Evelyn
You are so right....I have three children and as I always say to all of
them I was the same mom they were the ones who were different...I admit
with my upbringing I probably was not the best of parents but I have
always apologized to my children when I was wrong....which was something
I never got....anyway two of the three love me and adore me and will do
anything for me...my middle child is impossible to deal with and always
has been...he is soon to be 28 yrs old on the 29th and he still blames
me for all his stupidity

I made a conscious decision as a young mother NOT to ever berate my
child no matter how angry I got....I tired very hard to "break the
cycle"  In some ways I succeeded in others not...my youngest son is now
a dad and he is the best parent I have ever seen bar none...when I
comment on that he says he learned it from me....my heart swells with
happiness and surprise

I was a single parent for many years with NO CHILD support I did the
best I could when my kids acted out  wouldI always say how would you
like to have MY parents for parents????LOL I get a big NO WAY

anyway thanks for your kind words and insight to a multi complex issue

after all Htler Ted Bundy Jeffrey Dahmer were children once too...:)

mama-lionsox@hvc.rr.com (Evelyn Ruut)
Boydette, somehow I often think that the way we were raised has very
little to do with what kind of people we turn out to be, in spite of the
popular belief that we turn out how we were raised.
I know too many people who had ideal upbringings that turned out to be
really lousy human beings, and I know too many people who had hellish
upbringings that turned out to be wonderful people.
That is, of course, no excuse not to do the best for our kids, but it is
just an observation.