Hi Boydette,

I don't think anyone is saying that what you feel isn't justified.   But is
it fruitful?  Will it make you happier or bring you greater peace?  Will it
pay their bills or turn back the clock and make them do it all over again?

I think you probably see what I am getting at.

What is done is done and they must have done a better job raising you
children than they recieved themselves, since you know more about what is
right and proper than they do.

I believe that spiritual age and chronological age are not the same things.
Maybe you and your siblings are more mature than they are, older souls in
younger bodies.... Maybe your parents needed you to look more after them,
than they looked after you.   In my belief system sometimes the child is
given to the parent to be the more mature one.

Look at the big picture spiritually, cosmically, and maybe your anger will
not be as sharp.

At any rate, at this stage in their lives neither one of them is capable of
thinking clearly anymore, they are thinking with broken brains damaged
either from alcohol or from alzheimers or both.   You shouldn't expect them
to be doing normal things like paying bills or making sense any more than
you would expect it of a child.

They are both more worthy of compassion and pity than anger.

Don't let anger eat you up and destroy your health too.

no she didn't!  you don't *have* to do anything for abusive
people like that.

Boydette,
  I DO understand your feelings.My dad was very selfish with his
money.My mom never had anyhing.I mean not even an inside toilet for many
years.Us kids hardly had clothes if not for a neighbor.But he always had
money to drink.But for myself i chose to forgive,but i will never
forget.My sister on the other hand can not forgive or chooses not too
and is a very angry person.It has even caused her health to
deteriorate.I am concerned for you.Barb