Songbird, there is some excellent resources at the website for the "National
Center for Assisted Living".  If you look at the "Resident Profile" there I
think it would help you out.  I also think the chart idea is a good one.

http://www.ncal.org/about/

My best to you.

Patty

I totally agree with Mary G.  Many Assisted Livings facilities now have
memory care available for persons with various levels of dementia.  I happen
to work at one.  All of our residents have dementia.  There are buildings
that have a dementia area, or some that specialize. It takes some time to
find the right place, but it is not impossible.

We have door alarms, and inner courtyards where people can go outside and
yet still not be able to get to an outside exit door.  We did have someone
climb out there window once, but thankfully they went to the front door to
try and get back in. It was still a very frightening experience for all of
us.

All our caregivers are specially trained to deal with issues that go along
with AD. I see such loving and caring moments everyday that I am truly
blessed to be a part of such a wonderful staff.

I have a bit of a unique perspective since my own mom had AD for many years.
I have been on both side of the equation.  The first AL she moved into asked
her to leave.  Apparently she went around and gathered food and the little
packets of cream from tables and was taking it outside into the alley to
feed strays.  Some people just didn't like my mom snitching food off their
plates, especially while they were still eating. lol

It takes a lot of searching, and a lot of research, but I know you will be
able to find something that is just right for your loved one.  Start early,
tour frequently, and ask tons of questions.  If you are not comfortable,
there is probably a very good reason.  Rely on your own sensibilities, and
chances are you'll know the right place when you see it.

All my best,
Patty