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Sparky - 12 Nov 2004 07:57 GMT

I know no one really knows me in this group as I have not posted very
much. I still feel like a newbie. I guess I graduated tonight. Mom
passed out as I was putting her to bed. I called 911, and the
paramedics came to help her. I found out at the hospital that her heart
stopped as they put her into the ambulance. She never recovered.

I appreciate the time spent lurking here as I got ideas from you guys
on how best to help Mom when things got difficult. Thanks and keep up
the good work for others. I no longer belong to the club no one wants
to join.

Sparky (Mark)

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Glenfiddich - 12 Nov 2004 10:24 GMT

>I know no one really knows me in this group as I have not posted very
>much. I still feel like a newbie. I guess I graduated tonight. Mom
>passed out as I was putting her to bed. I called 911, and the
>paramedics came to help her. I found out at the hospital that her heart
>stopped as they put her into the ambulance. She never recovered.

I'm so sorry.
Like all of us, you've had time to get used to the idea - but that
still doesn't make it easy.

>I appreciate the time spent lurking here as I got ideas from you guys
>on how best to help Mom when things got difficult. Thanks and keep up
>the good work for others. I no longer belong to the club no one wants
>to join.

You're still welcome any time - you got a free life membership.

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Evelyn Ruut - 12 Nov 2004 12:44 GMT

>I know no one really knows me in this group as I have not posted very
> much. I still feel like a newbie. I guess I graduated tonight. Mom
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> Sparky (Mark)

Dear Mark,

So sorry for your loss. May your best memories give you comfort.

As Glenfiddich mentions, we have all had the time to get used to the idea of
our loved one passing while they have been ill with this damned disease, but
it still hurts when they pass over.

If you were helped by reading here, pay it back by returning and helping
another person who is in the same spot whenever you feel inclined to do so.
You will be welcomed.

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Regards,
Evelyn

(to reply to me personally, remove 'sox")

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Camille - 12 Nov 2004 12:59 GMT

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Camille

>I know no one really knows me in this group as I have not posted very
> much. I still feel like a newbie. I guess I graduated tonight. Mom
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> Sparky (Mark)

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Robert E. Lewis - 12 Nov 2004 14:38 GMT

My condolences, Mark.

Everyone says having time to get used to the idea of the passing of a loved
one, especially a loved one we provided care for, helps, but I have to admit
I have nightmares of that day coming with my father, flashbacks to almost
exactly what you describe happening with an aunt who lived with us when I
was a kid.

I hope you find some comfort in knowing her ordeal is over, and in knowing
you did what you could.

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Robert

> I know no one really knows me in this group as I have not posted very
> much. I still feel like a newbie. I guess I graduated tonight. Mom
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> Sparky (Mark)

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Gwen Love - 12 Nov 2004 16:55 GMT

Sparky, you have my sympathy and prayers.
Gwen

> I know no one really knows me in this group as I have not posted very
> much. I still feel like a newbie. I guess I graduated tonight. Mom
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>
> Sparky (Mark)

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Dennis P. Harris - 13 Nov 2004 06:27 GMT

> I no longer belong to the club no one wants
> to join.

ah, sparky you now have a life membership! my sympathies. i
lost my mother just about 2 months ago, and i know that it's not
easy, but i remember that she's no longer suffering *or*
confused.

remember the good times, and take sometime now for yourself.

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Sparky - 14 Nov 2004 05:22 GMT

Thanks for all the kind comments and especially the prayers of everyone
who has replied. I still find myself drawn back to this group. Having
gone through it, my heart goes out to anyone who is or has had to take
care of someone with dementia. I may continue to be a lurker for some
time. And since you say I have lifetime membership, maybe I may even
post in the future after everything settles down. Thanks again for
everything.

--
Sparky (Mark)

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donnah - 13 Nov 2004 14:39 GMT

(((Mark)))
you are in my heart and prayers
donnah

>I know no one really knows me in this group as I have not posted very
> much. I still feel like a newbie. I guess I graduated tonight. Mom
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> Sparky (Mark)

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Grandma B - 14 Nov 2004 04:04 GMT

Oh Sparky I am so sorry...sometimes I have to admit I want it all over
but then I read these kinds of posts and I just dont know whats
worse......<tears>
((((mark)))) BTW my brothers name was Mark :)....peace

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