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anti-depressants and worsening confusion

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dpf@afn.org - 13 Feb 2005 12:50 GMT
My father has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's.  For a couple of years
we (his family) all knew it was happening but saw no reason to involve
doctors because it would subject him to unnecessary stress ( we felt
that little could be done that would actually  help)..  Things however
came to the point where we felt that perhaps some drugs might help with
his depression and perhaps slow the loss of memory...  So to make a
long story short, we finally went to the doctors and he was quickly
diagnosed as having Alzheimer's..  (no big surprise there)..  Anyway he
has been placed on a memory enhancer (galantamine (probably
misspelled)) and on an anti-depressant..  The problem is that we feel
that he has become remarkably more confused since he started on these
drugs a couple of months ago..  (He is now confusing his present day
family with the family of his youth and totally losing what little
interest and ability he had a short while ago..  He does seem a little
happier however and has started to hum and sing to himself that he has
not done before)..    Because of the expense of the most recent
anti-depressant the doctor has changed the prescription to Celexa 40 mg
/day..  We are supposed to start it immediately but because of the
marked increase in his confusion that we feel might be drug-related we
are considering not giving it to him for a while to see if this
confusion lessens...  Sorry about this long post...  but my question is
this...  Has anyone else experienced that these anti-deppresants
actually make things worse as far as memory-loss?..  Are some drugs
less likely to do this?   The foundation of our thought that drugs
might actually help the situation is somewhat shaken...
Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 13 Feb 2005 13:25 GMT
My experience with Alzheimer's is that the impacts of the disease for
many people are slow and subtle in the earlier stages. However, drugs
or no drugs, there seems to be a point in the progression where the
illness appears to build up a head of steam - where the losses are much
more obvious and devastating, and the illness seems to move faster.

Given all the excess capacity we supposedly have in our brains, my
theory has always been that the disease is chewing through our backup
in the earlier stages, so you don't SEE big changes in behaviour or
ability - just slow erosions.  However, once you've run out of the
alternate routes for various brain functions, and the disease is into
the really crucial bits with no back up left...you start to see major
losses in abilities or changes in behaviour over shorter time frames.
Just to give you an example, my mother in law lost speech in the later
stages over a two week period. Before that, a bit garbled, but she did
make sense. After that...nothing but garble, and no, she wasn't on
drugs, didn't have a stroke, had no other illness. Just the final
winking out of the connections that made intelligable speech possible.

For your dad, it could well be the drugs, so you will want to try
something else (if it is the drugs, you will know soon enough if you
wean to something else or come off them slowly). However, it could also
be that your dad is at the point where fairly major damage has occurred
and he will continue to go downhill, whether he is on meds or not.

Below my signature I've pasted the stages just for your reference so
you can see where he may be in the illness. I'd strongly urge you to
find a doctor you trust and who you can work with, since as this gets
worse, you will need help and your current strategy of standing alone
with this may not be the best (you sound like you very much mistrust
the doctor and his advice). You need someone you can talk to about what
you see, and trust, so you can try out various ideas. You have to be
prepared that not everything will work for your dad, and that one
failure (i.e. one drug that isn't right for him) shouldn't mean you
throw in the towel on all drugs.

Mary G.

Stages of Alzheimers

In 1982 Dr. Barry Reisberg published what was to become the best and
most widely accepted description of the stages of Alzheimer's disease.
Even today, years later, when experts referto a person being in stage 5
or stage 6, they are referring to Dr. Reisberg's scale of seven stages.

Adapted from Reisberg, B., Ferris, S.H., Leon, J.J. & Crook, T. The
global deterioration scale for the assessment of primary degenerative
dementia. American Journal of Psychiatry, 1982

Level 1

No cognitive decline - (or Normal Adult). No subjective complaints of
memory deficit. No memory deficit evident on clinical interviews.

Level 2
Very mild cognitive decline (forgetfulness or normal older adult).
Subjective complaints of memory deficit, most frequently in the
following area:
(a) forgetting where one has placed familiar objects;
(b) forgetting names on formerly knew well. No objective evidence of
memory deficit on clinical interview. No objective deficits in
employment or social situations. Appropriate concern regarding
symptoms.

Level 3
Mild cognitive decline (early confusional or Early AD). Earliest
clear-cut deficits. Manifestations in more than one of the following
areas:
(a) patient may have gotten lost when traveling to an unfamiliar
location;
(b) co-workers become aware of patient's relatively low performance;
(c) word and name finding deficit becomes evident to intimates;
(d) patient may read a passage of a book and retain relatively little
material;
(e) patient may demonstrate decreased facility in remembering names
upon introduction to new people;
(f) patient may have lost or misplaced an object of value;
(g) concentration deficit may be evident on clinical testing. Objective
evidence of memory deficit obtained only
with an intensive interview. Denial begins to become manifest in
patient. Mild to moderate anxiety accompanies symptoms.Deficits noticed
in demanding employment situations.

Level 4
Moderate cognitive decline (Late Confusional or Mild AD). Clear-cut
deficit on careful clinical interview. Deficit manifest in following
areas:
(a) decreased knowledge of current and recent events; (b) may exhibit
some deficit in memory of one's personal history;
(c) concentration deficit elicited on serial subtractions; (d)
decreased ability to travel, handle finances, etc.

Frequently no deficit in the following areas:
(a) orientation to time and person;
(b) recognition of familiar persons and faces;
(c) ability to travel to familiar locations.

Inability to perform complex tasks. Denial is dominant defense
mechanism. Flattening of affect and withdrawl from challenging
situations occur.

Level 5
Moderately severe cognitive decline (Early Dementia or moderate AD).
Patient can no longer survive without some assistance. Patient is
unable during interview to recall a major relevant aspect of their
current lives, e.g., an address or telephone number of many years, the
names of close family members (such as grandchildren), the name of the
high school or college from which they graduated. Frequently some
disorientation to time (date, day of week, season, etc.) or to place.
An educated person may have difficulty counting back from 40 by 4s or
from 20 by 2s. Persons at this stage retain knowledge of many major
facts regarding themselves and others. They invariably know their own
names and generally know their spouse's and children's names. They
require no assistance with toileting and eating, but may have some
difficulty choosing the proper clothing to wear.

Level 6
Severe cognitive decline (Middle Dementia or Moderately Severe AD). May
occasionally forget the name of the spouse upon whom they are entirely
dependent for survival. Will be largely unaware of all recent events
and experiences in their lives. Retain some knowledge of their past
lives but this is very sketchy. Generally unaware of their
surroundings, the year, the season, etc. May have difficulty counting
from 10, both backward and sometimes forward. Will require some
assistance with activities of daily living, e.g., may become
incontinent, will require travel assistance but occasionally will
display ability to orient in familiar locations. Diurnal rhythm
frequently disturbed. Almost always recall their own name. Frequently
continue to be able to distinguish familiar from unfamiliar persons in
their environment. Personality and emotional changes occur. These are
quite variable and include
(a) delusional behavior, e.g., paatients may accuse their spouse of
being an impostor, may talk to imaginary figures in the environment, or
to their own reflection in the mirror;
(b) obsessive symptoms, e.g., person may
continually repeat simple cleaning activities;
(c) anxiety symptoms, agitation, and even previously nonexistent
violent behavior may occur;
(d) cognitive abulla, i.e., loss of willpower because an individual
cannot carry a thought long enough to determine a purposeful course of
action.

6a - Requires Assistance dressing
6b - Requires Assistance bathing properly
6c - Requires Assistance with mechanics of toileting
6d - Urinary incontinence
6e - Fecal incontinence

Level 7
Very severe cognitive decline (Late Dementia or Severe AD). All verbal
abilities are lost. Frequently there is no speech at all - only
grunting. Incontinent of urine, requires assistance toileting and
feeding. Lose basic psychomotor skills, e.g., ability to walk, sitting
and head control.
The brain appears to no longer be able to tell the body what to do.
Generalized and cortical neurologic signs and symptoms are frequently
present.

7a - Speech ability limited to about a half-dozen intelligible words
7b - Intelligible vocabulary limited to a single word
7c - Ambulatory ability lost
7d - Ability to sit up lost
7e - Ability to smile lost
7f - Ability to hold up head lost
Tumbleweed - 13 Feb 2005 18:31 GMT
> My father has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's.  For a couple of years
> we (his family) all knew it was happening but saw no reason to involve
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> less likely to do this?   The foundation of our thought that drugs
> might actually help the situation is somewhat shaken...

maybe the galantamine isnt working for him,  many here have LO's that use
Aricept or Memantine (aka Namenda) or both.

I am somewhat alarmed that you feel able to randomly alter the prescription,
how are you going to know if these things work if you make up your own
diagnosis and medical treatment as you go along??

FWIW (and for the benefit of other posters rather than a criticism of you)
waiting to put him on an Az drug for several years was the worst course of
action you could ahve taken, the earlier you take these drugs the more
noticeable the effect and the longer respite you'll get. It may be he is too
far gone for the drugs to have any effect on the Az now, certainly once you
lose large chunks of capability you will only get some of it back however
good the drugs.

The other symptoms you describe are typical of Az, and the detrioration that
occurs as time gos by,  and therefore likely have nothing at all to do with
the anti-depressants, but its common here for people to report they try a
range of them before they get one that works. And over time, as their
condition deteriorates, what works will change.

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Dennis P. Harris - 14 Feb 2005 03:22 GMT
> FWIW (and for the benefit of other posters rather than a criticism of you)
> waiting to put him on an Az drug for several years was the worst course of
[quoted text clipped - 3 lines]
> lose large chunks of capability you will only get some of it back however
> good the drugs.

in addition, the usual method now is to give memantine (aka
galamantine or namenda) together with aricept.  galamantine is
rarely prescribed by itself these days.

how knowledgeable is the doc about dementias?  if he's not a
geriatric specialist with a lot of dementia experience, you
should ask for a referral to a neurologist or geriatric
psychiatrist.  there are far too many primary care docs out there
who simply are not up to date on the latest dementia knowledge
and therapies.

and tumbleweed is right --- you did him no favors by not getting
him on aricept & namenda as soon as you noticed problems, since
the drugs don't stop the deterioration, just slow it down.
sometimes what seems confusion or upset is due to the fact that
the patient has regained some capability that only makes them
more aware of how confused they are, which gets them upset.

finally, you should *always* talk to the doc before you stop or
start meds that have been prescribed.  some psych meds can have
devastating effects if they are suddenly stopped.
Tumbleweed - 14 Feb 2005 08:30 GMT
>> FWIW (and for the benefit of other posters rather than a criticism of
>> you)
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
> galamantine or namenda) together with aricept.  galamantine is
> rarely prescribed by itself these days.

Dennis, are you sure that mementine and namenda are different names for
galantamine?
I know the first two are the same but I thought that galantamine was a
different drug.

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> finally, you should *always* talk to the doc before you stop or
Dennis P. Harris - 14 Feb 2005 10:02 GMT
> Dennis, are you sure that mementine and namenda are different names for
> galantamine?
> I know the first two are the same but I thought that galantamine was a
> different drug.

oops, you're right.  too many confusing drug names!

galamantine = reminyl

the OP should be aware that it's not the most commonly prescribed
drug --- aricept or aricept + namenda are far more often
prescribed these days AFAIK.
Evelyn Ruut - 14 Feb 2005 11:10 GMT
>> Dennis, are you sure that mementine and namenda are different names for
>> galantamine?
[quoted text clipped - 8 lines]
> drug --- aricept or aricept + namenda are far more often
> prescribed these days AFAIK.

Wait, isn't galantamine the natural name of the drug, Reminyl is the
european name, Namenda is the American name..... but they are all the same
drug aren't they?   I seem to recall that Frederick who used to post here
bought it under the name galantamine in the natural food store.    Not
certain if these are all the same product or not.

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Evelyn

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Brick - 22 Mar 2005 16:10 GMT
> >> FWIW (and for the benefit of other posters rather than a criticism of
> >> you) waiting to put him on an Az drug for several years was the worst
[quoted text clipped - 13 lines]
> I know the first two are the same but I thought that galantamine was a
> different drug.

GALANTAMINE (Reminyl?) helps treat the symptoms associated with Alzheimer's
disease. It is not a cure for Alzheimer's disease but offers improvement in
memory, attention, reason, language, and the ability to perform tasks.
Benefits are greater in the early stages of the disease. Generic galantamine
tablets are not yet available.

MEMANTINE (Namenda?) helps treat the symptoms associated with Alzheimer's
disease or dementia. It is not a cure for Alzheimer's disease but offers
improvement in memory, attention, reason, language, and the ability to
perform simple tasks. Benefits are usually greater in the later stages of
the disease. Generic memantine tablets are not yet available.

**NOTE** "early stages" vs "later stages".

Source Reference: Express Scripts drug information.  The Military On-line
pharmacy

Brick (Keep the shiny side up)
Evelyn Ruut - 13 Feb 2005 18:34 GMT
> My father has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's.  For a couple of years
> we (his family) all knew it was happening but saw no reason to involve
[quoted text clipped - 21 lines]
> less likely to do this?   The foundation of our thought that drugs
> might actually help the situation is somewhat shaken...

Hi,

I just wanted to mention that both Mary Gordon and Tumbleweed have given you
excellent advice.

Waiting to start the drugs was definitely not a good course of action, since
all I have read and heard indicates that early medication keeps the person's
level of functioning from deteriorating so quickly.

Also the Galantamine/Namenda is usually used in conjunction with Aricept as
far as I know.   With my mother in law, there is a dramatic, noticeable loss
of function if she doesn't have her Aricept every day.   If I were you, I
would definitely look into it.

I would also like to verify what Mary said about sudden changes in function
being part of the illness.   It was our observation also, where certain
changes seemed to happen within a short period of time.

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Evelyn

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Anthony Shipley - 13 Feb 2005 22:57 GMT
>I just wanted to mention that both Mary Gordon and Tumbleweed have given you
>excellent advice.

With regard to the anti-depressants, I understand they (Prozac, in my case) are
used for depression as well as routinely to improve memory. It's not surprising
that continual changes in ones mental ability is depressing :-(

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bherms@yahoo.com - 15 Feb 2005 15:13 GMT
My Mom has been on Reminyl (galantamine) for a couple years, seems to
help.  Recently we added Namenda, which seems to help more.  She tried
Celexa and went off it immediately because it really caused a very
noticeable increase in confusion.

Aricept seems to be the most common first drug tried, or Reminyl which
my Mom was given first .. she has never tried Aricept.  Namenda is a
different type  drug that can be given alone but seems better in
conjunction with either Aricept or Reminyl.  It is said to be for mid
to late stage Alz' but most want it earlier if possible.

Of the different types of dementia, Alzheimer's is most common, but
they are now finding other similiar types such as "Lewis Body
Dementia".  One striking symptom my mom had was imagining silent
people in the house.  Anyway, it seems people with this form of
dementia can have a very adverse reaction to anti psychotic drugs.
Celexa is not an anti psychotic (AFAIK) but my mom had a bad reaction
to it as well as an anti psychotic and another anti depressant (each
tried independently, months apart)
http://www.alzwisc.org/lewybody.html

It seems important to ease into these drugs and give them a month or
so to be able to evaluate.  Reminyl is galantamine, but I bought some
galantamine from a health food store.  It was 1/4 the price, but
didn't seem as effective.  Apparently it is not as refined as the
Reminyl and may include other "junk".  I like the idea that
galantamine comes from a tulip root.  :)

A healthy diet and some excercise and mental activity can easily be
overlooked as well.  A little fish oil seems promising too.

Good luck,
Bill

some definitions from drugstore.com ...

Namenda is a NMDA-receptor antagonist used to treat moderate to severe
Alzheimer's-type dementia. Namenda blocks excess activity of a
substance in the brain called glutamate. Blocking glutamate may reduce
the symptoms associated with Alzheimer's disease. Namenda is not a
cure for Alzheimer's disease. Namenda may be used to treat other
conditions as determined by your doctor.

Reminyl is a reversible acetylcholinesterase inhibitor used to treat
loss of memory and thinking ability associated with Alzheimer's
disease

Aricept is a reversible acetylcholinesterase inhibitor used to treat
loss of memory and thinking ability associated with Alzheimer's
disease.

Celexa is a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor used to treat
depression. Celexa may also be used to treat other conditions as
determined by your doctor.

>My father has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's.  For a couple of years
>we (his family) all knew it was happening but saw no reason to involve
[quoted text clipped - 21 lines]
>less likely to do this?   The foundation of our thought that drugs
>might actually help the situation is somewhat shaken...
dpf@afn.org - 15 Feb 2005 17:21 GMT
I was the original poster of this topic and feel somewhat defensive
about the replies of a couple posters who indicated that we didn't do
the right thing by not going to doctors early on concerning our
father's Alzheimers...  The truth  of the matter is that the family
debated rather strenuously within ourselves whether or not to do so..
Part of our concern was that, as a family, we (and especially our
father) have taken a rather lifelong skeptical attitude towards the
medical establishment..  We are not the sort to go running off "to the
doctor" at every hint of discomfort..  (I do however admit that there
are certainly occasions were an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of
cure)..  The other point is that there has been little in the way of
encouraging news over the last few years as to any real breakthroughs
in the treatment of Alzheimer's.  The final point was that in a way we
were trying to shield our father from any real awareness that he even
might have Alzheimer's..  To this day he is unaware of anything other
than he just has a "poor memory"..  Was there any real advantage to be
had by letting him know that he was officially diagnosed to have
Alzheimer's..  Quite frankly we were afraid that he would take the
information very hard and be profoundly depressed with possibly even
suicidal thoughts as a result...
 That all said the family finally got to the point were we felt
hopeful that there might possibly be benefits from drugs..  either for
his depression or perhaps to slow the onset of further deterioration..
The results from the last couple of months of the drug regimen have
been far from encouraging..  The doctor involved is well thought of in
geriatric care but the result of these past months of drug taking can
only be described as a rather precipitous decline in our father's
abilities"..  We couldn't help but wonder whether these drugs might be
actually making things worse..
Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 15 Feb 2005 18:28 GMT
Well, you've just opened another can of worms.

I can see your point if a person is not brought to medical attention
until their disease is far advanced (which is in itself an appalling
situation).

What gives any of us the right to shield an adult from their own
situation, particularly when it involves a terminal illness? I would
feel that was arrogant and disrespectful if someone did that to me, and
thus denied me the time to get my affairs in order, mend fences, say
good byes. When it comes to progressive dementias there are many things
to consider and arrange, from wills and powers of attorney, estate
planning, preferences for care, etc. I would prefer to be involved in
those decisions were I still at all able.

Essentially, you denied him an early diagnosis, and you have also
denied him participation in decisions for his own future while he was
still functional enough to participate - to maximize his autonomy and
choice in making informed decisions. You made some paternalistic
assumptions about him - he might well have coped quite well. Many
people already KNOW there is something really wrong with them, and it
is a source of much anxiety in the early to middle stages.

Would you have done the same had he had cancer? In the name of
protecting him, you've not only robbed him, but you've robbed yourself
of a breathtaking opportunity to share some of the journey with him. I
know it was likely well intentioned but I can't see it as a kindness at
all, and I would be horrified if loved ones did that to me.

Mary G.
Evelyn Ruut - 15 Feb 2005 19:19 GMT
> I was the original poster of this topic and feel somewhat defensive
> about the replies of a couple posters who indicated that we didn't do
[quoted text clipped - 25 lines]
> abilities"..  We couldn't help but wonder whether these drugs might be
> actually making things worse..

I am sorry if you were offended, but I and the others only told you the
absolute truth.   Everyone who replied to you has cared for a loved one with
alzheimers either till they died, or for a very long time, so no rookies
gave you bad advice, they told you like it is.

Early detection of ANY disease is important, and not only important, but
essential if you want to make sure their health is preserved with drugs that
are proven to really and truly help.   There are drugs that replace missing
chemicals in the brain, that actually help preserve their functioning
longer, and that is the absolute truth.

No one intended to offend you, but if you are more interested in taking
offense rather than acknowledging you might have maybe made a little
mistake, so be it.

Look, nobody is perfect, and so you made a mistake.   There is a lot of
valuable information available here, and many people who are willing to
help.   Gag back your pride and move on.

As for telling your father he had alzheimers, I can only tell you of our
experience.  We told my mother in law over and over again what she had and
assured her that it was OK and we were going to look after her throughout.
She never was able to remember it for even 5 seconds.

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Anthony Shipley - 15 Feb 2005 22:52 GMT
This thread reminds me about how I feel about having AD.

I'm only 52 and have EOAD. My  primary symptom is poor memory - especially
verbal memory. That makes me very unreliable.

I also have some difficulty remembering how to get to some places that are not
too familiar anymore.

The two things I really dislike are:

1. when driving, being given directions at every corner or sign post. I do make
a few mistakes, but that doesn't necessitate treating me like I'm wholly
incapacitated.

2. everybody knowing what's better for me. What's the point of being stark
raving mad if you can't a few silly things  lest it upset those who are sane.

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Gwen Love - 15 Feb 2005 23:54 GMT
Anthony, with a bad memory, you really should not be driving.  What if you
forget where the brakes are?
Gwen

> This thread reminds me about how I feel about having AD.
>
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Anthony Shipley - 16 Feb 2005 00:44 GMT
>Anthony, with a bad memory, you really should not be driving.  What if you
>forget where the brakes are?

With due respect, Gwen, that's about as silly as I've heard.

What if I forget where my feet are?

What if I forget to use a condom?

I have the responsibility, along with my wife, of making judgements about my
abilities as they diminish.

Some of those judgements are going to be wrong.

I've driven a car for 35 years and have had one minor collision at the beginning
of that period.

When I was at school, the hospital's chef drove into me on my bicycle in front
of the hospital's gates.

In short, I have been a responsible citizen all my life. That doesn't say all my
decisions were correct; like anybody else I've made mistakes.

My wife and I will be making decisions, along with other suitable local friends
and medical practioners when the time comes.

I definitely don't intend to pay any attention to anybody who has no local
knowledge of my ability and skill.

I'm sure you didn't intend to be arrogant.

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Dennis P. Harris - 16 Feb 2005 04:38 GMT
> I have the responsibility, along with my wife, of making judgements about my
> abilities as they diminish.
>
> Some of those judgements are going to be wrong.

Have you taken a driving test lately?  Could you pass one?  I'll
bet that your reaction time has deteriorated far more than you
realize, and a test would show it.

PLEASE stop driving.

And one thing is true about dementias:  patients affected with
them have little or no insight as to how impaired they are.  It's
part of the disease.  Any honest medical professional who deals
regularly with patients with dementias will tell you that.
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Feb 2005 01:16 GMT
> This thread reminds me about how I feel about having AD.
>
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Dear Anthony,

The difficult thing about alzheimers is that nobody knows from one minute to
the next exactly WHAT you are capable of dealing with and what you are not.

My mother in law could understand something perfectly fine one minute, and
not understand at all 4 minutes later.   Alzheimers will play tricks with
your perceptions as well as your memory.

Consider that your "irritating" loved one is not trying to annoy you, but
acting out of love and protection.   You cannot possibly see yourself or
know how you are acting or driving or whatever.   Be grateful someone is
giving you directions...... and not for nothing, but you really ought not to
be driving at all if you have been accurately diagnosed.

Consider also that your own impressions and ability to discern things
correctly is absolutely going to play tricks on you, and just MAYBE you
might need someone else to think on your behalf now and then.

My mother in law was the very last person who knew what was good for her or
not.   She wanted to stay in her house all alone and be independent long
after her ability to do that had gone.  She was simply unable to determine
what her own abilities or lack of them, were.   What makes you think you
will be so different?

Don't let other peoples solicitousness and sense of protectiveness get
tangled up in your own macho male ego.  One has nothing whatsoever to do
with the other.   You cannot see yourself, and that will get worse as time
goes on.

Go with the flow and learn to trust the people who love you.   Everybody
will be a lot happier.

I can tell you of a former poster here whose husband was a very strong
minded state policeman.   When he got into advanced alzheimers, he would hit
his wife, not allow her to change his dirtied underwear full of poop,
refused to allow her to bathe him, (like ever) and got very violent because
he was "the man of the house" and having alzheimers made no changes in that
perception.   He was unable to let go and trust his own wife to care for
things right.   When he finally passed away I actually felt joy for that
poor woman.  She went through hell.

Anthony, if there is one single thing you can try to take in from reading
here, it is that you need to let go and trust the people who are looking
after you.   There really is no other way.   Get used to saying "yes dear"
and you will all be happier.

And you know I wish you the absolute best and easiest path through this, I
have no agenda other than that.
I hope you trust that we are giving you some good tips.
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Anthony Shipley - 16 Feb 2005 02:25 GMT
>The difficult thing about alzheimers is that nobody knows from one minute to
>the next exactly WHAT you are capable of dealing with and what you are not.
Not true for me at the moment. There are few things I can't do, at the moment.
My prime deficit, as I think I've mentioned, is my memory, especially verbal
memory is very bad.

I am not stupid, incoherent etc.
>My mother in law could understand something perfectly fine one minute, and
>not understand at all 4 minutes later.
I am not your mother in law. I hope your assessment of her is better, and more
informed, than what you've written above.

> Alzheimers will play tricks with your perceptions as well as your memory.
I'm well aware of that. It's not very pleasant -- but not as bad as ill-informed
know it alls!

>Consider that your "irritating" loved one is not trying to annoy you, but
>acting out of love and protection.   You cannot possibly see yourself or
>know how you are acting or driving or whatever.   Be grateful someone is
>giving you directions...... and not for nothing, but you really ought not to
>be driving at all if you have been accurately diagnosed.
I'm quite aware of my wife's intentions - and I don't think she annoys me
deliberately. You have a cheek suggesting that you know more about my driving
than I do--even my wife agrees there's nothing wrong with my driving - at the
moment.

>Consider also that your own impressions and ability to discern things
>correctly is absolutely going to play tricks on you, and just MAYBE you
>might need someone else to think on your behalf now and then.
I have no problem with people thinking.... while I drive but I do expect them to
treat me relative to my level of sanity.

I'm not railing about getting directions when driving in a city/location that
I'm familiar with. On the other hand, getting reminders about things I know is
demeaning. Note: I am talking about the "turn left here" instruction when I know
to turn, and my wife should know I know, and the worst outcome is that we turn
at the next street instead.

> What makes you think you >will be so different?
Nothing at all!!!

I won't be different....... but right now I am __very__ diferent to that.

>Don't let other peoples solicitousness and sense of protectiveness get
>tangled up in your own macho male ego.  One has nothing whatsoever to do
>with the other.   You cannot see yourself, and that will get worse as time
>goes on.
Macho! To illustrate how abusive your comments are, let me paraphrase that to a
different metaphor. It's like insisting on delivering your child to the
classroom door when he/she is 18 years old.

>Go with the flow and learn to trust the people who love you.
Love is too often the justification for hurt.

>I can tell you of a former poster here whose husband was a very strong
>minded state policeman.   When he got into advanced alzheimers, he would hit
>his wife, not allow her to change his dirtied underwear full of poop,

>Anthony, if there is one single thing you can try to take in from reading
>here, it is that you need to let go and trust the people who are looking
>after you.   There really is no other way.   Get used to saying "yes dear"
>and you will all be happier.
I do trust my wife. I don't necessarily have to become a vegetable until
necessary.
>And you know I wish you the absolute best and easiest path through this, I
>have no agenda other than that.

>I hope you trust that we are giving you some good tips.
Good tips? No! Sounds more like glib generalisations to me.

Certainly, your experience might differ. You speak as if you are a professional
with training and lots of experience. That might be so. I suspect, however, that
you are a dedicated, if untrained, carer struggling with your own burden.

This forum is generally warm and comforting. Sadly not now.

Please, don't be so arrogant and cavalier to, with so little information, tell
other people what they should do.

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Gwen Love - 16 Feb 2005 03:32 GMT
Evelyn, I'm in good company.  He thinks both of us are arrogant, when all we
want to do is help.
Gwen

> >The difficult thing about alzheimers is that nobody knows from one minute to
> >the next exactly WHAT you are capable of dealing with and what you are not.
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Anthony Shipley - 16 Feb 2005 04:30 GMT
>Evelyn, I'm in good company.  He thinks both of us are arrogant, when all we
>want to do is help.

No argument there!

Thank you for wanting to help.

No thanks for claiming to know all about me.

I wouldn't take advice from a doctor who only had access to my postings. I
certainly won't take it from you lot unless you _demonstrate_ you have something
worthwhile to say.

In conclusion, at least I'm not arrogant enough to tell you, without ever having
met you, what is good for me.

As for arrogance, would that not be a suitable appellation for somebody who,
with no contact about somebody, deigns to tell them how to manage their
affliction?

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Evelyn Ruut - 16 Feb 2005 12:49 GMT
>>Evelyn, I'm in good company.  He thinks both of us are arrogant, when all
>>we
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> with no contact about somebody, deigns to tell them how to manage their
> affliction?

What would YOU say about somebody who asked us?
Ask your doctor about it, then.

Get a driving test.

You ought to be grateful to people who have reached out to you or offered to
help.
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Caz - 16 Feb 2005 14:06 GMT
> >>Evelyn, I'm in good company.  He thinks both of us are arrogant, when all
> >>we
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> help.
> --
Evelyn, Gwen .. I understand what you're saying. But I also see it from
Anthony's perspective. If I were him, I"d be SO angry, so very angry --
mostly at my situation, and even moreso at the people who patronised me at a
stage where I was still very much aware of my condition and its prognosis.

Listen to what he's saying. Anthony is our teacher here. He is not "to be
grateful to people who have reached out to you or offered to help". We are
to be grateful to him for sharing his feelings with us.

Caz
Lee - 16 Feb 2005 14:54 GMT
I second that

this is not a new  issue ... just a different context.

I, for one, am sorry that you were hurt by it, Anthony.

IMO you should keep doing as much as you can do for as long as you can -
with, of course, the provisio that you and others be safe.

> > >>Evelyn, I'm in good company.  He thinks both of us are arrogant, when
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> Caz
Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 16 Feb 2005 15:01 GMT
While I understand how Anthony feels, and don't doubt I'd feel the
same, it doesn't change the caregiving delimna.

Anthony has a disease that causes progressive brain damage. He will not
necessarily be able to recognize his own limitations and areas of
impairments. In fact, he will be a spectactularly poor judge of his own
abilities. It just goes with AD, and no amount of protest from him will
change that. Its horrible, its humiliating, its infuriating, but what
can you do about it?
His wife will walk the razor's edge, wanting to let him be independent
and treat him like he's himself....when the fact is, he's being
dismantled from within and he is NOT fine, NOT himself, and
increasingly and unpredictably incapable of recognizing when he's in a
situation that's over his head no matter how much he protests. He's
angry at disease, but I don't see what other choice his poor wife has
other than to closely watch him and question his abilities at every
turn. Its not like a purple indicator light is going to wink on on his
forehead to tell her when he's no longer safe driving. Other people
will have to decide whats right for him.

Any of us who has dealt with the disease can tell hair raising stories
of what our loved ones did, and what they wanted to do, when it was
obvious to everyone around them that they needed supervision and
assistance and their judgement was impaired. I could give you a laundry
list of the sad and tearful discussions we had with my MIL who would
insist vehemently she was entirely capable to handle her finances (she
was not), administer her own medications (ended up in hospital from an
overdose), drive her car (ay carumba!), do her housework (couldn't!),
manage her personal hygiene (not too pleasant), get meals for herself
(very scary), travel to appointments alone (arriving at the doctors
locked office on Sunday morning instead of Wednesday afternoon) and on
and on and on.

The impairments also meant that even when something bad happened as a
consequence, she could not really appreciate why we were alarmed, so
logic didn't help. There was absolutely nothing you could say to her
that would give her clarity and insight, other than a very few flashes
early in the disease.  I just don't see how a caregiver has much choice
other than to do what their gut tells them to do, and make decisions on
behalf of the person based on safety. The fact that the victim of the
disease often resents all of it like fury is part of the agony AD
brings to everyone involved. The caregiver can cajol, distract, divert,
and bend over backward to save the person's feelings but can't wiggle
out of being the person with the intact brain in the equation.

Mary G.
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Feb 2005 15:00 GMT
> While I understand how Anthony feels, and don't doubt I'd feel the
> same, it doesn't change the caregiving delimna.
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> Mary G.

Mary has told it like it is.
It is a sad situation, but it is absolutely true.

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Lee - 16 Feb 2005 15:56 GMT
the point is though, that it is HIGHLY unlikely that she lost all of those
functions the day she was diagnosed. Part of caregiving, I think, is in
recognizing WHEN the person needs to have things taken over ... and not
jumping the gun.

I would suspect that all of the caregivers here have done it as I have -
gradually ... as an ability is lost, you pick it up.  From what I've seen,
we actually tend to err on the side of waiting too long ...

None of us, I think, wrested away our LOs ~stuff~ while they were still
capable because of a diagnosis. But yet we tend, in here, to write as if we
did, and others should.

> While I understand how Anthony feels, and don't doubt I'd feel the
> same, it doesn't change the caregiving delimna.
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Anthony Shipley - 17 Feb 2005 01:24 GMT
>He's angry at disease, but I don't see what other choice his poor wife has
>other than to closely watch him and question his abilities at every
>turn. Its not like a purple indicator light is going to wink on on his
>forehead to tell her when he's no longer safe driving. Other people
>will have to decide whats right for him.
I'm not an angry man. I'm not even angry about AD.

As I thing I related before, when we asked the Neurologist about driving, he
said not alone at night.

This forum is rather skewed towards carers. I can understand many of you venting
your frustration of care at me - because I symbolise the people you care.

Your prescription above, for me, is a premature loss of life. I would respect
your concerns somewhat more if you were able to show equal care and vocal
concern about other evils such as drink driving, speeding etc.

>Any of us who has dealt with the disease can tell hair raising stories
>of what our loved ones did, and what they wanted to do, when it was
>obvious to everyone around them that they needed supervision and
>assistance and their judgement was impaired.
Note that the frustrations I reported initially were entirely unrelated to any
need for supervision, assistance. My judgements and acuity are quite probably
better than yours. My memory is probably much worse than yours. My future and
life expectancy is almost certainly well below yours. I case as much about these
issues as you do.

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Evelyn Ruut - 16 Feb 2005 15:07 GMT
>> >>Evelyn, I'm in good company.  He thinks both of us are arrogant, when
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> Caz

I admit I was not careful enough about how I worded it, Caz.

If there is a lesson to be learned here for me, it is that 'every care
should be taken not to offend the sensitivities of the patient,' but in real
life I already knew that, and we always exercised great tact in dealing with
my mother in law.

I should have taken more care with my explanations to Anthony, since I have
no idea what he is capable of handling, and he immediately took offense.
But I do know how alzheimers plays tricks with the mind.

Perhaps I am still remembering all the things my mother in law thought she
was capable of still doing for herself when she absolutely wasn't.   In real
life I was there to gently assist (without words) whereas here on this forum
we must use words, which can appear to be harsh, even if they are not meant
to be.

Anthony, I am sorry to have offended you.

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Gwen Love - 16 Feb 2005 23:29 GMT
I'm also sorry he was offended, but I can't help but think of my dad who had
a couple of accidents before his license was suspended because he would not
stop driving.  I lived 4 hours away from him and was unable to stop him.
The last time he was going down a one way street the wrong way!  And he
still felt that he was capable of driving.  Thankfully Grayson stopped on
the way to town one day and said, "I think you'd better drive".  He never
drove the car again and I was so thankful that he realized he should not
drive any more.
Gwen

> I admit I was not careful enough about how I worded it, Caz.
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> Anthony, I am sorry to have offended you.
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Feb 2005 23:37 GMT
> I'm also sorry he was offended, but I can't help but think of my dad who
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> Gwen

Gwen, from all you have said over time, I think your Grayson must have been
an exceptional man in many ways.   It is unusual that a person with Az would
be able to know that and to act on it.   He must have been a great guy.

I hope Anthony is able to discern when the time is right too.

A lady in my alzheimer support group told us that her husband was sweet
tempered and kind right up to the end of his life.   She was lucky too to
have had such an exceptional relationship.

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>> Anthony, I am sorry to have offended you.
Anthony Shipley - 17 Feb 2005 01:43 GMT
>I hope Anthony is able to discern when the time is right too.

So do I!

Our only difference is that we, my wife, I and medical specialists, believe
we're in a better position to judge that than any of you (only because you're
not in any position to make a judgement).

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Jo Firey - 17 Feb 2005 00:21 GMT
My father quit driving on his own, and so did my mother.

It seemed strange because my mother was not easy to get along with before
she started to develop Alzheimers.  My brother and sister and I had gone
through the "I'm not telling her when she needs to quit driving, you tell
her"  before the time came.  She quit on her own.  No accidents although the
car dying on her one time did upset her.  She also asked me to sell the car
for her a few months later with no prompting from anyone.

As she got worse our other big fear wasn't realized either.  In her prime
mom could be upset easily and could hold on to her anger for a long time.
She lost the ability to remember what upset her pretty early on and for the
most part was not hard to be around at all.

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>> Anthony, I am sorry to have offended you.
Anthony Shipley - 17 Feb 2005 01:45 GMT
>My father quit driving on his own, and so did my mother.
I expect to do so too.

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dpf@afn.org - 17 Feb 2005 10:54 GMT
David here... (the original poster)  This topic got sidelined and
sparked an inferno..  In some ways quite an interesting and appropriate
one..  in other ways a very frustrating one..  The long and the short
of it is that none of us are in each other's shoes so can't really make
these sweeping judgements..  and should perhaps refrain from doing so
(although to relate their experiences can indeed be very helpful)...
    My point originally was essentially whether I should  trust the
medical extablishment and current science with what they currently have
to offer..  The bottom line is that all they have to offer is drugs...
As an example our father went to the doctor yesterday and my mother
brought up the fact that he has been having vivid and terrifying
nightmares almost nightly for the past week..  and the response of the
doctor was to prescribe a third drug..  So now he has a memory
enhancer, an anti-depressant, and now an anti-nightmare drug...   The
sad truth is that there is probably nothing that can be done other than
to finally chance on some combination of drugs that makes the person
dully compliant...  and which makes the caregiver feel like they are
doing "something" positive..  Our experience after all this is the
feeling not of regret that we didn't involve the medical establishment
early on (as several posters suggested we should feel) but rather
positive elation that we didn't (and that our father had several years
were he thought things were OK and not that he was surely headed down
the same pathetic road of his mother and sister before him...
Dennis P. Harris - 17 Feb 2005 11:26 GMT
> The
> sad truth is that there is probably nothing that can be done other than
> to finally chance on some combination of drugs that makes the person
> dully compliant...  and which makes the caregiver feel like they are
> doing "something" positive..  

Well, just ask you mother, who is the one who has to put up with
the behavior, if she can cope with an agitated person with
delusions all the time.  Are you ready to step in and take care
of him?  Or would you rather that he be institutionalized when
she simply can no longer cope?

The right drug at the right dosage will probably help a lot to
stop the delusions and agitation without making him "dully
compliant" if she's lucky.  It may take several tries to find the
right drug and dosage, but I suspect that she feels that anything
but the status quo is an improvment.  Until you are in her shoes,
you should respect the decision made by her and your father's
doctor.

Face it, his brain is damaged and it *will* get worse, not
better.  Most patients are better off *not* being agitated.  They
have enough to deal with without agitation and hallucinations.
Dennis P. Harris - 17 Feb 2005 11:33 GMT
> Our experience after all this is the
> feeling not of regret that we didn't involve the medical establishment
> early on (as several posters suggested we should feel) but rather
> positive elation that we didn't (and that our father had several years
> were he thought things were OK and not that he was surely headed down
> the same pathetic road of his mother and sister before him...

I feel sorry for him.  I would *never* want such a paternalistic
"affection" from *my* family, who thankfully have always had to
good sense to be completely frank about everyone's medical
situation.  

I have never understood people who think they are doing a
kindness to someone by not telling them the diagnosis.  My
parents didn't do that to me when I had childhood leukemia;  they
even encouraged my scientific interest in doing my own blood cell
counts.
Anthony Shipley - 17 Feb 2005 11:56 GMT
>Our experience after all this is the
>feeling not of regret that we didn't involve the medical establishment
>early on (as several posters suggested we should feel) but rather
>positive elation that we didn't (and that our father had several years
>were he thought things were OK and not that he was surely headed down
>the same pathetic road of his mother and sister before him...

I'm, currently, in the fortunate position to know what it's like to be my carer
and I have no intention of putting her through all that. It took me 18 months to
get an AD diagnosis--and that was a relief after being endlessly diagnosed as
depressive.

Despite the negative symptoms, I even have a glimmer of hope that some medical
breakthrough might come in time -- but am not hanging anything on that.

My only need these days, is some dignity as I approach whatever the future
brings.

Regards to you all. My apologies to anybody who suffered from my vigorous
counter-attack. Despite recent postings, I'm very happy to be here. a.s.a. is
very helpful - even if I'm the only "needer".

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Gwen Love - 17 Feb 2005 18:48 GMT
Anthony, I'm glad you're here.  Discussions like we have had may not help
anyone who is posting, but there may be a lurker that it will help.  It's
good to have someone on your side of the fence posting.
Gwen

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Stephen - 18 Feb 2005 00:55 GMT
>Regards to you all. My apologies to anybody who suffered from my vigorous
>counter-attack. Despite recent postings, I'm very happy to be here. a.s.a. is
>very helpful - even if I'm the only "needer".

Anthony, thanks for being here. It's interesting to read about the disease from
the point of view of the patient. I only know the disease from the point of view
of the caregiver. I can observe and participate in what my mom is experiencing,
but she cannot articulate what it is, particularly since she has denied having a
problem from the earliest symptoms.
-steve
Anthony Shipley - 18 Feb 2005 02:20 GMT
>Anthony, thanks for being here. It's interesting to read about the disease from
>the point of view of the patient. I only know the disease from the point of view
>of the caregiver. I can observe and participate in what my mom is experiencing,
>but she cannot articulate what it is, particularly since she has denied having a
>problem from the earliest symptoms.

There are some horrible effects, even for as early as I am.

You become entirely obsessive, very self-centered. Forgetting all the time,
prevents you doing almost everything, you can't get employment - in my case,
editing - even if you're capable of doing the work. It can be very lonely, the
side effects of Aricept, for me at least, are horrible--if I hadn't tried to
take them at night, I wouldn't be taking them now--even so, every now and then,
the nausea still comes through.

It doesn't just affect you--as most of you are aware, the patient is impatient,
insensitive, self-centered and a whole lot of other things.

The sleepiness I can cope with, the incessant false deja vu makes you lose your
sense of self.

Every now and then, you realise--brutally--how insensitive you are, how
ungrateful and, worst of all, how you hurt your loved ones albeit
unintentionally.

I've always realised that the carer is the greatest sufferer -- but others also
get burnt in the bushfire that is in your brain. "Sorry" becomes a meaningless
patois. You know you are mad, yet strive for some meaning for life. That
striving becomes an obsession as you struggle against the everyday frustrations
of life. No worse than bringing up a child but, in your hazy view of life, it's
only _you_ that is in focus.

You'd like to commit suicide now--but you don't know if that isn't just selfish.

A.D. should be called S.D. -- selfish Disease.

And yet, at other times, you realise you're disabled. You phone the radio
station and, because you're a bit slow, or stumble for the right word, you get
rudely cut off.

I'm sorry I'm being so sorry  for myself. It's a lovely day out there.

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Glenfiddich - 17 Feb 2005 14:06 GMT
>David here... (the original poster)  This topic got sidelined and
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>dully compliant...  and which makes the caregiver feel like they are
>doing "something" positive..  

Medicating to control the faulty workings of his damaged brain that
upset him is *not* "making him dully compliant".
It's actually making his life - as HE experiences it - a little bit
less hellish.

Medication is all we have - there is no surgery for AD (nor most of
the other dementias).   Of course, we must ensure a healthy diet as
well, but that should be a given.

When my wife's AD problems got too bad, we used medication.
At first it did make her a zombie - but a contented one.
We were able to find a reduced dosage that stopped the wilder swings
and delusions but left her able to visibly enjoy things like her
favorite TV programs.   We also changed medications when her symptoms
changed.

I firmly believe the medication was good FOR HER - the fact that she
was 'compliant', easier to handle (she stopped hitting me) was just
a nice bonus for me.
Stephen - 18 Feb 2005 00:58 GMT
>I firmly believe the medication was good FOR HER - the fact that she
>was 'compliant', easier to handle (she stopped hitting me) was just
>a nice bonus for me.

This is so true. I was at my wit's end with my mom late last year. Her doctor
referred her to a psychiatrist who immediately adjusted her medications to
include Risperdal and it has been a blessing for her and those around her. She
is still active at this stage, but is more compliant and less prone to outbursts
and serious obsessions about being a prisoner.
-steve
Evelyn Ruut - 18 Feb 2005 01:48 GMT
>>I firmly believe the medication was good FOR HER - the fact that she
>>was 'compliant', easier to handle (she stopped hitting me) was just
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> -steve

That was our experience also.   My mother in law was not quite what you
would call "combative" though she had some times when she was more than a
bit difficult.   The biggest problem we had was with delusions that were
very upsetting and compelling to her.   Risperdol calmed that down and made
her more "normal" in her day to day life.

As time went on and the disease began to take a stronger toll, the dosage
was reduced and as of the last year she has been off it altogether without
any problems.   But there was a time when it was a godsend to us.
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Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 17 Feb 2005 17:44 GMT
David, I know you are angry, but I think you are aiming the gun at the
wrong place. Its not the doctors, its not the drugs, its the disease.

The deal with Alzheimer's is that it gets worse. No matter how bad/sad
you think things are, they get worse. You take it one day at a time,
but it gets worse, and you can't change that.

No one can fix the brain damage. Eventually, drugs or no drugs, he
won't be upset or depressed or having nightmares because he won't be
capable of that anymore. The brain damage causes emotional and
behavioural symptoms that are completely miserable for the person
experiencing them, and equally upsetting and miserable for the
caregiver to cope with. They aren't a sign of hope the person is in
there fighting the disease. They are a sign of a poor injured brain in
a spin beyond the help offered by loving gestures and comforts, or
sensible explanations. If he was in physical pain, would you be putting
down pain killers? The newer drugs don't cause zombification.
Anti-psychotics, antidepressants will change how your father feels and
his resultant behaviours, and are nothing like old style
tranquillizers.

If he's angry, agitated, up all night, or heaven forbid, acting out his
frustration physically, your mother will be at the end of her rope in
short order. Its not about turning him into a good little boy - its
about lessening very real distress and making the journey more
comfortable.

I'm thinking you should be doing the nightshift a few dozen times
before you express contempt for medications that reduce nighttime
distress.

Mary G.
Dennis P. Harris - 18 Feb 2005 03:08 GMT
> I'm thinking you should be doing the nightshift a few dozen times
> before you express contempt for medications that reduce nighttime
> distress.
>  
VERY well put!
dpf@afn.org - 18 Feb 2005 10:40 GMT
Dennis
I just want to clear one thing up...  It seems that I perhaps have
given the impression that I (the son) am thinking differently from my
mother on this issue..  That is not the case,..  (I am simply the one
writing to this group for the family)...  My father was started on
these drugs two months ago..  His decline has been precipitous since
then...  the latest manifestation has been truly terrifying
nightmares..  These symptoms were not there before the drugs..  How can
we (all of us in the family) not be suspicious that it is somehow
related to the drugs...  David
Evelyn Ruut - 18 Feb 2005 12:02 GMT
> Dennis
> I just want to clear one thing up...  It seems that I perhaps have
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> related to the drugs...  David

You need to check the effects of all the drugs with the doctor, and to make
sure of the known side effects.   It could be that he has taken a sudden
decline (not unusual with alzheimers), or it could be that he has a
different type of dementia (I have heard of), in which certain drugs
actually increase the problems rather than help.   There are a lot of
different kinds of dementias and not all the same treatment works for all of
them.   If I were you I would try to get some more clear diagnostics in
place so you know exactly what kind of a problem exists.   If I recall
correctly, I believe it is Lewy Body dementia that manifests differently and
some of the medications react differently.   You need to get more
information.

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Tumbleweed - 18 Feb 2005 18:01 GMT
> Dennis
> I just want to clear one thing up...  It seems that I perhaps have
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> we (all of us in the family) not be suspicious that it is somehow
> related to the drugs...  David

I don't know how you can not be suspicious, other than to say that;

1) Az is a disease characterised by sudden declines (so thsi decline is
entirely consistent with Az), and
2) I don't recall seeing here any reports from anyone that the drugs used
caused a decline.

I've certainly seen it reported that they have had adverse side-effects, or
that they were ineffective, but not that they caused a decline. It could be
that the nightmares are indeed caused by one of the drugs, but again
delusions are common in Az. Also, the drugs you have mentioned aren't
particularly effective for slowing down Az AFAIK, for that, the two most
commonly used are aricept and namenda (aka memantine).

So my entirely amateur diagnosis is that its a normal decline, as part of
the standard course of the disease, and that the drugs aren't helping slow
it. If I were you I'd ask why neither aricept nor namenda are being
prescribed.

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Dennis P. Harris - 19 Feb 2005 03:50 GMT
> I just want to clear one thing up...  It seems that I perhaps have
> given the impression that I (the son) am thinking differently from my
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> we (all of us in the family) not be suspicious that it is somehow
> related to the drugs...  

well, it might well be.  some AD patients who started on aricept
& namenda in later stages, after the patient had already
declined, have noted an increase in agitation.  

it has been suggested that giving folks these drugs after a
decline only partially restores the lost neural pathways.
symptoms included increases in confusion & agitation when the
patient had been calm, mostly because they were so zoned out &
unaware of their surroundings.  when their abilities partially
returned they became upset.

that might be what's happening.  if you had started him on
aricept & namenda as soon as his deficiencies began to be
apparent the results might be quite different.

if the doc involved is not a specialist in dementias, she/he may
not have been aware that these kinds of declines can have many
causes which are treatable, or that late treatment may not be
helpful.

sudden declines are more often related to a decline in physical
health, especially since AD patients may not be able to express
themselves well enough to let you know that they are in pain.
urinary tract infections are a very common cause of cognitive
decline, along with respiratory infections.  as AD patients begin
to lose some motor control, they have trouble swallowing and can
aspirate food and liquids into the lungs, which can lead to a
condition called aspiration pneumonia.
dpf@afn.org - 19 Feb 2005 11:15 GMT
Thanks to every one of you who responded with your thoughts...  It has
been greatly appreciated.. and gave us much to think about...  David
Tumbleweed - 17 Feb 2005 21:50 GMT
> David here... (the original poster)  This topic got sidelined and
> sparked an inferno..  In some ways quite an interesting and appropriate
> one..  in other ways a very frustrating one..  The long and the short
> of it is that none of us are in each other's shoes so can't really make
> these sweeping judgements..  and should perhaps refrain from doing so
> (although to relate their experiences can indeed be very helpful)...

You may regard them as judgements, but also they are guidance to future
readers who hopefully wont delay diagnosis because they want to 'shield
someone' from a disease but in doing so, inadvertently help its progression.

>     My point originally was essentially whether I should  trust the
> medical extablishment and current science with what they currently have
> to offer..  The bottom line is that all they have to offer is drugs...#

What did you expect? The tooth fairy? A miracle?  Unless you aheva time
machine you'll ahve to deal with what we have now. I'm presuming you wouldnt
turn your nose up at cancer treatment on the grounds its not 100% effective?
That is drugs by the way.

> As an example our father went to the doctor yesterday and my mother
> brought up the fact that he has been having vivid and terrifying
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> dully compliant...  and which makes the caregiver feel like they are
> doing "something" positive..

Again, what did you expect? ....ah, I get it it, a miracle.  As Dennis
cogently stated, before complaining about making people 'dully compliant'
try caring for your father 24 hours a day for weeks on end with no let up,
(as I presume your mother is doing) before you complain. Equally, I wonder
if your father enjoys the hallucinations, nighmares and so forth that you
seem to be condemming him to by complaining about the drugs?

>  Our experience after all this is the
> feeling not of regret that we didn't involve the medical establishment
> early on (as several posters suggested we should feel) but rather
> positive elation that we didn't (and that our father had several years
> were he thought things were OK and not that he was surely headed down
> the same pathetic road of his mother and sister before him...

With early treatment chances are your father would have had several years
where *was* ok, rather than just *felt* OK. With early treatment your mother
would have had those years with him as well, rather than an early entry into
the club no one wants to join(being here).

FWIW, my father had relatively early treatment, was told he had Az, but
always forgot within a short time,and it was never a concern to him because
of that (you cant be concerned by something you arent aware of).
But he had 3 or 4 years extra due to Aricept (I believe this because the one
week he stopped taking it, the decline was close to catastrophic, and he
pretty much recovered (back onto the slippery slope of decline of course)
when he restarted.

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Anthony Shipley - 17 Feb 2005 21:54 GMT
>But he had 3 or 4 years extra due to Aricept (I believe this because the one
>week he stopped taking it, the decline was close to catastrophic, and he
>pretty much recovered (back onto the slippery slope of decline of course)
>when he restarted.
How was that decline manifested; that is, what were the changes you noticed?

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Tumbleweed - 17 Feb 2005 22:20 GMT
>>But he had 3 or 4 years extra due to Aricept (I believe this because the
>>one
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> How was that decline manifested; that is, what were the changes you
> noticed?

Hi Anthony,

his memory went from being several minutes (so you could ask him to do
something and he would, or he would remember to look at the notes we wrote
him), down to a few seconds..no more than 5 or maybe 10 seconds.
He also became extremely reluctant to go anywhere (I believe this is common)
including the day care centre.
Also he wouldnt leave my mother even for a few seconds. For example, if she
went up the stairs to 'powder her nose' he would follow, if she left the
house for more than 1 minute he would wander up the road asking people if
they had seen her, or when she locked the door, call out for people to call
the police as he was trapped in the house.
He went from the former state to the latter in a week when the aricept was
stopped (the doctor thought it wasnt working any more) and back to the
former in a few days when it was restarted.

Later he was moved onto memantine instead of aricept (in retrospect a big
mistake he should have been on both, please dont do that) and the decline
accelerated to the point he forgot who his wife was, believing that she was
his sister and telling people that his wife had died.

He is currently in a home, where he appears very contented, he seems to have
only a 5 second memory span now, but is very cheerful and personable (and
tells you the same thing every 30 seconds, for him its the first time he's
told you that, obviously). He also has no idea who anyone is, though he does
seem to recognise people he knows such as me (but he doesnt know who I am
and there is no point telling him)

It was a major trauma getting him in the home, because of course he believed
there was nothing at all wrong with him and could look after himself, but
after a few months he seemed to accept it. He had to be moved as it was
impossible for my mother (or indeed any one person) to look after him any
more.

I think most posters here could tell you the same type of sad story, many
could tell you much worse ones, luckily we never had the aggression or
delusions that also seem to be common.

FWIW he had to be stopped from driving even though he was convinced there
was nothing wrong, but he was a danger mainly because his reaction times
were abysmal and he would have to be told every single thing to do :-)
I would urge you to write down somewhere ..."must give up driving when wife
says its no longer a good idea"and then refer to it from time to time:-)

Good luck.

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Anthony Shipley - 17 Feb 2005 22:32 GMT
>I would urge you to write down somewhere ..."must give up driving when wife
>says its no longer a good idea"and then refer to it from time to time:-)

Heh-heh!

When my wife decides I should stop, I won't have any alternative - she's not the
sort to take no for an answer.

I snipped the first part of your post (wish some other would do so too, it's
polite usenet convention to do so) but found it quite..... can't find the right
word at the moment...... but it doesn't sound all that pleasant.

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Dennis P. Harris - 16 Feb 2005 04:41 GMT
> It's like insisting on delivering your child to the
> classroom door when he/she is 18 years old.

Which any parent with a brain damaged 18 year old would do!
That's was EOAD *is* --- progressive brain damage!

You need to stop being so defensive.
Evelyn Ruut - 16 Feb 2005 12:46 GMT
OK Anthony, I can see that you got all huffy about it.

That means that just like all of our loved ones who suffer from the same
disease, you are incapable of recognizing your own level of impairment, or
taking advice, no matter how well meant.   It absolutely IS characteristic
of alzheimers to be that way.

Your wife will probably go through the same things we have all gone through,
in her patient and kind attempts to help you with anything, because you will
not realize your own limitations.

I thought that because you were early onset, that you might be different.

I am sorry I offended you, and I assure you that was absolutely not my
intention.  I won't be replying to you again, but I wish you well.

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Anthony Shipley - 17 Feb 2005 01:34 GMT
>That means that just like all of our loved ones who suffer from the same
>disease, you are incapable of recognizing your own level of impairment, or
>taking advice, no matter how well meant.   It absolutely IS characteristic
>of alzheimers to be that way.
Not "are incapable" but "will become incapable".

>Your wife will probably go through the same things we have all gone through,
>in her patient and kind attempts to help you with anything, because you will
>not realize your own limitations.
Quite strange that. She agrees with everything I've said. We have no
disagreements about what has been spoken of here - except my frustration at
being treated with undue caution.
>I thought that because you were early onset, that you might be different.
Yes, I'll die much earlier.

>I am sorry I offended you, and I assure you that was absolutely not my
>intention.  I won't be replying to you again, but I wish you well.
Shocked may be better than 'offended'. I expected support here, not prejudice -
and I mean that in the literal sense.

By all means, don't reply again; I respect others' choices.

Finally, please forgive my introduction of such devicive argument into this
group.

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Anthony Shipley - 16 Feb 2005 04:24 GMT
>The difficult thing about alzheimers is that nobody knows from one minute to
>the next exactly WHAT you are capable of dealing with and what you are not.

I'm very pleased to find we, at least, agree that you don't know what  I'm
capable of dealing and what not.

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Anthony Shipley - 16 Feb 2005 04:33 GMT
Shoud have been a "with" after "dealing"; sorry.
>capable of dealing and what not.

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Anthony Shipley - 17 Feb 2005 01:11 GMT
>1. when driving, being given directions at every corner or sign post. I do make
>a few mistakes, but that doesn't necessitate treating me like I'm wholly
>incapacitated.
This was entirely about getting gratuitous "turn left next corner" remarks. My
mistakes, above, refer to turning into the wrong street. The only outcome is
that it takes a bit longer to arrive at the destination. I have never ever,
incorrectly turned into a one-way street.

>2. everybody knowing what's better for me. What's the point of being stark
>raving mad if you can't a few silly things  lest it upset those who are sane.
Point 2,  above, was _not_ related to driving. The "everybody knows better than
me" remark was referring to my right to write a letter to a newspaper - even if
it embarrasses me or my loved ones.

You sound like a bunch of fascists! Alzheimer's does not entirely disenfranchise
me. You'd be better addressing the ownership of guns in your country rather than
something on the other side of the world where the details are not available to
you.

I assure you that my wife will make sure I don't drive when my skills are
affected.

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Adelle - 17 Feb 2005 16:05 GMT
>>1. when driving, being given directions at every corner or sign post. I do
>>make
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> I assure you that my wife will make sure I don't drive when my skills are
> affected.

Anthony,

My dad had vascular problems, not dementia. We didn't know he was having
TIA's. And they didn't affect major areas of the brain (learned on later PET
scan). His judgment seemed unimpaired. Never an issue.

Dad drove a fairly familiar route from his home in NYC to our home in
Massachusetts to bring some furniture they wanted to get rid of. It's a four
hour drive. He made it up here just fine. He insisted on turning around and
going straight home. It took him 11 hours to go back. He got lost. No
detours re-routed him. He just got confused. So yes, it took him longer to
get where he was going. That was the only symptom at the time. But in
retrospect, it was a very telling one.

Within a year, he seemed to be taking more risks behind the wheel - turning
with oncoming traffic a little too close for comfort, lane changes with
tight clearance. We started finding more tiny nicks and dents in his car,
showing he wasn't judging distance well while parking. He had a couple of
minor single car accidents, with only minor injuries to himself. Still he
insisted on driving.

They moved to Denver about a year later. Four months after, we visited with
our baby and my dad picked us up. It was the scariest ride I ever had. Turns
from wrong lanes, with insufficient clearance, inability to stay in lane,
inability to anticipate turns or recognize landmarks, sometimes never even
noticing when we cut off other cars. After hugging my mom when we got to the
apt, I said we were never again taking the baby in the car with dad
driving - ever. Yet he still continued to drive and my mom couldn't/wouldn't
stop him. A few months later and at least one accident later, the engine
seized (the second time ) and mom refused to get it repaired. That was the
end of dad's driving.

We don't mean to seem paternalistic. We just have different life experience
in this matter than you do. And experience has shown that it is the
extremely rare person, with dementia or not, who can recognize when it is
time to stop driving, and secondly, act on that recognition. It takes
self-awareness, self-acceptance, and humility to give up one's independence.
It is hard to become that dependent. And impairment (not total lack) of
self-awareness is part of AD.

Hopefully, you'll be one of those rare ones. We all like to think we are
exceptional. But sometimes reality humbles us.

Adelle
Gwen Love - 15 Feb 2005 21:41 GMT
My husband was never told that he had Alzheimers, but he knew he had
problems with his memory and his inability to do things he could previously
do well.  Even if I had told him what he had, he would not have understood
it because he was never interested in medical stuff and it would have just
gone over his head.  Your father could be told he had memory problems but
not that he had AD if you are so concerned about him knowing the diagnosis.
However, I would want to know if it were me so I could do things that needed
to be done before my death.
Gwen

> I was the original poster of this topic and feel somewhat defensive
> about the replies of a couple posters who indicated that we didn't do
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> abilities"..  We couldn't help but wonder whether these drugs might be
> actually making things worse..