Gwen, I tried to respond via email but you address bounced. For what it's worth,
here's what I said:

On Mon, 21 Feb 2005 11:47:28 GMT, you wrote:

If your intention was to say that in private rather than in the group, thank
you--I would have valued it there too.

I'd be very grateful if you would identify for me how I flexed my muscles. My
intention was to make participants aware of usenet etiquette. I did try to word
it gently but I obviously failed miserably. I'd be very happy if you were to
demonstrate to me how it might be better worded--although, I think--you don't
believe it should be said at all. If so, we disagree about something at least.

I suspect that your emotions are related to Gwen's situation.

I've always realised that the carer of an AD patient is the person who suffers
the most. With regards to you comments about, I suspect it might be related to
Gwen; I have no regrets about what I said. At the same time, I also don't have
any animositly towards you for your comments above--I think most males are
a.sholes--although I prefer to spell it arseholes.

You should be pleased to know that I intend to preserve my wife from the ravages
of being an AD carer by, when the time comes, driving my motorcycle into a tree
or a bridge. If you'd like, I could send you a card so you can rejoice!

No doubt.

In any event, I bear no malice for your comments. I wish the best for you and
the person you care for.

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Mod as a hooter!

Wow. You know when I first began to post here again it was because
I really need to be here now. Mom is changing rapidly since this time
last year. I was told about my posts wrapping and stuff, and it
is so odd. I can hit the return key and it is probably fixing it, but
I truly cannot spend the mental energy to do One Other Thing.
I am very self sufficient, but I need to be here now. Mom has just
begun not eating. This is a place where everyone knows my joy,
and my grief about this. If someone tells me to post differently
I am just going to answer politely and do what I need to do.
I chose to keep Mom at home for this, but it is totally no
picnic. I am a superior nurse, with a good education
and a lot of experience with adolescents. :). Not a whole
lot of geriatric, but the net and a few here in this
group have taught me enough to get
Mom to this stage without injury, and without me dropping
or having to make the (for my situation) unpalatable
choice of a nursing home. Not going to pay a bit
of attention to anyone's idea of how I should post.
I will, when asked nicely, do something simple
like hit the return key. And I am not going away in
a huff because someone asks, as long as they
don't get in a huff when I say no. I can be easily
deleted by anyone who wants to do that.
in my tracks.

Oh Evelyn ... I can't imagine that you meant to respond to Anthony's post in
this way. This group is alt.support.alzheimers. Support, not tear down. Of
course Anthony's "poor wife" is going to find him a "handful" in the
fullness of time. All carers of dementia sufferers find their LOs a handful.
Anthony doesn't need to be reminded of that, and as for calling him an
a.shole ... I find your lack of compassion and understanding of the disease
quite confronting.

Caz