sorry about your mother.  I know the feeling you have very
well.   I hope your dad will come around and accept the diagnosis because it
will make it easier on everybody.  One important thing is that you should
never correct her or argue with her unless it is about something that would
be dangerous for her or someone else.  As has been said here many times, she
would forget what was said, but not the way she felt.  There are some very
helpful folks around here so stick around.  By the way, how is Marci doing
now?
Gwen

God Bless you and welcome to a wonderful place of support and information

Linda Jean

Hi Amy,

Welcome.  :-)

Hi Amy.....So sorry about your Mom.   It's hard enough with an older person.
The whole thing seems so unfair but as my Mom always told me....Life isn't
fair.
We all do what we have to do.    Denial is so hard to deal with too as I
well know.   It took my 2 brothers years to see that our mother's dementia
wasn't just normal aging but then they didn't live with her either.
Hopefully your Dad will get a wake-up call soon.  I too grieved for my
mother.  It's tough when the person you knew is slipping away but still here
physically.   Take care of yourself first.........June

Ronny:
I'm so sorry your Mom has Alzheimers. :-( And that your Dad is in
denial about it. Some people are just that way and it can be a good
while before they come around to seeing and or admitting the truth of
the matter. Just takes patience in all things. Glad you found this
group though. :-)

Ronny:
I'm so sorry your Mom has Alzheimers. :-( And that your Dad is in
denial about it. Some people are just that way and it can be a good
while before they come around to seeing and or admitting the truth of
the matter. Just takes patience in all things. Glad you found this
group though. :-)

Thanks for the intro, and another welcome from a daily lurker

Woodstock

Welcome, Amy.  I like your email address.  So, is that 4 pair in one hand or
are you quadridexterous?  <grin>

Hi, I'm still new here also. This is a horrible disease and sorry your mom
has it. This is a wonderfully supportive group & lots of wisdom from those
who have already gone through it or experiencing it.

I understand fully about the grief. Be extra easy with yourself.
~~~Octavia

Oh Amy, I'm so sorry you are going through this. My mother in law died
of AD in 1999, but she didn't have symptoms until into her early 70's,
and she was just short of her 80th birthday when she died. That seemed
miserable and unfair enough - we certainly felt she was robbed of the
"golden years"she so deserved. She was very healthy physically, so she
would doubtless have lived many years more had she not gotten AD. She
was also denied the joys of really knowing her 3 grandchildren (all
born during the years she was "disappearing" from AD).

Your situation seems that much worse - its bad enough in an older
person, but a person in their early 60's is really still middle aged in
todays world of healthy active seniors. Its harder to accept, its just
so rotten and crummy and not what any of you deserve! Physical
infirmity is actually easier to accept - at least then your loved one
is still themselves, and you know how to love and support them - but
when their mind goes, and their personality changes...terrifying,
bewildering, frustrating. Its like the foundation of everything you
know about the person from a lifetime of experience with them is built
on quick sand.

You've come to a safe place to rant and rave and get some great advice
and support from people who have been in your shoes - or at least very
similar ones - and dealt with everything you've been through and will
go through in the coming years.

Mary G.