considered a lock on the door, but hate to do that because of the
incontenence issues she has... and because she does get herself worked up
into a right and proper PANIC when she thinks she's here by herself ... as
far as she's concerned, if she can't see someone, she's here by
herself......   I stopped trying to tell her that she's never here all alone
as in her reality, she is so ... when she wakes up during the night and
can't remember where we are, she's alone. When she's in the living room and
I'm in my workshop, in her experience, she's alone...  was fighting a losing
battle and it was just aggravating me to no end  *sigh*      Now I just
reassure her that I'm home when she comes looking for me and stop trying to
argue with her - it's not worth the aggravation. Sure was nice when she only
~visited~ me once or twice though ... now it's every 5 seconds, it seems

Pretty funny though - all day long she's asking me to show her where  the
bathroom is because she doesn't remember - soon as I'm IN  there, she seems
to have no problem ~remembering~ where it is LOL

4 a.m. and I'm up for the second night in a  row... this is SO not good

did get a whole lot of stuff written though ... maybe will  get it finished
and off to a publisher someday

LMAO
Group: alt.support.alzheimers Date: Wed,
Apr 27, 2005, 6:46pm (CDT+1) From:
sleeplessinwherever@hotmail.com (Lee)
my MIL has been driving me NUTS for 2
days because someone made the mistake of
telling her that she was "going out
tomorrow evening"
she ready to go about 10 minutes after
he left, and has been anxiously waiting
to be picked up ever since... took her
pjs off repeatedly last night even - had
to "get ready to go out" She's SO
focused on going out that she can't
function ... worries, fusses, goes to
the door to look for him, can't find the
bathroom or do any of what little she
normally CAN do for herself... she's
GOING OUT and she's using up all her
available function to (somehow) remember
THAT and only THAT
so anyway ... it's been a long
frustrating afternoon after a long
frustrating day (and night) and we're
down to the last 15 minutes. She was
getting all fussed again - so I said
"they'll be here in just a little while
longer; won't be long now"
her response "oh, I don't care if they
come or they don't come. I'll just stay
home"
Too funny!
She's gone now.... 2 whole hours ALL TO
MINE OWN SELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I get to have a bath ALL BY MY OWN
SELF!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry ...I'm punchy as heck ... was up
with her til 3 or so, and then just
could NOT get to sleep

Ronny:
Oh,that is funny! :-) And yes I do know what you mean! LoL

Here I can leave Mom by herself with the doors locked,when I go take a
bath. What bothers me at times is she'll be outside the bathroom door
though and so relieved when I come out! I still tell her that I'm going
to take a bath;but I doubt she seldom if ever remembers that for long.
So it's a little hard to take when I come out and she's so relieved to
see me. Bothers me that she thinks I'm gone and that she's all here just
by herself.

Onething I do now is never tell Mom when she's going anywhere! LoL The
last time I did,told her she had to go to the doctor and she said no she
didn't and she went to bed! Took a good bit of doing to,to get her up
and ready that day! :-) Now I just get her ready,one of my sisters or a
brother comes by and I still don't tell Mom she's going to the doctor.

that works! :-) LoL

ain't that the truth! I've told my brother-in-law that next time he slips up
and does it, HE gets to deal with her ... LOL

hopefully that will do the trick; he doesn't mean to set her - or ME - up
...does it without thinking... but oh man, it is SO wearing

Oh my yes!   We learned that Ida would obsess from the minute we told her
till the minute we left.  So we stopped telling her till the last minute
that we were going anywhere.