Hi Lane,
Where I live, when my mother in law first moved in with us, we got a list of
facilities that took AD patients on a respite basis. By the time we needed
to use the list, there was only one left that did it. The others had all
stopped doing respite care.
In that one particular facility (which was a very nice place, by the way)
the majority of the rooms did not have private bathrooms in them. I could
just see my mother in law roaming the hallways in this strange place, trying
to find a toilet in the middle of the night. I just knew there would be a
problem, and we just didn't have the heart to place her there, even though
we had tickets all bought for a vacation, and all arrangements had been
made. I went alone on the vacation, and left hubby home to care for his
mom.
In early AD the biggest problem is that the person doesn't know they have
the illness, and there was no explanation that would do. They thrive on
routine. You know how hard it is for a person with AD to learn any new
thing; any break in routine is very disturbing to them. Suddenly being
placed in a new location would feel very unsettling to them. As time goes
on and the illness advances, I am sure it is a lot easier, since every day
is strange. But in the beginning, any bit of familiarity is something they
cling to.
The one thing we did take advantage of without fail, was daycare. Thank
goodness for our local adult daycare center. I have no idea how I would
have managed without that little break, so I could shop, visit a dentist or
a doctor, or even just catch a nap.
As I think back about the place we were planning to use for respite, if they
had a bathroom attached to the room they were going to use for my mother in
law, I would have been grateful for it and used it.

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Evelyn
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>I realize this is long, but I tried to cover areas which might lead to
> questions.
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> Thanks in advance for reading and offering your views.
> Lane
Florence A - 18 Sep 2005 18:24 GMT
This would be just great BUT ( yes, always the BUT) I don't see how it
could be done financially. You mentioned funding. (how? from whom?)
With only a small number of participents, how could you accomplish
raising enough tuition (fees) to pay utilities, salaries to competent
employes,
rent or purchase of the facility.etc...entertainment etc
Many of the chain NH's & AL places are taking on these services to pick
up exra cash. Those taking care of parents fall into a different
financial category with long term care than the married.AD patients.
Ruth - 19 Sep 2005 02:33 GMT
Lane,
There is a great need for this kind of care! One important feature I would
look for is adequate safeguards against wandering/escaping.
Ruth
> Hi Lane,
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>> Thanks in advance for reading and offering your views.
>> Lane
The Turd Burglar - 20 Sep 2005 04:36 GMT
Evelyn DON'T BE A DUMBASS.