As I have posted before my mother is going into her 13th year with dementia.
I have set it up for her to go to assisted living right after Christmas and
she's ok with it.   My brother who has been in some kind of denial about
this for years, was almost stunned when he read the doctor diagnosis on her
physical.   Alzheimer's.   I suppose since he's with her everyday that he
just doesn't get it?   I've been telling him that her inability to cook and
generally not being able to take care of herself without help is part of
this disease.   It's like he's just beginning to realize that something
other than normal aging is occurring here.   Shesssssh !!!!   Sometimes I'd
like to smack him upside the head and tell him yes it's Alzheimer's.   I
constantly tell him that she has a brain disease when he points out things
that she does and things she can no longer do.   At least he's turned over a
lot of the financial part to me so that I can see to it that she's cared
for.  I know I can count on him to do what's needed on the little things for
her and even for financial help if comes to that.   Her type of alz is so
unusual I guess that's why so much denial.
It makes me wonder what happens to people who don't have proactive family
member to deal with this disease.   It's so scary to think about.  BTW I was
talking to Mom, my brother and my husband about moving her furniture into
assisted living and I said "Between the 3 of us, we should be able to get
everything moved."  Mom corrected me.   She said "It's among the 3 of us
instead of between"   Then she laughed and said "I'm guess since I'm your
mother I can still correct your English"  The sad part is that she probably
didn't understand the rest of what I was saying...........June