I guess the answer to that is a legal one which probably no one here is
qualified to answer but is probably 'yes' since they went and did it and it
hasnt been challenged (from what you say).

maybe she was really busy, esp at that exact moment. I think its easy for
one person to think that the phone was viciously slammed down, and the
'slammer downer' to think that they dealt politely but efficiently with a
call as they had to deal with a residents real, urgent, in your face and
immediate problem.

Maybe your friend wasnt taking as good care of her mother as she thought.
Maybe she was but the relatives didnt believe so. Maybe she was't coping as
well as she thought and was willing to acknoweldge to herself. Maybe her
family and the doctor are all complete bastards who,  despite the fact they
arent involved in her care, and arent really affected wherever she is,
conspired together arbitrarily for no good reason to place the mother in a
bad home. Maybe there are 14 other reasons I have thought of. At this
distance, third hand, with one side of the story, none of us are going to
know are we?

But I'm going to plump for the third option as the most likely (unwilling to
recognise she wasnt caring properly) , since as this is usenet an almost
complete absence of facts are no hindrance to coming up with an opinion.

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That would probably depend entirely on who holds the Durable Powers of
Attorney, both for business and for health care.  If your friend did not
already have these documents, it would probably be too late to get 'em
in the face of family opposition.  In my opinion, the principal care
giver should hold such documents because they're the people on the
ground, the people who know exactly what the LO needs.

If your friend *does* have durable Powers of Attorney*, her family
cannot do such a thing without her knowledge and consent.  She may have
to go to court - but she may have only to wave those papers in front of
the manager of the nursing home.

Blessed be,
Baird

*or equivalent in her local jurisdiction

No way in hell.

whoever has the mom's durable power of attorney for health care
or whoever was appointed guardian has the power to make such
decisions.  if your friend wasn't that person, and wasn't either
POA or guardian, she doesn't have any legal standing to object.

As the family would say on many an occasion, "Why do a durable power of
attorney? Why there's nothing wrong with mom." And the family wished to
continue the belief. But then they discovered there are things wrong
with mom. So they put her in a nursing home so they won't have to deal
with her.

I undersand what everyone is saying and I agree.  It just seems they
should have talked it over with the daughter that was taking care of
her mother. She new mom was ready for the NH route and was looking into
NH but the family didn't want to take any advice about NH from the
daughter. They waited until the daughter went to work and off mom went.

mo
no matter the problem, a cup of coffee always makes it better.