Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Alzheimer's / May 2005
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Barb Boland - 18 May 2005 00:48 GMT Hi August Repetitive & Others,
You are just scaring me now - of what is to come! Your parent or grandparent must be in one of the last phases of this horrible disease. Please, God, there has to be a soft place for our parents to land. This disease is insidious - and I pray that there will be a cure soon. Not only to save our parents (grandparents) ourselves. Let us not forget that this horrible disease is heriditary.
Barb
Tumbleweed - 18 May 2005 00:52 GMT > Hi August Repetitive & Others, > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > Barb No, that type of behaviour is later middle stage, not the last stages. And apart from a few specific and rare types (usually the early onset type), Az *is not* inherited.
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augustwestern - 18 May 2005 19:28 GMT > > Hi August Repetitive & Others, > > > > You are just scaring me now - of what is to come! Your parent or > > grandparent > > must be in one of the last phases of this horrible disease.
> No, that type of behaviour is later middle stage, not the last stages. > And apart from a few specific and rare types (usually the early onset type), > Az *is not* inherited. > > -- > Tumbleweed Tumbleweed is correct. My MIL is in later middle stage. She knows my name and her children's names consistently but often doesn't recognize her grandkids. She really doesn't remember anyone else. She has zero memory of her Drs or various health problems. She can't take care of her own meds and won't even ask for medicine when she hurts. It's pretty much up to us to figure out what's going on with her. She can't use the phone or microwave or prepare any food. She can load the dishwasher and unload the washing machine. She can't do the opposite of either task. She can make a bed better than any army drill sergeant would require but would never change the sheets unless helped. She has no sense of time and her days and nights are always mixed up. She won't drink water unless you sit there and watch her. At least her bowel function is good, she doesn't wander and she is currently past the suspicious and accusatory stage. Thanks for reading my spiel. AW
lee - 18 May 2005 01:13 GMT I'm not worrying about the hereditary aspects of it - got my fingers crossed that they'll have better treatments/a cure before then - and if not, oh well.... I've got WAY more than enough to deal with at the present time without expending energy worrying about things I can't control/change. My partner is somewhat more concerned about it - but he's more than a decade older than I, so I suppose that's why.
The one thing to remember about even the most unpleasant of behaviours, I find, is that this too shall pass.... that is the ONLY thing that I find the least bit positive about all of this - that when confronted with a new behaviour, I can be quite sure that it will not last .... of course, realistically, quite often the ~next thing~ is generally not an improvement either .... but I prefer not to focus on that either! And sometimes, truthfully, the new 'developments' (not the right word, since they all come from LOSSES, I suppose) .... are sometimes easier to deal with.
> Hi August Repetitive & Others, > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > Barb Evelyn Ruut - 18 May 2005 01:16 GMT > Hi August Repetitive & Others, > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > Barb Dear Barb,
It isn't a definite inherited thing. There is an inherited factor, but it isn't always the way.
There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers, but tell me please, is there some "good" way to die?
Yet we are all going to die at some point.
It is not worthwhile to dwell on it if it destroys the enjoyment of the life we have now.
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Steve...has tiger firmly by tail - 18 May 2005 02:58 GMT "There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers"
I'm sure there are but Alzheimers robs a person of all dignity. and "living with AZ is near impossible without a support system.
"but tell me please, is there some "good" way to die?"
at 94, shot by your 30 yr old girlfreind's jealous spouse?
This journey scares the bejees out of me,but the information gleemed here from all of you is a powerful help... it's said that misery loves company, but I wish that none of us were in this club
Evelyn Ruut - 18 May 2005 10:48 GMT > "There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers" > [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > here from all of you is a powerful help... it's said that misery loves > company, but I wish that none of us were in this club Too true.
My father is 93, he feels like s--t most every day. There isn't anything wrong with his mind (at the moment). If he had a 30 year old girlfriend he probably forgot what he was supposed to do with her. When I talk to him he cries and wishes he could go.
On the other hand, my mother in law who was 84, was somewhat unaware due to her illness. Others did the worrying for her.
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Tumbleweed - 18 May 2005 08:01 GMT > There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers, but tell me > please, is there some "good" way to die? I can think of some but I'm not going to post them here :-)
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Songbird - 18 May 2005 13:12 GMT Yes, quietly, in one's sleep, after a long, happy and productive life, secure in the knowledge that you have loved and been loved. My great-grandfather simply went to bed one night and did not wake up in the morning. It was a massive coronary, and the doctor said if he was aware of any pain at all, it was just a minute or two.
Give me that over cancer, ALS, MS, or AD any day.
Songbird
>> There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers, but tell me >> please, is there some "good" way to die? > > I can think of some but I'm not going to post them here :-) Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 18 May 2005 15:10 GMT I agree! My grandfather died at 93, having outlived two wives (my grandmother who he was married to for 57 years, and then a lovely neighbour lady he married in his 80's), three children, twelve grandchildren, twenty two great grandchildren. Still living independently in his own house, still had his marbles, still fairly active (he only gave up the car at 91). Got pneumonia and it carried him off quickly and gently.
Doesn't get much better than that. If that were my fate and I knew it, I'd do cartwheels! I think everyone's nightmares include any slowly degenerative illness that makes one dependent.
Mary G.
Dennis P. Harris - 19 May 2005 09:44 GMT > Yes, quietly, in one's sleep, after a long, happy and productive life, > secure in the knowledge that you have loved and been loved. My [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > Give me that over cancer, ALS, MS, or AD any day. my grandfather, at age 99, had just had his drivers' license renewed, was actively building a rock garden (lifting 60-70 lb rocks) and seemed in excellent health. after working in the garden most of the morning, he ate lunch, wrote in his journal, told his wife he was going to take his usual hour after-lunch nap, and didn't wake up, just drifted off into a comatose state which lasted about 3 days as his body shut down. he died at exactly 99 days and 6 months.
of course he died 3 days before the mother's day reunion at my aunt's house, and i had flown in a week ahead of time to help her cook and get ready, on the afternoon he went into the coma.
the one plus is that i finally got to meet my mystery uncle, my father's half brother that i had never met.
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