ok, I'm feeling panicky right now...
my car is in the shop and I can't get down to the house again today.
Mum was ok with it yesterday and she said she did all right with
making their lunches, and hopefully that is true. Of course that may
mean that she and Dad had some of those little packs of peanut butter
crackers--which I know won't hurt them once in awhile.
The mechanic still can't find out what is wrong with the car so I
can't get down again today, and Mum sounded very upset when I called
her...so now I am anxious, too. (breathe in, breath out). And I had to
cancel her appt to have her vascular studies done this afternoon.
Yesterday I called a taxi and they never showed up, and when I called
today I was told they could not guarantee a time (!)...I thought it
could be set up with enough notice so I could get there, but
apparently not with the three companies I called. Well, this is
showing me that I have to set up another backup as far as
transportation goes.
Nick works as a youth counselor at a group home for troubled youth and
is working 12-15 hours a day because they are short handed, and so he
can't take the time off. I can't drive his old Blazer either--can't
adjust the seat for me to drive it safely.
My sister is using Dad's car (there are four of them but they only
have three cars) with the stipulation that it's available if something
like this happened...fine in theory, but I can't get ahold of her. She
and her husband went to Florida and were supposed to be back last
night. There was no answer at her home, work, or cell phone numbers...
Drat (in place of another four letter word I almost used!)...
ok, I have to roll with the punches and regroup...bright side is that
Nick is off tomorrow as far as he knows--sometimes he has to go to
court about one of the kids, but doesn't find out until the staff
meeting which is today. So I'll keep my fingers crossed...
I am sorry for the length of this post! And thank you for letting me
whine.
donnah

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Boydette - 27 Oct 2004 19:41 GMT
Its okay vent away...I have anxiety disorder so I know what you are
going thru....let one little thing go wrong and I panic.....one thing I
have learned to do is like you said deep breaths and keep repeating to
yourself "It will be okay It will be okay"...works for me....good luck
and I hope you get your car fixed soon....vehicle problems are a
pain.....and expensive
donnah - 27 Oct 2004 20:33 GMT
LOL...thanks, Boydette! When you said vehicle problems are a pain and
expensive, you zeroed in on the biggest source of my anxiety about
it...sounds crass, but money is really tight and this did not happen
at a good time (as if there is ever a good time?!)
And Mum sounded ok when I talked to her a bit ago...she said she would
be very happy to see me again, which will be a nice change...lol
maybe, in some strange way, this will help her be less obstinate about
my being there--even if that feeling is just for a little while <s>
donnah
> Its okay vent away...I have anxiety disorder so I know what you are
> going thru....let one little thing go wrong and I panic.....one
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> and I hope you get your car fixed soon....vehicle problems are a
> pain.....and expensive
Boydette - 27 Oct 2004 19:43 GMT
Sorry every one I keep forgetting to say who I am addressing...that last
post was to donnah....oh which reminds me donnah one more thing...your
sis sounds like mine...LOL
donnah - 27 Oct 2004 20:35 GMT
Boydette,LOL...ya want to trade for a week and see if we can change
them?
donnah
> Sorry every one I keep forgetting to say who I am addressing...that
> last
> post was to donnah....oh which reminds me donnah one more
> thing...your
> sis sounds like mine...LOL
Gwen Love - 27 Oct 2004 20:24 GMT
Donnah, sorry about this additional problem.
Gwen
> ok, I'm feeling panicky right now...
> my car is in the shop and I can't get down to the house again today.
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> whine.
> donnah
Mary Gordon - 27 Oct 2004 20:56 GMT
Donnah, I know you know this, but I really think its time to
contemplate other living arrangements for them, or hiring someone to
come in daily.
The mantra you need to get into your head may be depressing, but its
true, and "getting" it will save you long term grief - This is as good
as this situation is going to get. It isn't going to get better, its
going to get worse - so start to plan for that idea or you'll be
endlessly stressed out by new twists and turns as things deteriorate
and they need more and more help.
Mary G.
donnah - 29 Oct 2004 14:12 GMT
Mary, thank you for your honesty...
I'm sorry it took me so long to respond--I am getting very few
messages through my server for some reason. My ISP says it's not their
fault, but I use the German news reader.
Any way, I know it's time for them to find live-in help or get them
into some type of facility...my Dad is determined to "die" in his own
bed, which is part of the reason we got hospice involved for him.
'Course the only help he will take is for nursing care for his pain,
and, at times, he will not even take the offered shot. He wanted me to
handle that, but I have been out of nursing for many years. And it was
pointed out to me that there are legal things to consider if he died
after my giving him something...
They have agreed to have someone come in to help with housework, etc..
And, to be honest, it is meant as a way of quietly getting both of
them used to the idea of another person "doing" for them.
It will be easier to know what way to go when Mum's test results are
back, too. I hope it will firm things up for us...
Mum has now decided that if the hospice chaplain is not of her faith
then she will be courteous, but she won't really talk and listen. This
isn't a new thing...but, in all fairness, she has always been this
way! My son is an ordained minister of another denomination and she
has always had difficulty accepting it. Again, it's part of her
reality that somehow this makes a difference and he really isn't a
minister. It took my son some time to understand--he lives out of town
and does not see them regularly. He visited several days ago and was
saddened by their decline. But it also showed him what was going on...
I'm sorry for the length of my reply.
donnah
> Donnah, I know you know this, but I really think its time to
> contemplate other living arrangements for them, or hiring someone to
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>
> Mary G.