reasonable rate. If your mother doesn't have much income, there are programs that offer free or low-cost home assistance. My mother has too much income from Social Security and pension to qualify for them. >> I have to try and trick her into going like on mondays she can get her >> hair done there and I tell she has to go to the hairdressers and then [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > home assistance. My mother has too much income from Social Security and > pension to qualify for them. Hi Don, I freely admit that I sent my mother in law to daycare for MY sanity. I needed the time alone to rest, shop, do whatever.  SignatureBest Regards, Evelyn With my mother in law we had to nearly force her to go at times. But when she got there they were wonderful with her. She hugged and kissed all the workers and they loved her there. I think the reticence to go was just dreading having to change or do anything particular. I noticed that anything she had to do, she balked at. They are often so confused and cannot organize themselves, and there is a sort of a "performance anxiety" type of a hesitance, rather than a real dislike. SignatureBest Regards, Evelyn I have to try and trick her into going like on mondays she can get her hair done there and I tell she has to go to the hairdressers and then I leave her there telling her I have to go to work and will pick her up later. but to get her to budge out of the house the rest of the week she just doesn't buy it and I cannot get her out of the house. JJ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ > I have to try and trick her into going like on mondays she can get her > hair done there and I tell she has to go to the hairdressers and then I > leave her there telling her I have to go to work and will pick her up > later. > but to get her to budge out of the house the rest of the week she just > doesn't buy it and I cannot get her out of the house. What do they offer at the daycare? Is there anything that might appeal to her more than anything else? I know the Dowager didn't care for bingo while she was still able to go to daycare, but she did like the movies. If she does like something especially well, play it up when you take here there. Blessed be, Baird SignatureModkin of soc.religion.paganism Modstaff of alt.religion.wicca.moderated Newstaff, Inc. at newstaff.com I know that they sing ,do exercise, watch movies and sometimes little crafts. mom feels uncomfortable be some of the people live there and are really more far advance in their alzheimers. so I think she is mostly kind of overwhelmed with some of their behavior there. so sometimes I do not know if I am doing the right thing by taking her there. JJ >I know that they sing ,do exercise, watch movies and sometimes little > crafts. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > know if I am doing the right thing by taking her there. > JJ Look at it this way; She is going to get more stimulation by going, than by sitting home doing nothing. Stimulation will help to keep her mind active as long as possible. My mother in law noticed some of those who were way worse off than she was, and told us so. But that is always going to be, at daycare or the nursing home, whichever. I needed the time alone to shop, to clean, to do wash, to cook, to go to the store, whatever. I had responsibility for her all the rest of the time, so I didn't entertain feelings of guilt for sending her to daycare. SignatureBest Regards, Evelyn |
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