Hi Tumbleweed

Yes I am sad to say you could be right. We separated just before this
'espisode' happened but were still living under the same roof.

He had already hired a lawyer as he already had plans to take
everything he could get from me. I had hoped that we could at least
live in the same house and see how things went because his health was
not good.

He believed because of the Parkinson's Plus diagnosis that he was dying
and was obsessed with porn and sex, having prostitutes in our home
before we separated.

I have supported him fully for nearly 18 years but he also became
obsessed with money as well and became paranoid and nasty accusing me
of stealing money from him amongst other things.

He has had an MRI that showed moderate atrophy to the frontal and
cerebral lobes and as his behaviour was classic frontal lobe dementia I
thought that all this was his illness.

He has improved so much physically that he may in fact be able to care
for himself as much as he did before the hospitalisation but even that
was only with my help. I am in despair as I cannot handle all that
drama again.

Liz

Hi Adelle

The 'they' that assessed him are called the Aged Care Assessment Team'
and they make the decision as to whether he can be placed in a nursing
home and if 'they' say no he doesn't need that then you get no
Government support in terms of the fees etc and there is no way of
forcing him into a placement.

The doctors are trying to keep him there as long as possible and I have
told them I WILL NOT take him back here and that I will have to LEAVE
if they release him and on their heads be it if he hurts himself or
anyone else. However in Australia and in particular in NSW they have
very few places for mentally ill people as they decided many years ago
to see the institutions (Hospitals) and that most of those who were
patients could go into the community into group homes.

The problem is the group homes never eventuated either so there are a
huge number of mentally ill people living in one room boarding houses
in squalor and many more living on the streets.

As we are joint tenants in this house the only way I can stop him from
being here would be to have him committed to a psyc hospital and for
that I must prove he is a danger to himself or others, which is what I
think they are currently using to keep him in hospital.

Problem is that they way the system works here they keep them in
hospital for a day or so and then let them out again and that just
makes matters worse.

So it appears my only real solution is to leave my home and then start
proceedings for a settlement, which means for me that I lose half of
everything I have worked for, the home, my super and my savings and
possibly more since  they take into account his future needs and he
cannot work and is only 55 and I can and I am 48.

I have done nothing but love and care for him for 25 years and work
full time for our future and that is what I get for my efforts.

I KNOW money is not the important thing, my safety is, but it really
sucks.

Yes I know I must see a lawyer but have not been able to do it yet but
will make it my priority next week.
Liz