Boydette, you are panicking for absolutely nothing, dear...... First of all
ALL you had to do is point the cop in your sister's direction.  SHE has POA
right?   She sold the car, right?   So calm down and stop worrying.

Putting a blocker on the phone would do nothing in this instance, in fact,
it might actually have helped you instead.   Instead of the cops coming to
your house with sirens and flashing lights, they resolved the issue by
phone.

All you need to do is explain calmly that she is in early stages of dementia
and that she is mixed up because of it.   I am sure the cops have seen this
scenario a million times.

You keep forgetting that she is sick and really can't help the confusion she
is experiencing.   I know that doesn't make it easy to deal with, but it is
a legitimate explanation for it.

Boydette, Evelyn is so right!

The cops HAVE to ask lots of questions just in case there is a 1 in
10,000 chance something henky really is going on (at age 10, one of my
kids once disappeared from after school until 9:30 at night (hubbie was
away, and I was beside myself with terror that something awful had
happened to kiddo, who was normally a very responsible youngster). You
should have heard the questions the cops asked me and my neighbours !!
They made it seem like I must have done away with him and somehow
forgotten.)

I'm willing to bet money the cops figured out quick what was really up.
They get calls like this all the time from confused and paranoid older
people (i.e. strangers are trying to break into my house, my son stole
all my money, my husband is an imposter, the neighbours are spying on
me, my niece hid all my things, etc. etc.)

If anything, her calling the cops to report something so readily
explainable will HELP you and your sister, since they will know whats
up and ultimately this can support your efforts to have her committed
or declared incompetent. Wouldn't it actually be GOOD for them to call
in social services or ask to have her assessed? It would make them the
bad guy and not you or your sister.

You still want to treat her like some corner of her brain is still
logical and doing things deliberately. I mean, face it. Nothing she
does makes sense. She's not capable of making sense, whether its from
alcohol, mental illness or the Alzheimer's. You can't take this
personally. She's got brain damage, and whatever horrible things she
did on purpose in the past, you have to move on from that viewpoint,
since I very much doubt she's really capable of thinking through any
logical consequences of anything she's doing.

Why would you think for one nano-second that you would be in trouble?
The whole story was doubtless quickly explained and cleared up, and the
next 17 times she calls them and tells them ever more garbled stories,
they will be adding stuff to their log on her - which will look like
this....a bit strange, patently odd,  okay...outright nutty, complete
fruitloop, totally ga-ga bonkers. Let her call the cops all she wants.
It will just confirm that she's really, really ill and in need of some
help - and that will come from credible third party observers, who will
get very tired of going out to visit someone so strung out.

Mary G.

Boydette,  my MIL reported us to the police for kidnapping after we had to
put her in an assisted living place against her will.  The facility couldn't
explain how she got to a phone.  The police already had a file on her as
"one of those".  You or your sister would do yourselves and the police a
favor to make sure Mom is on record with the cops so they know what to
expect (possibly with a reference to her doctor).  It's a problem the police
encounter often.

Your Mom is going to know how to push your buttons like few others.  There's
something about a parent like you've described that has the ability to drop
their kid back into the "OMIGAWD, I'm in trouble" mindset like nothing else
can do.  It's one of the things that came in handy when we were dealing with
my MIL..  I kept having to tell my hubby "She didn't raise me and her
tantrums don't have to power with me that they do with you".

Everything you've described in the past says she is able to pick you up from
whatever you're doing and drop you into the middle of her drama and you
can't break yourself out of it.  You may think it's heartless, but IMO, you
really need to set yourself some time to stay away from your Mom until you
have enough distance to not let her pull you into her personal drama.  Until
you can get that separation, you'll be at the mercy of her dementia dramas.

Karen

The final straw    
Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Sun,
May 1, 2005, 12:34am From:
bdetrs@webtv.net (Boydette)
Long story short mom had a car and it
has expired plates for two years...the
city was threatening to tow it...a nice
police officer moved it to private land
owned by moms landlord but he was having a fit and threatening to tow it
himself so my sis found a buyer and they towed it off before the
landlord could take
action....Mom has been ranting and
raving for days now...welll it all came
to a head tonight...she called the law
and reported it stolen and gave them MY
name....I called her and the police and
told them Ihad nothing to do with
it...then I told the cop my name is on
the title as death benefit...but I was
afraid that would not be legal...then he
asked me if I knew where it was and I
told him...next thing I know there is
like 6 messages on my voice mail....4 of
which were my mom with a cop in the
background asking her details about
me!!!....I totally freaked...and sat
here shaking and crying for hours
waiting for the cops to come and arrest
me....I am so done with her....no matter
how sick she may be for her to do
something like that is the final
straw.....I am calling the phone company
Mon and have call blocker put on my
phone...first is her number then the
neighbors then the landlord...I AM SO
DONE

Ronny:
Well Boydette,what I want to know is if they've hauled you off to jail
yet :-) and if you found yourself a girlfriend while in the pokey?! :-)
LoL OK,now you can throw something at me! LoL