We moved my mother in on Monday.  She's adjusting ok... I guess, but
I'm certainly not.  She does seem uncomfortable at meals with her table
mates whom, to her, seem so much more disabled, and that depresses her.
We knew the move would have a big impact on her  cognitive skills and
it has.  For example, she can't figure out how to work the elevator.
This evening she started to try to turn the TV off from the back.

I'm really upset though.  The rooms don't have air conditioning and
we're in the middle of a heat wave, but the maintainence people can't
install her air conditioner in the window yet because they are
preparing for their big memorial day celebration, which bothers me.
They haven't got her meds straightened out yet and the med aid came to
me tonight to try to get some clarification about the meds that I think
the nurse should have taken care of.  It was difficult to communicate
with the med aid because english is her second language.   No one came
to get my mom for dinner, even though that was in the agreement
Someone got stuck on the elevator today.  It's just the first few days
and I am expecting to have kinks to iron out, but this is so hard.  My
poor mother is so surprised when my sister and I leave at night.  One
of us has been spending the night with her for the past three months in
her old home.   I'm having a hard time coping and I cry a lot.  I feel
so sorry for my mother.  My sister is much more pragamatic about the
situation and I find that comforting.  My sister is going to take over
of her care and I will go back to my home about 100 miles away.... but
I don't see how I'm going to be able to leave my poor mother alone
there.

Any thoughts?

Thanks
Molly