Driving under influence of A.D.

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Anthony Shipley - 18 Dec 2006 00:08 GMT

Hello again to all.

I remember getting quite a few of you upset about driving despite having an A.D.
diagnosis.

My neurologist has now, given new scans, has forbid me to drive. Roughly, he has
found brain waves at very low frequencies. I am quite happy to live with that.

I am not so happy that he delivered the news to my wife but not to me. Given my
symptoms are essentially memory loss, I don't believe that there was no reason
to not, at least, relay the news at the same time.

Any thoughts?

anthony shipley

Run away with me; I can make you unhappy.

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Tumbleweed - 18 Dec 2006 00:41 GMT

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Hi Anthony.

I guess there are several possibilities as to why he told your wife and not
you;
Maybe he thought you'd forget so it would be better to tell your wife
(Though that doesnt answer why he didnt tell you at the same time, so.....
-Maybe he was frightened of a bad reaction from you.
-Maybe he felt he would forestall an argument with you, after all even if
you didnt agree you cant argue back with your wife.
Maybe, and this is ugly so I apologise for mentioning it, he did tell you
but you forgot?

I dont know how bad your memory is, relatively speaking it cant be too bad
or you wouldt be able to post here, but I know from my father that even
early on, he would sometimes completely forget conversation or other events
that took place only 2 or 3 minutes previously. And this is when he was at a
stage where he was still functioning more or less normally.

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wrcromwell@gmail.com - 18 Dec 2006 01:18 GMT

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Those are some good points. But I remember when we had my mother in law
in to see those professionals and they talked about her as though she
weren't even there. Of course, it upset her to be treated that way. The
"professionals" took that as just one more sign that she was too far
gone to matter any more. My mother in law died just over three years
ago. I have still not forgiven those people for those particular sins.
I probably never will.

Maybe you should show this to your wife and ask her as your best
advocate to not allow those people to treat you this way. She will know
if you were told and you just forgot. But if you weren't told you are
going to have to depend on her more and more to be treated properly.

Bill

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Evelyn Ruut - 18 Dec 2006 01:30 GMT

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Hi Anthony,

I was wondering how you were especially since you haven't posted in quite a
while.

Sorry to hear of the new development, but you were able to drive for a long
time, even long after your diagnosis. Doctors so often get used to giving
instructions to the wives, especially if there are memory problems involved,
so I don't think your doctor meant anything bad by telling her first.
Perhaps he felt your wife would have given you this message in a more gentle
and acceptable way? Think about the good reasons he may have done this,
rather than the bad ones. I think there are more possible good motives
than bad ones in this instance.

At any rate, it is good to see you posting again.

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Evelyn
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