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Heres the link to the images i took at the weekend, i picked Arthur up Sat after granddad had him for the night. Anett is off to Wales for a few days, she spent a few days here with me and we had a nice time, i guess the time alone with give me time to think and see if i miss her while shes away. Im out on Thursday where my ex with be so by then i hope my head will be sorted. I can make my mind up either way.......although i think it would be wiser to stay with the new girl. http://www.marcway.co.uk/julianimages.htm Sorry for the size, may take a while to view if on dialup. Let me know what you think to the images. bye all. Nice photos Julian. Annette is pretty and the dog is cute.  SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:K6D%d.111560$y25.108516@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... > Heres the link to the images i took at the weekend, i picked Arthur up Sat > after granddad had him for the night. [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > > bye all. > Nice photos Julian. Annette is pretty and the dog is cute. Thanks Evelyn, Arthurs a smart dog and love attention, think hes damn ugly but everyone says the opposite. > -- > Regards, [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > > > bye all. Yah, photos came out great, but Evelyn got it backwards.... Anett is the cute one!! > Yah, photos came out great, but Evelyn got it backwards.... Anett is > the cute one!! Yes shes pretty, has a nice smile, god knows what she sees in me then! Shes been in Wales a few days and said how much shes missing me, missing her too, but after 5 weeks together im sure i should be feeling more. "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:_An0e.126487$y25.103932@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... >> Yah, photos came out great, but Evelyn got it backwards.... Anett is >> the cute one!! [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > her > too, but after 5 weeks together im sure i should be feeling more. Julian that gnawing feeling in the pit of ones stomach is not "missing" someone. You are expecting the same kind of feeling that you had for the ex. That relationship was always fraught with uncertainty and rejection, so you are sort of expecting the same kind of emotion. The reasons you don't feel that with Annette are several.... one because you don't have pain and a sense of rejection mixed with missing her, and two because you have only known her a short time. After you have known her for as long as you knew the ex, you may be feeling something completely different. Every relationship has its own set of emotional triggers. This one may be totally different than what you had before. There is some excitement in being treated with so little certainty, and you were always on tenterhooks with the ex. This new relationship may not have the same basis, and you don't recognize the territory. Being treated well by a loved one is a whole different ball game. You need to learn a whole new language emotionally. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in > message news:_An0e.126487$y25.103932@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > by a loved one is a whole different ball game. You need to learn a whole > new language emotionally. Thats good advice, im going to try and take it, off to see my granddad now with the dog for a couple of hours........ > -- > Regards, > Evelyn > > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") Other sensible good stuff snipped - Evelyn wrote: >> There is some excitement in being treated with so little certainty, and > you [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > whole >> new language emotionally. And Julian responded: > Thats good advice, im going to try and take it, off to see my granddad now > with the dog for a couple of hours........ Julian, Hope your visit with Grandad was good. Just some food for thought. You can take it or leave it as you like: As for the Ex girlfriend/Anett situation - I've been where you are. You are used to being treated shabbily. So an interaction in which you are being treated with respect feels foreign and undeserved. Your statement that you don't deserve Anett says everything about your self esteem level. You may find that what you are feeling is a nervous anticipation, because you are used to feeling it all the time with your ex. Any woman dating a man [you], who continues to keep her ex in the picture, is getting an ego boost over how much she can control you, all the while not respecting you because she can make you do anything she wants. She belittled your interests and controlled who you could see and what you could do based on her 'preferences.' She was playning head games. That nervous anticipation with your ex was rooted in waiting for the proverbial 'other shoe to fall.' You are waiting for that moment when Anett treats you in that familar controlling but hurtful way. It is scary the first time you have that 'freedom from fear' in a relationship. You feel there is something missing. You feel there is something you are suposed to be doing or dealing with; but it isn't presenting itself so you feel there is something you must have missed noticing, seeing or hearing. It took a long while before I relaxed and realized the 'other shoe' was never going to fall . It was only then that I could relax and trust the new relationship. (Actually, I always felt like an anvil was going to drop from the sky onto my head, like in old Warner Brothers cartoons. It was a huge relief when I realized there was never going to be an anvil. I learned how to experience joy and not hold back from it.) While it is hard to trust the situatation, try repeating to yourself, "The way Anett treats me is the way people should treat one another." Why? Because it's true. And because eventually, if you repeat it enough, you'll believe it. And even if it turns out that you enjoy Anett's company but you don't love her in the way that creates a permanent relationship, you will have learned a new dating/emotional skill that will serve you well as you go into the future. And as for going to see the ex and tell her its over - what are you hoping to gain? You say, "the least I could do is tell her to her face" Well, no - the 'least' you could do is never think of her again. It seems that you feel the right thing to go over, perhaps to give her the opportunity for redemption, to show she values you. You give that hint when you say she didn't really give any thought to you until Anett came in the picture. The only thing you ought think of redeeming is your own self-respect. Your ex has shown what she values, the ability to make you jump to her emotional strings. By not seeing her now, by not 'trying to end it the right way' you show that you have caught on to her games and refuse to participate any longer. That's 'more right' than meeting some code of chivalry or dating which she wasn't applying to the relationship, so why should you? It may even make you more attractive to her (you are now a challenge instead of a pushover). It was a hugely liberating moment when I told my ex, "please don't come to visit again. Ever." Asserting myself in that way helped me to really value myself in way I'd never done before. Wishing you all good things - Adelle > Other sensible good stuff snipped - > [quoted text clipped - 81 lines] > > Adelle Julian, Adelle has told it the way it really is and I agree with every word. Bravo, Adelle! SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > > Wishing you all good things - > > [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > Regards, > Evelyn Evelyn, i cant disagree at all. Its like a English saying in a way, you have lost a pound but found a ten bob bit. If i can get over the short term then maybe long term things will be ok. > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:4TL0e.1134$IH3.777@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... > Evelyn, i cant disagree at all. Its like a English saying in a way, you > have > lost a pound but found a ten bob bit. > > If i can get over the short term then maybe long term things will be ok. Julian my dear, please take it one day at a time. Some days will be terrible and you will want to call her, and others you won't think of her but for a minute. Oneday you will realize that you haven't thought of her at all for a long time, and that you have actually been happy.... Give yourself a chance for that. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") Hey Adelle See below! > Other sensible good stuff snipped - > [quoted text clipped - 79 lines] > > Adelle I read this message before i left, but i didnt have time to reply............ My head was going crazy while i was out and i that i thought i saw my ex from a distance. I saw her friend in the nightclub so i knew she was in, and i taked to her friend for ages, at this time i was fine and nothing to worry about, no feeling what so ever. I saw her and said hello, and that was it, she said she still loved me, and knew i was with Anett, and after we talked, she came out with that she wanted kids in a couple of years, thats from a girl who hated kids, wouldnt be near my kids or my friends kids. She did say that i would ask Anett to marry me, have kids etc and live a happy life. I said i would but it would be living a lie, we had a good talk and hell knows what was said at the end, i still love her and i know she would never change, shes only coming out with all these nice things as shes seen me happy. I got a couple of text messages while i was out tonight from Anett, shes in Wales at the moment, back tomorrow and i dont know what to do, i wont lie to her, she deserves more than that, but what i feel inside shouldnt be happing, everyone else has said what you said. My ex said i would settle down with Anett, kids etc and i would live a lie. I know if i can enjoy the next few days with Anett and have a nice time hopfully things will be ok. If im honest, and im a bit worse for booze at half 3 in the morning now, i have slept with Anett in the past 2 weeks more times than i did in 2 years with Shelly. She said tonight it was August which is about right. At my age sex isnt everything as its not as if im a teenager, but i dont get that tingly feeling at all when im with Anett................. Well thats about it, from what everyone has said i feel like a failure, even my sister and my ex ex from 7 years ago said how bad she treated me but how nice Anett is. My old ex amd me were together for 4 years until i broke my back in 96, now where just really close friends, and she said from day 1 how bad Shelly was. Guess my son at 17 is going to go through what i am now, i remember my first love at 17, infact i saw her last week when i parked my car and saw her for the first time in 12 years and my god she looks like her mom that i remember, from a slim sexy Cher lookalike to a totally differant person. "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:lOL0e.1133$IH3.484@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... snipped.... > I read this message before i left, but i didnt have time to > reply............ [quoted text clipped - 52 lines] > the first time in 12 years and my god she looks like her mom that i > remember, from a slim sexy Cher lookalike to a totally differant person. Julian, I knew that you would let yourself in for a lot of emotional turmoil in seeing Shelly. That gnawing feeling in the pit of your stomach is a combination of fear, desire, uncertainty and longing. Please don't mistake it for love. If you stay with Shelly in any way, you will only be letting yourself in for more misery. That tingly feeling isn't worth the sadness, the rejection, the loneliness. The greatest truth is that sometimes the "love of your life" doesn't think you are the love of theirs. Knowing when to move on is the hardest decision you may have to make, but it can make or break your future. Right now you are remembering all the good times, such as they were. But the real good times with her were very few, and don't think she is EVER going to change. She will go back to her bad old ways in no time flat. If you don't feel that Annette is for you, then simply move on until you meet someone who is. But please don't waste your love or your young life on someone who is trouble with a capital T. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > Julian, > [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > meet someone who is. But please don't waste your love or your young life on > someone who is trouble with a capital T. Your right, everyone here is, i respect the honesty. > -- > Regards, > Evelyn > > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > The only thing you ought think of redeeming is your own self-respect. Your > ex has shown what she values, the ability to make you jump to her emotional [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > visit again. Ever." Asserting myself in that way helped me to really value > myself in way I'd never done before. i guess i've been playing "older brother" to him, but you really hit the nail on the head. i only hopes that he does exactly what you suggest. > > The only thing you ought think of redeeming is your own self-respect. Your > > ex has shown what she values, the ability to make you jump to her emotional [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > hit the nail on the head. i only hopes that he does exactly what > you suggest. In my heart, i have a feeling i will be back with my ex soon, we wrote to each other today and she said she still loves me and hurt her when she last night. Maybe she wasnt that bad, and maybe she meant it when she said whe would have kids in a couple of years if things are right, last night she said she always wanted them with me but couldnt tell me that. If so i will say i wont go back with her until her ex has moved out, thats what 99% of the arguments were about before. Im not perfect, im stubborn, immature at times and maybe i didnt try hard enough last time. "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:KVX0e.2886$IH3.2852@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... >> > The only thing you ought think of redeeming is your own self-respect. > Your [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > Im not perfect, im stubborn, immature at times and maybe i didnt try hard > enough last time. Julian you are stuck. You tried, she didn't..... and probably won't either. As for her ex, he isn't an ex if he is still anywhere near her. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in > message news:KVX0e.2886$IH3.2852@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... [quoted text clipped - 42 lines] > > As for her ex, he isn't an ex if he is still anywhere near her. I spoke to my ex ex, who i was together with for about 4 years, we were together when i broke my back in 96 and she had to nurse me for a year, i changed from loving her as boy/girfriend sexual love thing to carer affection if that makes sense, so thats why we split, she was very close to my grandparents who liked her too, it them she turned too when she had a miscarage and rape etc but were still close as freinds, she said the same thing as you, its her with the baby whos met both Anett and my ex and who my ex wouldnt visit me with as she has a baby. She wanted to know how it went last night as she knew all about it, and guessed what would happen........... My ex lets her ex bf live there for work as his family live a v long awayway and i know she hates him as i have heard the messages they leave each other, she says there like brother/sister and she cant stand him to touch her, i belive her, always have so it wasnt jealousy, it was just he would get in the way of our relationship sometmes and couldnt move forward because of it. They used to fight pretty bad and argue a lot, but she did say she didnt want to hurt him. I knew she worked long hours at night so was tired in the day and was busy with the horse, but if we cleared the air, started a fresh from begining maybe it would work, but im going to give it 100% with Anett, then see how my heart feels. Thanks again for your text, and others too. > -- > Regards, > Evelyn > > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") On Fri, 25 Mar 2005 17:31:22 GMT in alt.support.alzheimers, "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote: > In my heart, i have a feeling i will be back with my ex soon, we wrote to > each other today and she said she still loves me and hurt her when she last [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > If so i will say i wont go back with her until her ex has moved out, thats > what 99% of the arguments were about before. Julian, her ex *will* never move out. I'm killfiling this thread because I'm tired of trying to get the idea through your thick skull that this woman doesn't give a flying f*** about you. She is evil. She messes with your head. What part of SICK do you not understand? Sorry, I'm out of this discussion. I don't want to hear anything more. If you won't disconnect from this evil person it's not worth our time (any of us, we all have way too much to do to waste time on her). > On Fri, 25 Mar 2005 17:31:22 GMT in alt.support.alzheimers, > "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > worth our time (any of us, we all have way too much to do to > waste time on her). I rememberd something last night i had forgot about, why has made my decision not to go back with her, when i was due to film the tv show in Sept it was with my ex, but she pulled out at the last minute so my sister had to step in, she said she didnt want to be on tv so her ex bf wouldnt find out.Now months later i can see that for what it was. "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:m6b1e.7828$IH3.7099@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... >> On Fri, 25 Mar 2005 17:31:22 GMT in alt.support.alzheimers, >> "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" [quoted text clipped - 32 lines] > step in, she said she didnt want to be on tv so her ex bf wouldnt find > out.Now months later i can see that for what it was. Dear Julian, I hope you can see that what you experience with her is an unhealthy attachment, not love at all, of any kind. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > Dear Julian, I hope you can see that what you experience with her is an > unhealthy attachment, not love at all, of any kind. Your right, Anett is home later and im taking her to a local pub, i guess she deserves all my attention, she even sent me a postcard while away saying she misses me and the dog too!! > -- > Regards, > Evelyn > > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:8Jg1e.8058$IH3.5976@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... >> Dear Julian, I hope you can see that what you experience with her is an >> unhealthy attachment, not love at all, of any kind. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > saying > she misses me and the dog too!! Have a great time.... :-) SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") Julian---my, my I think if I were Annete, I'd run for them thar hills-- Anyone would be hard pressed to give any advice acceptable to you .. AND I thought you were worried about your Grand dad..and just wanted to "vent"" "taint so folks........but it took me away from my own "Pity Party" for awhile Florence > Julian---my, my > I think if I were Annete, I'd run for them thar hills-- [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > Florence Spent all day with him, nice time watching football. Im taking onboard the advice given, cant help my feelings but will try and make it work with Anett. > "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in > message news:8Jg1e.8058$IH3.5976@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > Have a great time.... :-) Thanks, no doubt we will laugh and joke like we always do, and now...........who was that other girl? cant remember!!!! > -- > Regards, > Evelyn > > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:_An0e.126487$y25.103932@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... >> Yah, photos came out great, but Evelyn got it backwards.... Anett is >> the cute one!! [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > her > too, but after 5 weeks together im sure i should be feeling more. IMHO Julian, too much self analysis on your part looking to see if your feelings are correct. The answer's obvious to the rest of us, you know it is too, (deep down I suspect), so "in with the new, out with the old". SignatureTumbleweed email replies not necessary but to contact use; tumbleweednews at hotmail dot com > "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in > message news:_An0e.126487$y25.103932@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > email replies not necessary but to contact use; > tumbleweednews at hotmail dot com I havent had the butterflies i have had many times before when i meet a girl i like, or spend time with....i have no butterflies or heart skipping a beat at all, im sorry to say my heart still hopes its a message on my fone from my ex rather than Anett, that sounds horrible i know. THIS very second my mobile went and i hoped it was my ex. Guess tonight when i see her i will tell her its all over, i think Anett deserves all my attention and thoughts, after all shes treat me better and i have laughed more with her in about a month than i did in over 2 years with my ex. I even think my granddad likes her, hes told a neighbour i have brought her round a couple of times............. Seems your never too old to have a romantic problem, i thought only teenagers when thru this!!! If its a nice next week i hope to get out with my granddad and the dog for the day, will take some pics, and make them a bit smaller this time if anyone would like to see them. "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:GYD0e.832$IH3.238@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... >> "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote >> in [quoted text clipped - 46 lines] > the day, will take some pics, and make them a bit smaller this time if > anyone would like to see them. Whatever happens don't get fooled by your own emotions, Julian. Your ex will most likely lay it on rather thick, being nicer than she ever was. You know how she REALLY is though. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > Whatever happens don't get fooled by your own emotions, Julian. Your ex > will most likely lay it on rather thick, being nicer than she ever was. > You know how she REALLY is though. Tonight she was so sweet its as if it was a differant person when we talked, hell knows why she should think it but i have a feeling shes seen me happy since and regretting it., she even said she saw me laugh and smile a couple of weeks back with Anett and didnt think it was me, i guess that says it all. > -- > Regards, > Evelyn > > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:TWL0e.1135$IH3.785@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... >> Whatever happens don't get fooled by your own emotions, Julian. Your ex >> will most likely lay it on rather thick, being nicer than she ever was. [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > of weeks back with Anett and didnt think it was me, i guess that says it > all. She just doesn't care that much for you, Julian. That is the real truth. Maybe she will love someone somewhere, but it isn't you and most likely will never be. Decide that you want to be loved for what and who you are and don't accept anything less. For now that may involve Annette, but if it doesn't, that should be OK too. Just be sure to recognize that Shelly has nothing to offer you but crumbs that accidentally fall your way. You deserve better than that, we all do. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in > message news:TWL0e.1135$IH3.785@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > nothing to offer you but crumbs that accidentally fall your way. You > deserve better than that, we all do. I think she would try harder next time, we would near to clear the air and talk, she would never talk when we were together. I will try not to contact her and forget about her and look forward to the nice times with Anett, then if i dont feel any differant i shall at least be honest to her. > -- > Regards, > Evelyn > > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote in message news:BYX0e.2887$IH3.1178@fe3.news.blueyonder.co.uk... >> "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote >> in [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > then > if i dont feel any differant i shall at least be honest to her. Good decision. People don't usually change very much, especially in relationship matters. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > Good decision. People don't usually change very much, especially in > relationship matters. Yes you have a wise head on your shoulders! :-) > -- > Regards, > Evelyn > > (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") Julian,first I'm not saying that you and Anett have to have a relationship that is to death do you part;but what you have described that you do have with her is great. :-) The most telling point for me is where you said you missed Anett! :-) LoL Of course,you do and do you know why? It's because she treats you right and doesn't use and abuse you. Plus,you've said yourself that she makes you laugh,makes you happy and that you like having conversations with her. I can see where this is a whole new thing for you given how your ex treated you;but as I said before,how your present girlfriend treats you is the way people are supposed to treat each other. Won't say anymore for now except that you've gotten some great advice in this thread! :-) And I really liked the pics you posted of you,Anett,grandpa and the dog!:-) Don't think I got to see them all though. Can you redo the webpage they are on and put in a pagebreak after every 3 or so pics? If you could,that should makes the pages load a lot faster. > Julian,first I'm not saying that you and Anett have to have a > relationship that is to death do you part;but what you have described [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > are on and put in a pagebreak after every 3 or so pics? If you > could,that should makes the pages load a lot faster. Will alter it tomorrow, i have some software to shrink the images to a better size and a few more. Anetts back today, got a postcard from her while she was away, taking her out tonight. My personal theory is that not only do people not change very much in terms of the fundamentals, but they tend to get "more" like themselves as they age. Defining personality traits seem to get exagerated to the point where at 75, you are almost a charicature of who you were at 25 (i.e. the miserable get more miserable, and the sweeties get sweeter.) I can definitely see this in my friends' marriages...and divorces, - the great partners become even better partners with time, and the not so great ones turn into absolute rotten so and sos. Mary G. > My personal theory is that not only do people not change very much in > terms of the fundamentals, but they tend to get "more" like themselves [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > > Mary G. I agree, Mary. What can change over time are occasionally matters of maturity. But not everyone does that. My father has been a miserable, narcissistic, angry person for most of his life, but now that he is 92, he is mellower than he has ever been. But every now and then he still shows his bad side. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") Julian, I don't think there is much to sort out. You are neither old nor undesirable. Stop putting yourself down. You don't have to settle for crumbs flicked your way by someone who is clearly not interested in sharing your life in any meaningful way. Lets see...she doesn't share your interests or hobbies, she doesn't want marriage or kids (which you say you want), she doesn't do kind or considerate things for you, she sees you entirely on her terms when its convenient for her, she doesn't introduce you to her family, she lies to you, she's still living with her ex....I mean, seriously, this isn't love. I'm not sure what it is other than perhaps a quick snog every now and then. You deserve better!! Actions speak. She's telling you loud and clear there is no future with her. To use the cliche, the truth is she's just "not that into you". Don't waste 5 more minutes on that one. Move on, and be willing to risk it on someone new. There is someone out there waiting for you to show up who will think you are a gift from God. If we all had to be young and perfect to find love, few of us would have partners. Mary G. > Julian, I don't think there is much to sort out. You are neither old > nor undesirable. Stop putting yourself down. You don't have to settle [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Mary G. I couldnt even visit a close friend with my ex as the friend has a baby, and my ex said she hated kids but wouldnt even come with me to sit in the same room for a hour, while i took Anett afterwards she said was a cute kid, both are chalk and cheese Thursday night is when i will see my ex, my heart still wants her but my brain and so it seems everyone else says dont go back. If im honest i occ brought girls home in the past 2 years, i got more attention from a stranger in a hour than i did with the ex, my ex wouldnt let me touch her, hold her or anything like that, wouldnt let me take her for dinner or anything. I remember when my car was stolen that my granddad gave me, i would have to beg like hell for her to give me a lift to see him once a week, and if i needed to do a lot of grocery shopping she would rather let me struggle with a bad back with loads of heavy bags then give me a lift a mile away and as i live on a v steep hill with no buses, maybe it was just me but my grandparents would help anyone and thats how they raised me and she wouldnt help in anyway. She gave more attention to her dog than me, she would say she visit for a couple of hours, always look at her watch and leave way before she was suposed too. Ive been with a coupe of hundred chicks in nearly 20 years, a few even long term and i have never been treat so bad, people said that while we were still together, but Anett has treat me so well in 5 weeks i think something must be wrong as i dont feel a great deal for her, i mean that in a nice way, she makes me laugh, happy and we can actually have a decent conversation, but i am sure i should feel more than a i do, shes a special girl. Anyway hope you liked the pics of the dog and my granddad! On Thu, 24 Mar 2005 00:22:07 GMT in alt.support.alzheimers, "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote: > if i needed to do a lot of grocery shopping she would > rather let me struggle with a bad back with loads of heavy bags then give me > a lift a mile away this woman is NOT worth ANY of your time. period. she is POISON. call up & cancel your visit. stay away from her. she is just playing you along, a real sicko. take control of the situation, just call and cancel your meeting and then go do something enjoyable. > On Thu, 24 Mar 2005 00:22:07 GMT in alt.support.alzheimers, > "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > situation, just call and cancel your meeting and then go do > something enjoyable. At least i could do is say it to her face, she didnt want anything to do with me, until she saw me with the new girl, guess that says it all. Im honestly trying hard to think of a good time we had together in 2 years or more, this new girl is the same age as her, 23 and i just sent her a text asking if she likes chess and she says yes, my ex thought that was for losers. On Thu, 24 Mar 2005 10:14:46 GMT in alt.support.alzheimers, "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" <julianhales@blueyonder.co.uk> wrote: > At least i could do is say it to her face, she didnt want anything to do > with me, until she saw me with the new girl, guess that says it all. I julian, get some common sense. why would you even bother telling her to her face that it's over when she would never do that for you? you're spending far too much time even thinking about her. what you need to to is go for the new one with gusto and all your energy. if you don't, someone else will nab her while you dilly-dally around with someone who obviously HATES you. don't even waste the time of day on such a sick person. spend ALL your time with the one who cares. hell, if i was there, *i'd* be trying to take her out! > On Thu, 24 Mar 2005 10:14:46 GMT in alt.support.alzheimers, > "Julian 'Penny for the guy' Hales" [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > her to her face that it's over when she would never do that for > you? you're spending far too much time even thinking about her. Yup, i tried drilling that into my head over and over head but i dont think it worked > what you need to to is go for the new one with gusto and all your > energy. if you don't, someone else will nab her while you > dilly-dally around with someone who obviously HATES you. Anett can tell, maybe its because shes a woman, i dont know, that somethings on my mind, i smile and have a good time when where out, in a cafe and she says im so funny, when we went to the pubs i made her happy, yet when im at home even with Anett then i start to think of my ex. > don't even waste the time of day on such a sick person. spend > ALL your time with the one who cares. hell, if i was there, > *i'd* be trying to take her out! You wouldnt be the first, all my mates like her, shes funny and intelligent and can hold down a serious conversation. Shes affectionate and has a nice smile, its just i dont get that feeling inside, i keep thinking i should feel differant or at least more towards her as shes so nice to me and we do fun things out together, unfortunatly i cant help the way i feel inside. Last night a couple of prtty girls came upto me while i was talking to my ex saying they saw me on tv not long ago and asked if i was single still (it said that on tv) and i said no, im with my girlfriend............... It doesnt help my taste in music is soft rock and sloppy love songs, must have listend to Truly by Lionel Richie a 100 times already today, and Eric Carmens all by myself. PS thanks for the email, makes sense. |
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