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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Alzheimer's / September 2005How does your Church treat its seniors?
How does your Church treat its seniors? Please take the time to respond!! Thanks Deacon John goto: www.AutumnLeavesMinistry.org DECON JOHN YOU TURD WHAT THE HELL DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH AD????? TKAE YOUR CRAP ELSEWHERE How does your Church treat its seniors? Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sat, Sep 10, 2005, 7:02pm (CDT-2) From: itzack@hotmail.com How does your Church treat its seniors? Please take the time to respond!! Thanks Deacon John goto: www.AutumnLeavesMinistry.org Ronny: I think this is a good question;but yet one I don't like to think on much. That's because my Mom was a member of a local church for years. Then she got to where she couldn't go to church at all. I think the preacher stopped by to see her one time after that? But now it's been years since we've seen him. And yet he passes by here every Sunday morning and Wensday evening on his way to church. And no,I wouldn't of expected him to have come often;but even once say every 6 months would of been nice. Especially so when Mom would of still known and remembered who he was. I don't know why he didn't? And I still say if we can at all,we will find time for what is important to us. The church my in-laws helped found, build and supported for over 35 years, was a disappointment when the time came that they couldn't attend anymore. No one came to visit, called or sent cards or even ask if they were still alive. The areas around there had grown tremendously and was part of a larger town by that point. We had attended with them for several years although I had joined at another church on the island where hubby and I lived a few miles away anymore. The minister from my church came to visit MIL & FIL even though I wasn't able to attend his chuch any longer. Members from my church also sent them cards, kept them on the prayer list and visited..sometimes bringing food b/c they knew I worked full time still back then. MIL wouldn't hear of leaving THEIR church even though mine was more supportive of them. I have to say though, many of the people at my church had known MIL, FIL, and hubby forever. My MIL was in the Eastern Star and her group still contacts me and sends her cards for me to read to her and show her even though they know she doesn't realize what's going on much anymore. The church I grew up in is totally different. They support their shut ins, NH members, and sick. They receive visits, calls, cards, pastoral visits & communions, food, etc. They have services once a month at a local nursing home where many members end up living. Since we moved here, they support her too even though she was already beyond the point where she could attend church. The big difference between our two churches is that theirs was a small church that began as an offshoot of another church. I'm sure they started off being more personal but grew so large I bet the minister doesn't know 20% of the members. My home church is a small community church in a rural area. The church I attended when we lived on the island wasn't real tiny but people knew each other. One thing I did when I was going through my MIL's house before it was sold was to save some of the Christmas cards and such. Since then, at Christmas we put them in her room on her bulletin board and she's thrilled at how many cards she's "gotten". After Christmas when we take down her decorations (twinkle lights and a little tree), the cards go back into a ziploc until next year. A co-worker told me it was a deceptive thing to do, but I figure the friends that sent the cards in the first place would do so again if they could. Sadly, almost all of them have either passed on or gone into ALF for AD themselves. I just can't see a moral dilemma in a small deception that harms no one. But then, that co-worker hasn't had to deal with AD. Karen ----snip---- > My MIL was in the Eastern Star and her group still contacts me and > sends her cards for me to read to her and show her even though they [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > here, they support her too even though she was already beyond the point > where she could attend church. At the AL for persons with dementia where I work I would have to say that the most faithful people to visit are definitely the Catholics. Once a week they are there, faithfully. We have other churches who do participate in outings and programs, but they are sporadic at best. Since all my Residents have some form of dementia, it is nice to see how they respond to a time of worship in their lives. You can see that it brings back feelings and emotions from deep down inside. I'm sorry to hear of churches abandoning their members who have AD. That is very sad, and it makes me wonder about a church that would turn it's back on a person during the time they need them the most for a little loving compassion. Patty > One thing I did when I was going through my MIL's house before it was sold > was to save some of the Christmas cards and such. Since then, at [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > Karen Karen, what a terrific idea! I felt so sad that Ida's friends seem to desert her when she got sick. She used to get so many cards from so many friends, but after diagnosis, all that dropped to nearly zero. To be fair, some of her best friends had either passed away or gone into AL or nursing homes themselves, but there was a factor of neglect too.  SignatureBest Regards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox') Ronny, do any of the church people visit your mom or have they all forgotten her? What size church is it? Are there others on the staff besides him? Just interested. Gwen > How does your Church treat its seniors? > Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sat, Sep 10, 2005, 7:02pm (CDT-2) [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > who he was. I don't know why he didn't? And I still say if we can at > all,we will find time for what is important to us. Re: How does your Church treat its seniors? Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Mon, Sep 12, 2005, 7:32pm From: cglghl@knology.net (Gwen Love) Ronny, do any of the church people visit your mom or have they all forgotten her? What size church is it? Are there others on the staff besides him? Just interested. Gwen Ronny: Gwen,it's just a small country church. Not sure how many members now? Would guess 25 to 50 people. Mom used to get phone calls from at least two of the women-one who was a member there and one who used to be. People that Mom had known for years. Not sure what happened to the one woman;but found out recently that the other was in a nursing home with Alzheimers. :-( A good number of the people at this church and another church that broke off from it are kinfolk or people my Mom has known for years. Even the kinfolk don't come by much at all. I can't figure some people out? ----------- "Ronny TX" <Acts17-11@webtv.net> wrote in message news:584-432611B9-1281@storefull-3337.bay.webtv.net... How does your Church treat its seniors? Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sat, Sep 10, 2005, 7:02pm (CDT-2) From: itzack@hotmail.com How does your Church treat its seniors? Please take the time to respond!! Thanks Deacon John goto: www.AutumnLeavesMinistry.org Ronny: I think this is a good question;but yet one I don't like to think on much. That's because my Mom was a member of a local church for years. Then she got to where she couldn't go to church at all. I think the preacher stopped by to see her one time after that? But now it's been years since we've seen him. And yet he passes by here every Sunday morning and Wensday evening on his way to church. And no,I wouldn't of expected him to have come often;but even once say every 6 months would of been nice. Especially so when Mom would of still known and remembered who he was. I don't know why he didn't? And I still say if we can at all,we will find time for what is important to us. |
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