My mom has had alzheimers for a few years now and my dad has been one of
those stubborn "I can do it myself" husbands who to date has refused any
significant help. But she recently took a turn for the worse. Now she can't
even stand up on her own, and can barely do so with assistance. She has
become quite frail and I'm afraid of hurting her now when I help lift her up
out of the chair. She can still sustain short conversations, but becomes
extremely frightened and angry if you try to handle her in any way. This
makes it almost impossible for him to keep her clean.

Fortunately he finally agrees that he can't take care of her and is ready
for her to move out to a home. We went to look at a few alzheimer's units
and found one he likes; it accepts Medi-cal and although he has just
recently applied and hasn't been formally approved everything looks to be in
order. But the home requires a physical as part of the admissions paperwork,
and we don't know how to get that done -- her regular Dr. won't see her on a
moment's notice, and even if he would getting her there would be very
difficult. It's looking like the whole thing might take a couple of weeks or
more.

Any ideas or suggestions on how to expedite everything? She needs to be
somewhere asap.

--Doug