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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Alzheimer's / September 2004Loss of my dog
Hi everyone I don't post much lately, because Mum is settled and the home have adapted so well to her getting up so late and her sherry drinking. She is in the finest of health and I am so grateful that I made the (terribly difficult) decision to put her into residential care. Unfortunately I lost my beloved 12 year old dog yesterday, she had Cushings Disease but collapsed and had to be put to sleep. I am devastated and am in a state of numbness. I have another Westie, Molly, and although they didn't get on too well Molly is devastated. I took Moll to see Mum (who loved both dogs) but she constantly asked which dog it was that had died and would we be getting another one. As soon as she finished the sentence she repeated it again. I had to tell her as I took the dogs to visit her regularly. It was so painful as I was already so upset about Lucy. I found it hard to cope with the continual repetition although I am usually fine when it's family members but am still hurting from the loss of my best friend. Barb in UK Barb, I am so sorry. A loving pet is really a joy and becomes a real part of the family. Happy your mother is doing well in the new setting. Gwen > Hi everyone > [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > > Barb in UK > Hi everyone > [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > > Barb in UK Hi Barb, So sorry on the loss of your dog. I can relate, since ours are our "furry children" too. It is so sad they don't live as long as we do. I just don't know what I will do when the time comes for my big baby of a German Shepherd. He is now over ten years old, and weighs 100 pounds, but he is a "mama's boy" and stays by my side no matter where I am or what I am doing. We went to visit Ida today and she is doing well. There is always noise around the main area in the alzheimer unit. It makes visiting difficult. There are various people who are mobile enough to come over asking you for favors while you are trying to visit, and it can be annoying. I guess it is just the nature of the situation. But she has adjusted well, is well liked by the staff, and seems quite comfortable and settled. She doesn't ask to go home anymore and that is a relief too. She still recognizes me and her son of course as well and is always glad to see us. We noticed a problem with her hearing aid. Every time we go there the doggone thing is dead. Either the night nurses don't shut it off overnight when they put it away, or something is wrong with it. Tomorrow we are going to get a bunch of new batteries and bring some every time we visit. I think it probably could use a serious cleaning too. It definitely needs some attention. Even when they are in a nursing home they still need your personal attention and you still need to manage things a bit.  SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > We noticed a problem with her hearing aid. Every time we > go there the doggone thing is dead. Either the night > nurses don't shut it off overnight when they put it away, > or something is wrong with it. Tomorrow we are going to > get a bunch of new batteries and bring some every time we > visit. ======================================== FWIW...when Rosie needs various supplies, we request reimbursement from her account. She is credited $30 per month from SS and sometimes visiting relatives will leave her a few bucks. Also...some of her shoes were sent to the laundry by mistake and they were destroyed...and a pair of eyeglasses were smashed by another resident... we presented the bills for replacements and the NH assumed the liability and reimbursed us in full. SignatureJohn Inzer return e-mail disabled > > We noticed a problem with her hearing aid. Every time we > > go there the doggone thing is dead. Either the night [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > we presented the bills for replacements and the > NH assumed the liability and reimbursed us in full. Thanks for the tip, John. I will look into it. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > Hi everyone > [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > > Barb in UK Sorry about your dog, perhaps best not to tell your mother about him? Just tell her its on a walk or something? Presumably she'll have forgotten all about it next time you see her. Amused by her sherry habit, just how much does she drink??? Hope you are keeping dry in ?devon? SignatureTumbleweed email replies not necessary but to contact use; tumbleweednews at hotmail dot com > Hi everyone > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > Unfortunately I lost my beloved 12 year old dog yesterday, she had Cushings > Disease but collapsed and had to be put to sleep... I am very sorry for your loss, Barb; pets are such a source of comforting stability in the frustrations of life. I'm glad your mother and the home have adjusted so well to one another. SignatureRobert > > Hi everyone > > [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > I'm glad your mother and the home have adjusted so well to one another. Thanks all of you for your kind thoughts. I am not going to take the dog over any more after yesterday as she was even worse than the time before so its probably not a good thing. Tumbleweed, my Mum drinks a litre of sherry every night and has done for years. I'm glad they let her have it at the home as it would be a major problem if they didn't. When she was with us it did cause a problem because she would stay downstairs late and then fall over getting upstairs if we had gone to bed earlier and we had many broken nights and trying to get her up the stairs. In the home she drinks it in her room, watching TV and then goes to bed and as there are no stairs involved, it doesn't seem to be causing a problem. It's a lovely day here in sunny Cornwall, but I'm a bit sad as it would have been my dog, Lucy's birthday today so I took Molly to the beach with a friend who has also recently lost one of her dogs and we built a fire and had a BBQ which was nice. I know what you mean, Evelyn about the other patients coming up to you, it happens at Mum's home too. Mum still won't use her hearing aid but is deafer than ever. I'm glad Ida is settled and not asking to come home any more, it's a relief isn't it? I know it is for me. Barb in UK > I know what you mean, Evelyn about the other patients coming up to you, it > happens at Mum's home too. Mum still won't use her hearing aid but is > deafer than ever. I'm glad Ida is settled and not asking to come home any > more, it's a relief isn't it? I know it is for me. > > Barb in UK Words cannot express just how much of a relief it is! There are lots of emotions..... I feel bad about her having to be there, but I know it is best for all concerned. What is more I know she would have agreed too, when she was in her full capacity a couple of years ago. She would have been miserable if she knew how hard it was on us, to care for her. In many ways I think she has her dignity intact even more by being in a nursing home, since she was always so independent and never wanted to put anyone to any trouble. Now when we see her we hug her and she appreciates seeing us. SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") > Words cannot express just how much of a relief it is! > There are lots of emotions..... I feel bad about her having to be there, but [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > anyone to any trouble. Now when we see her we hug her and she appreciates > seeing us. Thats exactly how I feel too, Evelyn. Mum's dignity is greater now than when I had to do everything and she always used to say that she never wanted to be a burden to anyone. She is treated with respect at the home and they laugh and joke with her and she responds very well, but as the staff say to me, they can go home at the end of their shift. A year ago I was making myself ill with worry and it is such a relief to be able to go out whenever I want without worrying about her welfare. Of course I still feel bad, but I do know it was the right thing to do and it doesn't mean I love her any less, in fact the opposite I think. I hope my kids care about me when I'm old and put me somewhere nice! Barb in UK > > Words cannot express just how much of a relief it is! > > There are lots of emotions..... I feel bad about her having to be there, [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > > Barb in UK I can relate to that feeling very well, Barb. I hope my kids never have to go through it either, and if they do that they also put me somewhere nice! SignatureRegards, Evelyn (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox") |
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